This episode is for those who have felt, at any point, like they are "too much."

To dim the beautiful bright light in your being to be palatable and digestible for others is an indiscretion to your soul.

We must resist the urge to give into cynicism and nihilism and embrace that life CAN be beautiful, love IS that good, and that we ARE meant to live in joy and trust that flow will guide us.

During this episode, we go on a journey of understanding where cynicism and projection comes from, why we prioritize people pleasing over our own personal power, and what happens when we decide to live rooted in ourselves and connected to our joy.

Life is too short to not believe that it can also be sweet.

We talk:

0:00 - 5:09 - The Psychology of Cynicism + Projection

5:15 - 9:08 - The Negative Impacts of Dimming Your Light

9:08 - 13:01 - Why Animals + Children are Magnets for Attention & Joy

13:01 - 16:00 - The "OF COURSE THEY ARE!" Mindset

16:00 - 19:58 - Letting Yourself Be Seen: Remaining Open to Love vs Toxic Positivity

19:58 - Reprogramming your Mind & Affirmations for Inner/Outer Harmony

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38 - Unlocking Our Hearts Potential & Clearing Energetic Blocks

"You do not have to be good.

You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert repenting.

You only have to let the soft animal of your body - love what it loves.

Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.

Meanwhile the world goes on.

Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain are moving across the landscapes, over the prairies and the deep trees, the mountains and the rivers.

Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air, are heading home again.

Whoever you are, no matter how lonely, the world offers itself to your imagination, calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting -

over and over announcing your place in the family of things."

'Wild Geese', by Mary Oliver

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CHAPTERS:

(00:00) - Cleaning Out the Closet + Creating Space

(06:59) - The Self is a Construct & Identity is a Prison

(9:05) - The Art & The Power of Letting Go

(14:30) - You Can't Heal What You Don't Feel

(23:05) - Techniques for Embracing the Wisdom + Natural Intelligence of Our Body

(27:42) - Surrendering to Flow + Allowing Blessings In

(32:56) - The Unseen

(40:05) - Reigniting Child-Like Wonder + Embracing New Life

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Resources mentioned in this episode:

Sarah Blandin Activating Freedom Meditation

Healing is Not My Purpose

Readings from:

“The Creative Act” by Rick Rubin

"Dream Work" Poem Book by Mary Oliver

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Growing & Outgrowing: You’re Not Wrong, You’re Just in the Wrong Place

At some point in our lives, we may find ourselves bending and folding ourselves into shapes that are not our own in an exhausting effort to fit in, conform, and get our return on the illusion we bought that told us we'd be happy if we just "did what we were supposed to do."

And too often, when this formula doesn't work for us - we exile ourselves and internalize the confusion of being confused.

We may wonder why we haven’t gotten it right, why we feel so misunderstood.

What we fail to acknowledge is -- that while we try to contort ourselves into a glass half empty - our unique desires, impulses, and dreams are waiting for us to fill our glass full.

Have you ever considered that maybe your life is asking of you something so unique, so particular, and so idiosyncratic to your own individual idiosyncrasies - that only you can hear the call and only you can take the action?

This episode discusses the art of authentic living & the process of embracing our individuality - along with the challenges that come with outgrowing people, places, and things that may have once felt like home.

There are many choices we can make in this world, but the one I can almost promise you will never regret making is choosing yourself.

To choose yourself, you must learn yourself, know yourself, trust yourself - and honor the individual expression that calls in a voice only you can hear.

I believe you have what it takes to do so.

It is your calling, after all.

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CHAPTERS:

0:00-10:25 - You’re not wrong, you’re just in the wrong place

+ A reading from "Women who Run with the Wolves," Passage: The Ugly Duckling

10:25 - FOMO isn’t Real - The Price of False Illusions of Happiness

15:58 - Outgrowing what You Once Loved, Learning About + Honoring Your Individual Differences

19:10 - Wanting MORE for your Life + Feeling Deserving Of It

20:47 - Paralyzed by Indecision? Sylvia Plath’s Fig Tree of Choice

26:27 - Your Power & MAGIC is You - You’re Not Meant for Everyone

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Episode 28 - Are you Truly Living, or Just Surviving?

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As we've collectively shifted, it's clear that many are tuning into a greater spiritual awakening.

This episode takes us through the intricate interplay between our ego's attachment to the physical and our soul's yearning for transcendence - the balance, the dance, and the beautiful journey of duality.

