Episodes

  • Ep 75: On Grief With Dr. Nina Tilka

    Ep 75: On Grief With Dr. Nina Tilka
    Jun 11 2024
    Dr. Nina Tilka is a licensed psychotherapist who earned her undergrad and master's degree in psychological research at California State University, Long Beach. She went on to earn her PhD in Clinical Psychology at Biola University. She currently runs her own practice called Belong Therapy. She supports clients through mental disorders and life stressors, and especially loves working with clients through grief. Her passion is to see people get better and flourish (mentally, spiritually, and physically). And find meaning in their lives. In this episode, we discuss various facets of grief. Her path to practicing therapy and specializing in grief The power of the grief journey Trusting in clients’ individual processes Accessing our full spectrum of emotions Relating to grief in the short-term and long-term The 5 Stages Of Grief Common myths about grief Creating meaning while grieving Acknowledging others’ experience Leaning into creativity to process grief Links mentioned: Dr. Nina Tilka’s website: https://www.belongtherapy.com Instagram: @dr.ninatilka Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and David Kessler: On Grief And Grieving https://www.amazon.com/Grief-Grieving-Finding-Meaning-Through/dp/1476775559/ ------------------------- Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching Connect with Tatsu: Website: https://tatsuyafushimicoaching.carrd.co/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
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    42 mins
  • Ep 74: The Flow State

    Ep 74: The Flow State
    Jun 4 2024
    When’s the last time you were in a state of flow? How would you describe it? How did it feel? When we get a taste of that divine sense of ease, we tend to try to re-create it and reverse engineer our actions leading up to the flow. Interestingly enough, attempts at controlling and overanalyzing work against flow, like trying to swim against the current. In this episode, we discuss nuances of the flow state and our relationship to it. Being present without forcing presence Trying to duplicate the flow state Letting go of control increases the possibility of flow Flow and alignment Overthinking leads to worry and expectations Connecting to what lights you up Inspiration starts from within ------------------------- Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching Connect with Tatsu: Website: https://tatsuyafushimicoaching.carrd.co/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
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    29 mins
  • Ep 73: Embracing Change

    Ep 73: Embracing Change
    May 28 2024
    Change can be challenging and exciting. Regardless, change will continue to happen and much of it is out of our control. Rather than resist change, we can choose to embrace it. Easier said than done of course. Understanding our fears, listening to our intuition, and practicing the courage to show up in alignment with our true selves are critical to embracing change. In this episode, we discuss our thoughts about change and recent challenges. Disempowered vs. empowered relationship to change Things out of our control Change rocks our identity My most recent biggest change Cultivating a sense of home within Non-transactional way of being Slowing down Intuition leading us through change Intentional practice in responding to change Embracing change for what? ------------------------- Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching Connect with Tatsu: Website: https://tatsuyafushimicoaching.carrd.co/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
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    28 mins
  • Ep 72: The Comfort Zone

    Ep 72: The Comfort Zone
    May 21 2024
    The comfort zone is dynamic and constantly changing. Our awareness of the edge and intention to push the edge outward is critical for growth. Pushing the edge creates stress on our minds and bodies. Therefore, doing so with a big purpose and deep meaning would be valuable to transmute the stress into further inspiration. The compounding of stress for little purpose is unsustainable and unfavorable. In this episode, we explore nuances of the comfort zone. Stepping into and out of the comfort zone It takes time to create a comfort zone The comfort zone is constantly changing Awareness of our progress Knowing the edge Bigger purpose naturally pushes us out of our comfort zone Comparison traps aren’t sustainable Reflecting on ourselves is key ------------------------- Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching Connect with Tatsu: Website: https://tatsuyafushimicoaching.carrd.co/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
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    31 mins
  • Ep 71: Start With Forgiveness

    Ep 71: Start With Forgiveness
    May 14 2024
    Forgiveness may sound simple, but it’s not easy. And it requires a tremendous range of self-awareness and deep connection to the heart. Self-forgiveness may be the access point to the peace, joy, fulfillment, creativity, and purpose we are all searching for. Therefore, it may be one of the most powerful practices for humans. Said this way, it doesn’t sound so simple anymore. Forgive and forget? Different levels of forgiveness Awareness of attachment to the past Head vs. heart Forgiving self before others Forgiveness is a process Expanding awareness around feelings of resentment, shame, and guilt Curiosity with internal triggers and judgment ------------------------- Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching Connect with Tatsu: Website: https://tatsuyafushimicoaching.carrd.co/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
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    29 mins
  • Ep 70: Reframing Failure

    Ep 70: Reframing Failure
    May 7 2024
    We typically have a strong aversion to identifying as a failure. Many of us learned to fear failure at an early age because it meant an ocean of disempowering beliefs about ourselves. The word fail is laced with judgment and shame. And this has been passed down for generations. But what if we recreated our relationship to failure? How would our way of being shift? How much more could we grow? In this episode, we discuss nuances surrounding failure. Disempowering relationship to failure Failure defined early on including through public education Failing vs. being a failure Patience and failure Reframing relationship to words Pivoting Learning to accept paradox as a broader reframe ------------------------- Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching Connect with Tatsu: Website: https://tatsuyafushimicoaching.carrd.co/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
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    32 mins
  • Ep 69: What Distracts You?

    Ep 69: What Distracts You?
    Apr 30 2024
    Distractions can help and hurt us. How aware are we of the distractions all around us? Are we making excuses for distractions to validate them? Are we using distractions to avoid commitments? It is important to periodically assess whether our activity and inactivity are in alignment with our commitments and goals. Distractions from what? Intention with choice Habits and distractions Commitments and your what for? Judgment of self and others can be a distraction Identifying priorities holistically Awareness of automatic behaviors and avoidance ------------------------- Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching Connect with Tatsu: Website: https://tatsuyafushimicoaching.carrd.co/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
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    31 mins
  • Ep 68: What’s The Vulnerable Support You Need?

    Ep 68: What’s The Vulnerable Support You Need?
    Apr 23 2024
    How practiced are you at asking for support? How clear are you about the support you actually need? Many of us are conditioned to be good at giving help and offering it but not at receiving help or asking for it. Offering to give help and asking to receive help are doorways to deeper connection and intimacy. However, an overall imbalance in giving and receiving support can create depletion and stagnation of energy. Further, getting supported on a surface level is entirely different from on a deeper vulnerable level. Vulnerability in asking for support Being clear on what you need Costs of not being supported From fully supported in the womb to not needing full support afterwards Shame and support Expectations and independence Self-judgment and judgment from others Saying “Yes” to support Simply sharing what you’re up to can invite support ------------------------- Connect with Jeff: Website: https://jeffmillercoaching.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeffmillercoaching/ IG: @jeffmillercoaching FB: https://www.facebook.com/jeff.miller.7965 Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/jeffmillercoaching Connect with Tatsu: Website: https://tatsuyafushimicoaching.carrd.co/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tatsuya-fushimi-acc-0513a22/ IG: @tatsuyafushimi FB: https://www.facebook.com/tatsuya.fushimi.9/ Books: https://www.amazon.com/author/tatsuyafushimi
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    30 mins