• #227 What is my secret to everything?...Having a Plan!
    Apr 16 2024

    The Priority…Me!!! Retreat Is back, but this time available to any and all without travel or time off work. It Is scheduled Monday, May 13 through Friday, May 17, 2024.


    By using your PODCAST PATRON DISCOUNT CODE: ILISTEN15 you will receive 15% off when register. (Code excludes the hardship payment option)


    For more information and registration

    https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

    Guest speakers include 3 of my latest podcast guest.. can you guess who?


    After years of doing the up and down, back and forth, taking care of myself, giving it up for others, then back to taking care of myself, I have learned and am thankful to tell you that what I discovered was this…. I ACTUALLY HAVE WAY MORE CONTROL THAN I THOUGHT IT DID.


    When things were not going well, I would look to others to support me through it, to fix it for me, and possibly take the blame for it. However, in the end it has always been a result of me slacking in the area of self care and prioritizing myself. The other thing that I learned the hard way was that is was MY responsibility no one else’s. (That part hurt for a while, I was tired, I didn’t want to carry it anymore…..but when you have no other option than to rely on yourself …. You will figure out a way to do it.)

    3 DAYS PUTTING MY ATTENTION BACK ON MYSELF AND wallah!

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    32 mins
  • #226 When it is Time to Declutter
    Apr 13 2024
    Professional home organizer Cass Henry tells of her recent experience with decluttering her life by “throwing out” a relationship that was taking up too much space. She is an inspiration to all she encounters. Though just recently free, she is encouraging others to follow her lead and let go of the things that are cluttering up your life. Find Cass at transformedspaces.ca If you are wanting more details on the mentioned Priority…Me!!! Online retreat you can find those details along with all the other services offered by Coaching with Dr Heidi here. https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page
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    56 mins
  • #225 Spiritual Abuse and the Crooked Little Girl
    Apr 2 2024
    After spending her first 40 years in the cultish Evangelical world, picking up many layers of cPTSD from family, religion and marriage. Charlotte is rebuilding her new life as a single mom of five kids (who has stopped homeschooling by the way.... tough decision) Single moms usually work, but in 2020 with complications from long covid she developed brain injuries along with some nervous system damage. She lost the entry level jobs she attempted to work and was unable to keep up with her long-time usual pace. This is a glimpse of her journey. Through an unhealthy marriage (arranged by the church) the leaving her evangelical upbringing (with its magical, mystical promises), She has learned God doesn’t pay your loans for you or stop abuse even if you make a covenant with Him. There is work to be done on your own part to break free of false hopes and lies in order to find your true self. Today Charlotte carries her message through her very own podcast "Crooked Little Girl" Take a listen: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/crooked-little-girl/id1697643420 Charlotte has been a long time listener of this podcast, It's Not Normal It's Toxic, and has been a member of my online support group for many years. (https://www.facebook.com/groups/drheidistrength Her mission is to speak on the spiritual abuse she endured and warn others of falsities within religion where the teachings are... well abusive.
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    42 mins
  • #224 Freedom from Coping, When Coping with Toxic
    Mar 17 2024

    Sabrina Magnan is a Food Freedom & intuitive Eating Coach who helps chronic dieters heal their relationship with food & their bodies and develop lasting health-promoting habits so that they can find true authentic health, free from the obsession and guilt. Sabrina has a website as well as a podcast if you are looking for more information. https://sabrinamagnan.com/ https://sabrinamagnan.com/podcast


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    42 mins
  • #223 Grateful for the Past
    Mar 6 2024
    In this episode I will speak with 3 people that I have gotten to know very well over the last few years, they are all members of Strength Within. "Strength Within" is the support group that I run on facebook for those seeking understanding in your situation. The 3 guest today will be answering questions about how their lives would be different today if they had not gone through what they went through. These are some strong, determined, and now happy people who once did not feels as if they were. I hope this episode is as encouraging for you as it was for me while recording. Here is the link to the "Strength Within" facebook group if you are searching for a community that understands. https://www.facebook.com/groups/drheidistrength Looking for a deep dive? All services provided can be seen here: https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page
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    45 mins
  • #222 Making the Impossible Your New Normal - with Fiji McAlpine
    Feb 29 2024

    I know that you are going through times of adversity in your life, the high demands of your relationship and just plain keeping life in balance often seems like more than you can handle. Today you will be listening to me speak with a guest who has also had her share of adversities. Fiji McAlpine, today's guest is a yoga virtuoso who turned personal adversity into a global movement. After a debilitating back injury at 21, Fiji discovered the transformative power of yoga. Not just a remedy for her physical pain, yoga became her lifeline out of anorexia as well as an unhealthy marriage. This was an eye opening episode for me to record as she calls out many things that I KNOW I need to be implementing into my journey of healing and self discovery. She even calls me out and gives me a challenge, join me in the 14 day Yoga challenge that can be found on her website here: https://www.doyogawithme.com/content/14-day-yoga-challenge

    Without changing something our adversities grow, the more they pile up the more impossible making a change feels. Where body and mind connect is where Fiji has found her "Possible"


    Looking for a community to support you through learning, healing, and growing after a toxic relationship?

    Check out the We're INNIT Together Growth & Support Community here:

    https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

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    55 mins
  • #221 The "Just Enough" Relationship & the Confusion they Cause
    Feb 13 2024

    The “Just Enough” Relationship is a devistation that almost no one ever sees coming. The just enough relationship is one that gives you “just enough” to keep you invested in the relationship, but not enough for you to feel safe, accepted, or appreciated.We tend to lower our standards as we accept less and less from those who are giving “just enough”. Real effort is not given unless the relationship is threatened.One is giving the least amount they can get away with giving and the other gives until they are desperately drained. You can become used to the way the “just enough” relationship is and accept not being valued or settle much less than you deserve.Relationships do not have to have huge flaws in order for you to justify leaving or changing one that is not right for you. How long have you stayed in the "just enough" relationship, at the "just enough" job, in the "just enough" friendship because you grew used to the poor treatment.

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    22 mins
  • #220 It's All About the Kids! - with guest Elle Barr
    Feb 3 2024
    We all know that divorce is hard. It is something that affects everyone who is in the lives of those who are separating. With so much going on many do not realize the impact these changes have on the children that are caught in the middle. Those going through an amicable divorce can usually navigate things well so the children adapt with everyone else, but for those who are going through a high conflict divorce the storyline is much different. As a family law attorney and GAL for the state of Pennsylvania Elle Barr, has dedicated her life to making sure when there are kids involved she keeps her focus on them. Listen how she got into this work and how it has become her passion to protect those who are not able to protect themselves as "mom & dad" try to settle their differences. Learn more about Elle Barr here: https://ellebarr.com/ Be sure to follow her on social media: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elle-barr-252b14104 insta: @elle.barr.galGroups & programs currently available to you through Coaching with Dr Heidi are listed here: https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page
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    41 mins