CHAPTERS

(00:00) - Ego vs Soul

(7:40) - Connecting with Others + The Collective Consciousness

(9:23) - The Impact of TikTok / COVID on our Culture's Spiritual Awakening

(15:03) - Understanding Egoic Satisfaction & The Soul's Role

(23:08) - Healing + Unraveling Patterns of Survival

(27:46) - The Power of Choice + Alignment

(30:09): "Training" the Ego + Breaking Free from Unconscious Patterns

(43:19) - Inner Child Healing & Living From Love

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Fear is an Illusion

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Struggles and success often dance hand in hand.

Jamie Hess grew up in New York City as the daughter of GMA Host, Joan Lunden. A tenacious go-getter from a young age, Jamie was gifted, precocious, and ahead of the curve. She grew up fast - and she found herself soaring up the ladder of Corporate PR earlier than most. But she was curbing the growing pains of growing up in the public eye with a drug addiction that she kept secret - until she couldn't any longer.

After the road to recovery from drug and alcohol abuse, Jamie turned her life around and discovered fitness, making it her mission to create community and help others see the beauty in a healthy lifestyle. She amassed thousands of followers with a zest for her new passion, until she found herself with another addiction hidden in sheep's clothing. This time, it was an eating disorder.

Years after recovery from these eras - today, Jamie is a wellness entrepreneur, speaker, mother, wife, and podcaster whose work has been featured on the Dr. Oz Show, The View, and Good Morning America.

On this episode, Jamie shares her story of resilience and accountability, and how her intimate experience with darkness became the groundwork for the woman she is today.

Each battle she overcame wove her life tapestry with the humility and infectious authenticity that allows her to teach the lessons that she had to learn.

She is a woman who channels her past into a beacon for those seeking light.

On this episode, we talk:

(00:00) - Overcoming Addiction, Jamie's Story

(10:38) - Asking for Help, Releasing Shame, Finding Community

(23:15) - Money Wound, Self-Doubt, Fear, Growing Confidence

(26:13) - Perfectionism + Inner Criticism, Pursuing your Dreams

(29:57) - How Vulnerability is a SuperPower

(39:21) - Jealousy as a Signal, Internalized Misogyny, The Company you Keep

(46:05) - How a Warrior Mindset saved Jamie's Mom from Breast Cancer + How Gratitude Saved Jamie from Addiction

(52:21) - Practical, Actionable Advice for those in Deep Confusion, Figuring Sh!t Out

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46 - Breaking the Cycle of Generational Trauma + Healing a Wounded Inner Child GUEST EPISODE with My Sister

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You cannot run from what you don't want and run towards what you do at the same time.

You do one or the other.

In every moment - we are creating.

Either unconsciously or consciously - we choose the patterns and programs, or - we choose to create new ones.

In trying to avoid pain, we create the environments and situations to see it more clearly.

In a decision and a direction, we head forth into the unknown with a guidance born from our own powerful intentions.

If we search for safety, the best we will find - is safety.

But if we go towards our ideal, with the assumption that we are already safe -- we are able to see the boundlessness of positive momentum take form in our lives.

By understanding that our energy is a resource, one that is finite - but also able to multiply if we take care to nourish it, we can identify what drives and motivates us.

Fear? or Peace?

Survival? or Creation?

You choose.

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41 - The Mind-Body Connection: Emotional Regulation, Physical Well-Being, & Somatic Healing

In the art of living, there's a subtle yet profound practice of flirting with life, embracing its vast possibilities, and allowing ourselves the freedom to dream without restraint.

This episode peels back the layers of self-imposed limitations, bringing into focus the joy and growth that lie on the other side of fear.

There comes a time where your inner work will lead you to outgrowing your outer world and will ask you to make decisions to choose more for yourself without knowing exactly what comes next.

I invite you to imagine a world where you dance with your destiny and where the anticipation of what's to come is as delightful as the arrival itself.

CHAPTERS:

0:00-5:04: Where are you Settling + Playing it Small? Identifying Limitations, Intuition vs Anxiety

5:04-8:11: Trusting in the Universe vs Taking Action

8:11- 15:24: What you're ACTUALLY scared of

15:24-20:02: Breaking out Of Unfulfilling Narratives: My Journey

20:02-23:50: Outgrowing Relationships, Letting Go & Making Room for New to Enter

23:50-26:33: Making room for All Parts of you Along the Way (Fear, Insecurity) as you Build Confidence, Authenticity, + Vibrance

26:33-30:24: FLIRT WITH LIFE

30:24-34:33: Your words MATTER: Shifting & Reprogramming Your Mind to Focus into Abundance over Lack

34:33: What's on the other side? Setting Expectations + Connecting to the Collective Consciousness

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44 - Fear is An Illusion