The conversation highlights each family member and the importance of prioritizing discomfort and making decisions aligning with the person one wants to be. It emphasizes the need for self-reflection and distinguishing between self-reflection and judgment. We also explore the importance of visualization and focusing on future goals to direct the ideal outcome for our lives.

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In this episode, we will be focusing on Jay and Freddie and the challenges they have ahead.

Freddie opens up about his past addictions and the fear of reconnecting with his nine children.

While Jay is learning how her childhood has affected her positive outlook on life and her self-value.

Jay discusses her current state of well-being, describing it as neutral. She struggles to recognize and embrace positive experiences, often perceiving them as neutral. Elliott challenges her to shift her perspective and notice the positive changes in her life. They discuss the importance of focusing on the good and choosing to be excited about positive experiences. Jay reflects on her role as a mother and the pride she feels for her children. Elliott encourages her to extend the same focus on the good to herself and others in her life. They explore the impact of shifting perspectives and choosing to focus on the positive.

Freddie reflects on his contentment in life and the challenges he faces in maintaining relationships with his children. He explores ways to show love and care to his kids through little gestures and spending quality time with them. Fredrick shares his personal journey of transformation and overcoming addiction. Elliott encourages Fredrick to take accountability and make amends, emphasizing the need for persistence and consistency. They conclude by discussing the healing process and the potential for personal growth.

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The Black Effect Presents... Family Therapy!

In this episode Jay and David have separate sessions that both revolve around the theme of personal growth and self-improvement. They also explore the concept of rediscovering one's true self and finding happiness and fulfillment in life.

The conversation is divided into two main chapters: 'Jay's Journey to Personal Growth and Being Present' and 'David's Desire for Consistency and Understanding How to Live with Grief.'

During Jay and Elliott’s session, Jay expresses her desire for change and a clear strategy to move forward in her life. We learn more about the separation from her partner David and the importance of being happy and the difference it would make despite all and current circumstances. Elliott encourages Jaylin to take small steps towards change and to pay attention to the clues that she is moving closer to being her true self

The conversation with David highlights the need to overcome obstacles and maintain a mindset of resilience. Elliott and David discuss the power of remembering and honoring their loved ones who have passed away, and how it can inspire them to be their best selves. Elliott asks David what would be different if he were to acknowledge his ascended loved ones and realize the opportunity remains to make them proud.

During both of these sessions and moving forward, Elliott will challenge the family members weekly to inspire them to start living as the best version of themselves irregardless of life’s perpetual challenges.

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In this episode, Jay and David have separate sessions that both revolve around the theme of pivoting and the power of seeing opportunity within unexpected changes.

The conversation is divided into two main chapters: Mastering Peace and Joy and Seeing the Opportunity.

In this session with Jay, she discusses her experiences and emotions related to her partner moving out and potentially returning. She initially felt relief and empowerment when her partner left, but the situation changed when he lost his job. Jay expresses her desire to focus on herself and be at peace, but she struggles with the decision of whether to let her partner come back. The conversation explores the idea of being independent of one's environment and finding inner peace regardless of external circumstances. Jay also discusses her belief in a supreme being and the influence of her upbringing on her perspective. Elliott and Jay also explore the power of reminding oneself of God's presence and plan and the impact it has on reducing stress. The conversation delves into the poem Footprints and its significance in finding solace. Jay reflects on moments of peace and joy in her life, including childhood memories and experiences in Puerto Rico. They discuss the importance of taking care of oneself and how it can lead to empowerment and a sense of inner peace and joy.

David discusses his recent job loss, his current situation, and his plans for the future. He shares his approach to staying positive and productive, as well as his focus on self-improvement and relationship dynamics. David discusses the changes he's making in his life to repair his relationship with Jay, emphasizing the importance of consistency and taking action. He shares his triggers for change and his commitment to maintaining a new routine. The conversation delves into his past experiences with making significant lifestyle changes and the impact of these changes on his relationship with Jay.

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The conversation explores the concept of mindset shift, the importance of gauging progress, the impact of comfort zones, and the journey toward personal and professional growth. It delves into the process of change, consistency, and the pursuit of a better version of oneself.

David discusses the changes he is making in his life and the impact it has on his relationships and family. He shares his journey of personal growth and the sacrifices he is making for a better future to prepare for the next mountain ahead.

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Can you heal with someone? While you are in love with the person who has caused you trauma or turmoil?

In this conversation, Jay and David discuss their relationship and hopes for therapy. They talk about how they met, what they appreciate about each other, and their desire to improve their communication and support each other's personal growth.

Elliott helps David and Jay reconnect and rediscover the happiness and joy in their relationship. They discuss the importance of expressing happiness and supporting each other, and Elliott encourages them to plan a date where they can focus on enjoying each other's company.

He reminds them of the positive aspects of their relationship and encourages them to nurture those aspects more intentionally.

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We open this episode defining, accountability, and Elliott expounds on the importance of taking ownership over one’s choices in life both positive and negative, to truly be liable over our full human experience.

In this conversation, Elliott and Freddie discuss the importance of accountability within the scope of fatherhood. During the session, we delve into Freddie's journey of reconnecting with his children and his challenges in being consistent and dependable.

We explore the impact of past mistakes and the need for forgiveness and self-acceptance. The conversation highlights the importance of releasing the past and creating a positive future. Elliott encourages fathers who have been estranged from their children to reach out and begin the process of reconnecting.

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Disclaimer: Please note this episode speaks on abuse both sexual and physical, please be prepared for any potential triggers or sensitivities that may come up while listening.

The episode opens with examples of how to practice alleviating negative thoughts by intentionally focusing on positive thoughts.

Elliott then expounds on the need for individual therapy sessions within a family therapy context to address sensitive issues and create a safe space. Offering Jay the opportunity to discuss various challenges they're facing, including separation from her partner, selling her investment property, and abuse during her childhood. She expresses feelings of uncertainty and stress, particularly regarding self-worth and applying therapy tools in her life.

The session with Jay delves into the topic of personal blocks and self-worth, stemming from past traumas and experiences of abuse. The guest shares her journey of realizing the impact of her past and seeking therapy to address her anger issues.

Elliott and Jay discuss the importance of faith and spirituality in overcoming challenges and finding resilience. They explore the power of prayer and the impact it has on their lives. They also discuss the concept of victim mentality and how it can hinder personal growth. Elliott also defines victim mentality and how to acknowledge it in persons who struggle with positive self-reinforcement.

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