Do the Watchdog and Possum pathway only activate in protection mode? Are they always protective?

NO! It is possible to have safe and connected Watchdog energy and safe and connected Possum energy!

Why does this distinction matter?

In this episode, you’ll learn

• What safe and connected watchdog energy feels like
• What safe and connected possum energy feels like
• Why it’s important to remember we aren’t trying to get rid of the watchdog or the possum- we are trying to help them rest and only work hard when they need to

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Trauma Behavior? Or Just Acting Up? {EP 30}
• Focus On The Nervous System To Change Behavior {Ep 84}

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/alwaysprotective

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Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

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Reframing Resistance: Supporting Parents & Caregivers through the lens of Relational Neuroscience
3-hour virtual workshop for professionals
June 25, 10-1pm eastern
Everyone receives the recording
https://RobynGobbel.com/ReframingResistance

I'll be keynoting the Families Rising (formerly NACAC!) VIRTUAL conference this summer!

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What does my child need for their success to be inevitable?

If I wanted to paint the top of a 20 foot wall, I’d rent some scaffolding. Scaffolding makes the floor higher and would get me as close to the top of the wall as I needed.

The scaffolding would help make my success inevitable. It’s not the only thing I need to be successful (paint would come in handy!), but it’s a really important piece.

In parenting, scaffolding is the support that we put in place that allows our children to be successful. Then, slowly, thoughtful, and sequentially, we decrease the amount of external support needed as our children develop that capacity to be successful on their own.

Read a summary of this episode and access the full show notes at: RobynGobbel.com/Scaffolding

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Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

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Reframing Resistance: Supporting Parents & Caregivers through the lens of Relational Neuroscience
3-hour virtual workshop for professionals
June 25, 10-1pm eastern
Everyone receives the recording
https://RobynGobbel.com/ReframingResistance

I'll be keynoting the Families Rising (formerly NACAC!) VIRTUAL conference this summer!

All the details are here: RobynGobbel.com/FamiliesRising

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• How to help create ‘good parent messages’ for children who feel unloved and unwanted
• Sitting with two conflicting feelings at once
• The benefits of falling in love with yourself

• Children’s Mental Wellness Symposium- Las Vegas NV
  • September 26 - 29, 2024
  • Details and registration here: https://lasvegasplaytherapy.com/
• Good Morning, I Love You by Dr. Shauna Shapiro

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Reframing Resistance: Supporting Parents & Caregivers through the lens of Relational Neuroscience
3-hour virtual workshop for professionals
June 25, 10-1pm eastern
Everyone receives the recording
https://RobynGobbel.com/ReframingResistance

I'll be keynoting the Families Rising (formerly NACAC!) VIRTUAL conference this summer!

All the details are here: RobynGobbel.com/FamiliesRising

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Overwhelmed and unsure where to start? Check out the START HERE podcast- I put it together just to answer the question "Where do I start?" Get your invitation at RobynGobbel.com/StartHere

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Self-regulation is a crucial developmental milestone and I’m thrilled that we are turning our eyes toward self-regulation instead of staying focused on behavior modification through rewards and consequences. At the same time, we must remember that self-regulation is developed through repeated and regular experiences of co-regulation with an attuned, regulated, present caregiver. If children are struggling to use their self-regulation skills, it’s quite possible that they aren’t regulated enough to access those skills. They are getting dysregulated too quickly and need co-regulation before they can be expected to use skills on their own. It is these experiences of coregulation that build the neural circuity for what is ultimately labeled self-regulation...so you don’t need to worry that the continued offering of co-regulation will impede the development of self-regulation- it’s exactly the opposite!!!

Humans never outgrow their need for co-regulation! We all need connection and co-regulation! Which is exactly why I've created The Club- a virtual community for parents of kids impacted by trauma!

CLICK HERE to read about The Club and join the waitlist for the next time we welcome new members!


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Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

:::
Reframing Resistance: Supporting Parents & Caregivers through the lens of Relational Neuroscience
3-hour virtual workshop for professionals
June 25, 10-1pm eastern
Everyone receives the recording
https://RobynGobbel.com/ReframingResistance

I'll be keynoting the Families Rising (formerly NACAC!) VIRTUAL conference this summer!

All the details are here: RobynGobbel.com/FamiliesRising

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Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!

Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!

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What’s the connected response to {insert difficult behavior here}??

How do I respond to {insert difficult behavior here} in a connected way???

