Toxic Positivity

Keeping It Real in a World Obsessed with Being Happy

By: Whitney Goodman LMFT

Narrated by: Whitney Goodman LMFT

Length: 6 hrs and 8 mins

Publisher's summary

A powerful guide to owning our emotions - even the difficult ones - in order to show up authentically in the world, from the popular therapist behind the Instagram account @sitwithwhit.

Every day, we’re bombarded with pressure to be positive. From “good vibes only” and “life is good” memes, to endless advice, to “look on the bright side”, we’re constantly told that the key to happiness is silencing negativity wherever it crops up, in ourselves and in others. Even when faced with illness, loss, breakups, and other challenges, there’s little space for talking about our real feelings - and processing them so that we can feel better and move forward.

But if all this positivity is the answer, why are so many of us anxious, depressed, and burned out?

In this refreshingly honest guide, sought-after therapist Whitney Goodman shares the latest research along with everyday examples and client stories that reveal how damaging toxic positivity is to ourselves and our relationships, and presents simple ways to experience and work through difficult emotions. The result is more authenticity, connection, and growth - and ultimately, a path to showing up as you truly are.

©2022 Whitney Goodman (P)2022 Penguin Audio

Critic reviews

“More than a self-help book, this is a society-help book. It’s ambitious but based on the simple idea of being, as Goodman describes herself, ‘radically honest’ with each other. And it’s about not pushing don’t-worry-be-happy talk on everyone around you, including yourself. Isn’t that something to (genuinely) smile about?”
--Kimberly Harrington, The Washington Post

“I‘ll be forever changed by Toxic Positivity—before offering words of validation, I will choose what I say wisely. Whitney Goodman’s book unlocks the difference between being helpful and harmful. This trailblazing book will help you transform your perspective about positivity.“ --Nedra Glover Tawwab, bestselling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace

"Sorely needed….Whitney Goodman elegantly weaves together her personal and clinical experience, academic research and practical advice to offer us a refreshing antidote to the seemingly innocuous but ultimately harmful message of ‘good vibes only.’" --Iris McAlpin, trauma professional

I wish everyone would read this!

This author’s explanation of the effects of the positivity movement on our current culture is spot on and reading this was very affirming and powerful.

Fantastic, especially for people with chronic illness / disability

If you have a chronic illness / disability or care about someone who does, this book is a must read! The amount of toxic positivity our community faces on a DAILY basis from (usually well-meaning people) is enough to drive anyone insane with feelings of frustration, invalidation, isolation. This book won’t cure your illness / disability, BUT, it will validate your experience and make you feel more sane.

Life isn't Roses

It was good to hear a different yet interesting narrative that provoked realistic insights mixed with everyday struggles... it made you take accountability for your own toxic yet positive behaviors(unbeknownst to yourself) and made you think more on ways to have more compassion for yourself and others.

What I was looking for

Good easy read/ listen. So glad to find a book on this topic. Loved the reframing of negativity- there are no negative people. Thanks.
I had no issue with her voice- enjoyed this a lot!

yes

I believe that the perspective was solid. I enjoyed the message. The delivery was tougher at times. Overall it's a message that needs repeating.

Interesting and different

Definitely a unique spin on positivity, in my opinion. Not sure I agreed with all the points the author made, however, it was a very good read to get different viewpoints. To not beat yours

Loved it

Longtime follower of her instagram account & I absolutely loved her book. The book is loaded with examples how positivity is forced on us. There’s many examples how to be more authentic with ourselves and with others, instead of conforming to toxic positivity.

Learned loads!

Loved it! Taught me alot about some of the things I've questioned in the past..

Recommending

I am recommending this to all my positively toxic friends! But really, it made many solid points regarding negativity and how it’s not a bad thing. Well researched!

Great book but painful delivery

Great insights and convincing research into the subject. highly recommended reading.

The author's performance doesn't do justice to her writing, though. The steady sawtooth tone of sentences, every one starting high and ending low (even questions) make her points sound preachy and saps any passion or emotion from even the most powerful points.