Us

Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship

By: Terrence Real

Narrated by: Terrence Real, Bruce Springsteen

Stop working on yourself as an individual and start working on your relationship as a couple, with the help of the renowned family therapist and bestselling author of The New Rules of Marriage

“This book is a road map for all of us who seek true intimacy.”—GWYNETH PALTROW, founder and CEO of goop

Not much is harder than figuring out how to love your partner in all their messy humanness—and there’s also not much that’s more important.

At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, bestselling author and renowned marriage counselor Terrence Real sees how it poisons intimate relationships in his therapy practice, where he works with couples on the brink of disaster. The good news: Warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools.

In his transformative new book Us, Real brilliantly observes how our winner-takes-all culture infiltrates families with devastating results: repetitive fights that go nowhere, or a distant relationship in which partners end up living “alone together.” With deft insight, humor, and charm, Real guides you to transform your relationship into one that’s based on compassion, collaboration, and closeness.

Us is a groundbreaking guide to a new science-backed skillset—one that will allow you to get past your knee-jerk reactions and tap into your wiser, more collaborative self. With a novelist’s flair, Real shares the stories of couples whose relationships have been saved by these skills and pans out to the culture that reinforces our dysfunction. If you and your partner are backed into separate corners of “you” and “me,” this book will show the way back to “us.” With Us, your true relationship can begin.

*Includes a downloadable PDF of charts and diagrams from the book

Us by Terry Real

Wow. This audiobook is amazing. It is not only for therapists. Everyone should read it. Definitely listen to it again. Thank you Terry

US from Terry Reel has profoundly changed my world

There are profound ideas in Terry Reels book that I hadn't heard before but make total sense. How he dissects and dismantles patriarchy and sees relationship transformation and therapy as the antidote is just one of them. It's so simple its revolutionary. I read it in physical form and audiobook and it's just such an added value to hear Bruce Springsteen's and Terry's voice, like you're in a session together. Life changing!

Amazing, beautiful and so useful. Mind blowing!

I am just so grateful for this mind blowing book!! Amazed!! It’s so deep and wonderful!

Excellent

I can't wait to put my new knowledge to use. Very grateful to the author.

Could Not Reccomend More

For those of us who wish to be closer to our partner, kinder to ourselves and in the world in a way that is compassionate and propels our social evolution this is a book for all of us. First, understand and address our childhood injuries,. Second develop a kinder and wiser adult voice. Third, interact with our partners and lloved ones with more self awareness and increased wisdom. Finally, show up in the world as a force of support, collaboration and sustainability because we are all related, connected and a small part of a greater web of all creation. What effects one of us effects us all.

Incredible

Pia Mellody’s work is life-changing, and to hear it put simply, in the words of Terry Real has been an absolute treat!

Best book on relationships I’ve ever read.

Beautifully written and performed. Recommend for any committed couple. The last chapter and epilogue contains a very wise and meta perspective on our world.

Insightful

Loved it. It was a great listen. It was very insightful and thought-provoking. Must read!

should be mandatory to read this

This book is a true guide to relationships! Everyone should read if they want an amazing and healthy lasting loving relationship!

Insightful and all around very helpful

Let me start here: the Author falls way to the left on the political spectrum. He makes that known and he speaks from a place of that viewpoint being factually correct. As someone who sits on the other end, it can make the work at times unpalatable. But my message to those of you who might feel the same way is to hang in there with the book. The overall message and strategies he brings forward hit home and they are effective. It’s worth it to sit through the parts that might be a turnoff. Politically we can agree to disagree— but healing a wounded or broken relationship is both an art and a science, and the author is an expert. And to be fair, it’s his house we are in as the reader and he reserves the right to run the show as he sees fit.