I get some version of this question almost every day. So, let’s answer it here on the podcast!

In this episode, you’ll learn

• What most parents are really asking when they ask ‘what’s the connected response’?
• What a connected response really is
• How to trust your own intuition to answer that question

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Felt Safety (Inside) - Part 1 {EP 161}
• Felt Safety (Outside) - Part 2 {EP 162}
• Felt Safety (Between) - Part 3 {EP163}
• What Does Co-Regulation Really Look Like? {EP 81}
• Boundaries With Connection Part 1 of 3 {EP 111}
• Building The Tower Of Self-Regulation {EP 9}
• Stealing {EP 138}

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/connectedresponse

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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

:::
Reframing Resistance: Supporting Parents & Caregivers through the lens of Relational Neuroscience
3-hour virtual workshop for professionals
June 25, 10-1pm eastern
Everyone receives the recording
https://RobynGobbel.com/ReframingResistance

I'll be keynoting the Families Rising (formerly NACAC!) VIRTUAL conference this summer!

All the details are here: RobynGobbel.com/FamiliesRising

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Overwhelmed and unsure where to start? Check out the START HERE podcast- I put it together just to answer the question "Where do I start?" Get your invitation at RobynGobbel.com/StartHere

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Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!

Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!

Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

It’s normal and common for stress and dysregulation to cause kids to act younger than they really are. This happens to grown-ups too! Simply because it’s normal and common doesn’t mean it’s not very frustrating!

In this episode, you’ll learn

• A neurosequential explanation for regression
• How to use regression as a cue or a clue about the state of your child’s nervous system
• Ways to respond to regressed behavior that may increase regulation, connection, and felt safety

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• A NueroDevelopmental Approach: Right Intervention, Right Time {EP 47}

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/regression

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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

:::
Reframing Resistance: Supporting Parents & Caregivers through the lens of Relational Neuroscience
3-hour virtual workshop for professionals
June 25, 10-1pm eastern
Everyone receives the recording
https://RobynGobbel.com/ReframingResistance

I'll be keynoting the Families Rising (formerly NACAC!) VIRTUAL conference this summer!

All the details are here: RobynGobbel.com/FamiliesRising

:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!

Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!

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I’m sure you often feel like ‘getting your kid regulated’ is a very important goal!

But- is it? Is regulated the goal? And is it possible to even consider these kinds of questions when we are parenting very dysregulated kids with very dangerous behaviors?

In this episode, you’ll learn

• The difference between a moment of being regulated and having a regulated (balanced) nervous system
• How regulation and dysregulation must coexist
• Why thinking about any of this high-level stuff when you have REAL PROBLEMS TO REALLY ADDRESS can be helpful

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• Regulated Does Not Equal Calm https://RobynGobbel.com/lisadion

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/regulatedthegoal

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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

:::
Reframing Resistance: Supporting Parents & Caregivers through the lens of Relational Neuroscience
3-hour virtual workshop for professionals
June 25, 10-1pm eastern
Everyone receives the recording
https://RobynGobbel.com/ReframingResistance

I'll be keynoting the Families Rising (formerly NACAC!) VIRTUAL conference this summer!

All the details are here: RobynGobbel.com/FamiliesRising

:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!

Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!

Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources

Believe it or not, we don’t want to get rid of our kids’ watchdog and possum brains!

We want to help their watchdog and possum brain rest so they aren’t working so hard.

Their watchdog and possum brains are overworked and overactive.

In this episode, you’ll learn

• Why we must remember that everyone has a watchdog and possum brain
• How gratitude and acceptance of the watchdog and possum brain strengthens the owl brain
• We don’t want to get rid of our children’s watchdog and possums brains- we want to help them rest

Resources mentioned in this podcast:

• What Does Vulnerable Nervous System Mean? {EP 122}
• Connection Or Protection??? {EP 7}
• Stress Response System {EP 94}

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/everyone

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Over on my website you can find:
Webinar and eBook on Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior (FREE)
eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
LOTS & LOTS of FREE Resources
Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club
Year-Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With

:::
Reframing Resistance: Supporting Parents & Caregivers through the lens of Relational Neuroscience
3-hour virtual workshop for professionals
June 25, 10-1pm eastern
Everyone receives the recording
https://RobynGobbel.com/ReframingResistance

I'll be keynoting the Families Rising (formerly NACAC!) VIRTUAL conference this summer!

All the details are here: RobynGobbel.com/FamiliesRising

:::::
Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!

Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!

Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources