When was the last time you felt true joy and fulfillment in your life?

For many achievers, this is something that they never experience. Each achievement and accomplishment is followed by another pursuit, always keeping happiness just out of your reach.

The worst part?

This relentless pursuit of success makes finding lasting happiness and fulfillment impossible.

But it’s possible to break free from this toxic cycle. In fact, there are 5 simple ways to help you break free from this cycle that I reveal in this episode.

If you’re constantly feeling like something’s missing in your life no matter how much you achieve, listen to this episode now. Your future self will thank you.

Show Highlights Include:

• How chasing achievements leaves you unhappy and unfulfilled (even if it boosts your self-esteem in the short term) (1:04)
• The “Deranged Tree” secret for ignoring societal standards that keep true happiness always out of reach (6:57)
• The cold, hard truth about why your successes feel hollow and isolating (12:16)
• Asking yourself this simple question can help you discover your ultimate purpose in life (15:46)
• The “Karma Yoga” method that forces you to become fully present in the moment (16:49)
• How to deeply understand what brings you true joy and fulfillment with this simple weekly exercise (18:00)
• Why reading books for pleasure is one of the quickest ways to shift out of an anxious state of being and into a calm one (20:54)
• The “dancing with the music” mindset shift that leads to healthier relationships, better mental health, and more joy in your day-to-day life (23:26)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Neediness plagues every relationship, and achievers tend to be more needy than other people.

Why?

Well, the achiever’s desire to achieve often stems from neediness itself. Achievers think they have to earn every bit of love and approval in their lives. And then the success you achieve from this mindset tricks you into believing that this is a good trait.

However, look closely into a successful achiever’s life, and you’ll see that no matter how much they achieved, there’s a deep void of loneliness in their lives. Look closely into their relationships, and they’re riddled with neediness.

But you know what?

Listening to this week’s episode is a good first step to help you take off the mask of achievement that leads to loneliness and neediness.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• The insidious “Do More” trap achievers fall into to eliminate their neediness that only makes it surge (0:42)
• 3 survival strategies you tried as a kid and how they still dominate your behaviors today (4:05)
• How needing external validation poisons every relationship you have from the inside out (7:38)
• Why success serves as a mask for your deepest insecurities (and how to take the mask off) (9:38)
• A key questions achievers must ask themselves to stop feeding their neediness (14:33)
• Downloading this app is the first step towards eliminating your neediness (23:22)
• Will you lose your edge if you stop striving for success and achievements? (26:54)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

Here’s a harsh truth for many men to understand, especially the pleasers and fixers:

It’s not your job as a man to continuously attract your woman or to make her happy. Instead, it's about understanding the elements that naturally cultivate attraction and happiness within a relationship.

But this approach to dating and attraction is a lot harder because it requires improving yourself at the deepest levels instead of putting on a façade.

But you know what?

Despite it being harder, it leads to a more fulfilling relationship. And yes, this includes sexual fulfillment too.

In today’s episode, I’m answering some tough questions like:

1. What are women actually attracted to?

2. What keeps women committed in a relationship, especially a long-term relationship where the initial spark has died?

3. And how do you not only attract a woman, but keep her?

And I reveal my 3H and 3P methods for helping you understand the complex dance of attraction and commitment that are the cornerstones of building a successful long-term relationship.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• Why the initial spark in your relationship dies when you don’t understand this… (0:56)
• How wondering how to attract your ideal woman is a sneaky way to display your neediness (and how to stop being needy) (3:59)
• The “CRW” secret for naturally attracting women without even trying (7:08)
• Are women sexually attracted to wealth? Here’s why they’re not (even if they say they are) (13:08)
• How meeting the emotional needs of your partner naturally sparks, and intensifies, your attraction to her (and the “P-word” that strengthens these emotional bonds) (18:09)
• Why downloading a meditation app on your phone can significantly enhance your attractiveness to women (20:06)
• How to both improve the sexual relationship with your partner while also strengthening the emotional bonds that glue the relationship together (28:57)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

One of the most common and deadly fears people have is the fear of failure. And this fear in particular has dire consequences:

It creates a life where every decision is clouded by the terror of making a mistake. Where opportunities are left unexplored because the risk of failure looms too large. A life shackled by the fear of failure leads to stagnation—professionally and personally. Even your relationships suffer because a fear of failure prevents you from being your true self. Living with this fear for too long means never truly knowing the full extent of your capabilities or the depths of who you are.

That’s the bad news.

The good news?

When you liberate yourself from the gripping fear of failure, you view every setback as a stepping stone to something greater. Your relationships improve because you show up as your true self. Your career takes off because you’re no longer shackled by this pervasive fear. And by embracing failure, you unlock a more adventurous, spontaneous, and fulfilling life.

It won’t be easy—it takes time and effort to address and overcome this deep-seated fear. But it’s possible.

In today’s episode, you’ll discover where the fear of failure comes from, and even more, how to use both modern and ancient wisdom to overcome it and live a more fulfilling life.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• Why attaching your value as a person to your success and failures is a recipe for fear and disappointment (4:54)
• The Buddhist monk’s secret for overcoming your fear of failure (7:38)
• How striving for happiness keeps it out of your reach (and how to find joy without searching for it) (8:24)
• 2 simple, yet wildly effective ways to find peace and fulfillment within yourself right now (even if you haven’t achieved everything you want) (10:37)
• 4 exercises to help you directly engage with different parts of yourself and understand why they manifest as fear and anxiety (14:34)
• The daily “Radical Self-Acceptance” practice that not only enhances your personal relationships, but also deepens your relationship with yourself (18:55)
• How to become more aware of your intrusive thoughts and transform them into positive ones in just 5 minutes each day (20:06)
• The dire consequences of living a life controlled by your fear of failure (and how it bleeds into every aspect of your life) (26:15)
• How embracing failure improves your relationships, boosts your attractiveness, and infuses your actions with a sense of purpose and freedom (27:17)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

There’s a certain problem that touches the core of men’s struggles, but it often flies under their radar. This problem sabotages intimacy, confidence, and connection, leaving only anxiety and depression in its wake.

I’m referring to sexual shame—and it’s something that happens to men both unconsciously and consciously.

That’s why in this episode, I’m going to help you understand where sexual shame comes from, why it has persisted over centuries, and give you the roadmap to break free from these chains.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• How sexual shame not only sabotages intimate moments, but also shatters your confidence, connection, and authenticity (2:00)
• This quick mindset shift is the first step towards overcoming your sexual shame (3:00)
• The weird way studying philosophy and ethical theory can wipe away the seeds of sexual shame inside you (8:29)
• 3 theories that explain why men feel sexual shame (and how understanding these theories helps you conquer your shame) (10:39)
• How religiously-induced sexual shame lingers in your psyche long after you leave the religion (and how to root it out from your subconscious completely) (18:55)
• 4 ways sexual shame manifests in intimate relationships (24:58)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

One of the best ways to become more attractive to women, to feel more fulfilled in your life, and to generally boost your happiness is by building up your internal self-worth.

But this practice is easier said than done. And men today often make the mistake of trying to build their self-worth on external sources, like needing attractive women to be attracted to them. This not only backfires, but creates an unrelenting source of neediness that’s waiting to poison any relationship they get into.

That’s the bad news.

The good news?

Even if you rely on external validation for your self-worth today, it’s possible to fix this. I did this myself after building my persona on external validation, going through an existential crisis, and attempting suicide.

But you don’t have to go through these same struggles if you listen to this episode.

