Try Softer

A Fresh Approach to Move Us out of Anxiety, Stress, and Survival Mode-and into a Life of Connection and Joy

By: Aundi Kolber

Narrated by: Aundi Kolber

Length: 5 hrs and 57 mins

Publisher's summary

In a world that preaches a "try harder" gospel-just keep going, keep hustling, keep pretending we're all fine-we're left exhausted, overwhelmed, and so numb to our lives. If we're honest, we've been overfunctioning for so long, we can't even imagine another way. How else will things get done? How else will we survive?

It doesn't have to be this way. Aundi Kolber believes that we don't have to white-knuckle our way through life. In her debut book, Try Softer, she'll show us how God specifically designed our bodies and minds to work together to process our stories and work through obstacles. Through the latest psychology, practical clinical exercises, and her own personal story, Aundi equips and empowers us to connect us to our truest self and truly live. This is the "try softer" life.

In Try Softer, you'll learn how to: know and set emotional and relational boundaries; make sense of the difficult experiences you've had; identify your attachment style-and how that affects your relationships today; move through emotions rather than get stuck by them; and grow in self-compassion and talk back to your inner critic. Trying softer is sacred work. And while it won't be perfect or easy, it will be worth it. Because this is what we were made for: a living, breathing, moving, feeling, connected, beautifully incarnational life.

©2020 Andrea M. Kolber (P)2020 eChristian

so eye-opening!!

it is my favorite when the book is actually read by its author. Being able to hear the spirit behind the voice of this author made this book extremely powerful to me. the insights and well explained dynamics of a trauma-informed approach to trying softer has enabled me to take practical steps towards that in my own life. I recommend this for everybody, especially those in any sort of leadership position, including and maybe especially parents.

great book!

I loved the book and the author's voice. she is a wonderful story teller and her content is on point.

What a gift this book is!

As a counselor in training this book could not have been listened to at a better time. Aundi uncovers practical wisdom from a Christian and clinical perspective that is applicable for all! I’ve learned so much about myself and my future profession. This to date is a favorite book of mine and I’m so thankful I came across it from listening to my podcasts!

Concise and complete!

I have just completed listening to this audiobook for the second time. This is the most helpful book about trauma recovery that I have read. Aundi’s gentle, soothing voice made me feel safe. She presented the information in a clear way that helped my understanding of the trauma I have experienced. I learned a lot of new things, and I had a lot of things I already knew confirmed. I believe that God pointed me to this book at this point in my life. I’m in my 60s and have had a lot of healing, but this book has opened me up for much more. Thank you!

Very good

This book was very informative and helpful. I would highly recommend it. You could hear the passion and sincerity the author as she read her book.

this is wonderful!

one of the best books I've ever listened to, I plan on listening repeatedly

Wonderful!

so thankful this book came into my life when it did! Very useful to dig deep and see the places that need healing

Such a helpful book and tool!! She was so insightful and it was right on time!!!

Such a helpful book and tool!! She was so insightful and the delivery was really good too.
I’m definitely learning that U can only white-knuckle it but for so long … you can’t just grit your teeth & bare it forever.

Throughout my life, I definitely lived by the “try harder” mantra; I accepted my difficulties and trauma & dealt w/ it in a determined manner; it was pretty effective when I was younger and worked well all the way up until my early 30s!!!

My sisters and I had to grit our teeth & bare with our circumstances because we had no other choice, but as I moved into my 30s, I could no longer “white-knuckle” it, so thank you for this labor of love; it was right on time!!

A book that will stay on my reread shelf for years

I’ve been recommending this book to every person I know well enough since the second chapter.
As a 20-something who wants to learn to carry grief and heartache of my past well, this was recommended to me by a mentor and I couldn’t be happier.
For anyone who has ever been through any kind of Trauma, or if you are wanting to understand the science behind it all,
Aundi does an amazing job of informing the reader of the science in the way we were created while carrying us to the cross. She does not sacrifice faith for science or vice versa, for truly if He is Creator than our bodies and minds should point us to Him. And that’s what she does.
The author narrates it herself which is what sold me on getting audiobook vs the paperback, and she does so with a voice that is extremely soft & soothing even while bringing up difficult memories or handling sensitive topics.
There’s a companion workbook that is on its way in the mail now that I will be using to go through a second time. It’s worth that and more.
I will likely be reading this book for years to come. Very blessed by her obedience to God.

Compassionate, kind book with amazing strategies for healing and grace.

Thank you Aundi! 🤍🤍
Wishing you continued healing and success with your writing. God Bless You!