In today’s show, you’ll discover how you can cultivate a sense of value and self-worth that’s rooted in yourself. You’ll learn how shifting this mindset not only makes you more attractive as a person, but also leads to healthier relationships and a more fulfilling life. And I’ll share some practical tips for starting your internal self-worth journey today.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• The “world within” secret for building authentic, unshakeable self-worth that doesn’t hinge on anyone’s opinion of you (1:55)
• Where does the need for external validation come from and how does it spoil a relationship from the inside out? (2:53)
• Why “shame-based programming” from your childhood keeps you stuck in the friend zone (and how to avoid putting yourself in the friend zone) (9:13)
• How pegging my own self-worth to how women viewed me led to me attempting suicide (and how to prevent making the same mistakes in your love life) (13:03)
• The proven “AFR” method for creating your own source of validation instead of relying on external sources (16:42)
• 3 practical ways to start uncovering your emotional wounds that prevent you from building internal self-worth (and how to easily turn these into a daily routine) (20:28)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

There’s a psychological condition that’s been flying under the radar for too long. It’s a form of PTSD that builds up from more minor-seeming traumas you experienced throughout your life. And it may be the saboteur of your dating life and relationship success.

Worst part?

Most men have no idea it’s lurking in the shadows of their psyche.

So, what’s this condition?

It’s something called Complex PTSD, or c-PTSD for short. It makes the work seem like an endlessly challenging place. But by understanding it, you can learn to lessen its grip and stop its control over you.

In today’s episode, you’ll discover what Complex PTSD is, how it starts and grows, and how to overcome it—whether you find it lurking in your psyche or a friend’s or lover’s.

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• Is “Complex PTSD” haunting your relationships and dating life? Here’s how to find out and thwart it if it is (0:52)
• Why c-PTSD happens in interpersonal relationships and how it can be triggered by simply swiping on dating apps (5:16)
• 2 real life examples of how c-PTSD plays out in careers, relationships, and life in general (7:10)
• The insidious way “mundane traumas” can build up in your psyche that can sabotage promotions, engagements, and steal the joy from life (11:25)
• 3 simple ways to help a friend or girlfriend struggling with c-PTSD (without offending them) (16:04)
• How group therapeutic coaching helps you navigate the choppy waters of c-PTSD without worrying about repercussions of your vulnerability (18:43)
• How to develop coping mechanisms for c-PTSD so triggering events don’t throw you into chaos (21:06)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery

There’s often a fine line between love and neediness, especially for men. Women have a sixth sense to sniff out neediness, which can leave you confused and unconvinced unconditional love even exists.

But when you look closely into the differences between love and neediness, you’ll see how diametrically opposed these two states are.

Love comes from a place of abundance, neediness from lack. Love is based on internal validation, neediness on external validation.

But if you can’t even tell the difference between the two, it’s impossible to bridge the gap from neediness to love.

So, how can you bridge the gap and transform neediness into love?

In today’s episode, you’ll discover the difference between love and neediness, practical steps to cultivate self-love and suffocate neediness, and how to nurture unconditional love in relationships (even if neediness rears its ugly head).

Listen now.

Show Highlights Include:

• How to spot the early signs of neediness before they wreck your chances of finding true love (1:43)
• The subtle mindset shift that frees you from the toxic stranglehold of neediness and warps you into love (4:51)
• Do you cringe when you find yourself becoming needy? Here’s how to bridge the gap between neediness and love (6:08)
• Why people pleasers struggle the most at finding unconditional love (and how to avoid common mistakes people pleasers make—even if you are one) (8:29)
• How healthy boundaries prevent unconditional love from morphing into unconditional neediness (10:54)
• The indestructible two-step antidote to neediness (12:30)
• This book will not only stop your neediness in its tracks but also helps you build unconditional self-love (18:50)
• Practical “self-reflection” steps that steer you away from neediness and open the door to true, unconditional love (25:18)
• How to transform neediness into an opportunity to deepen communication in relationships (28:52)

Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://dtphd.com/quiz now.

For more about David Tian, go here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/

Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:

https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery