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Publisher's Summary

The New York Times best-selling author of The No Asshole Rule reads his guide on how to preserve civility, sanity, and success when facing a business world full of difficult people.

Since The No Asshole Rule became a national best seller a decade ago, Robert Sutton has been asked, in a thousand different ways, the best way to deal with an asshole. This new guide presents Sutton's signature prescriptive advice for everyone who is feeling oppressed, demeaned, or disrespected by people who treat them badly.

Drawing on a trove of real-life stories from people dealing with implacable jerks in every kind of setting, Sutton delivers a highly effective, methodical game plan, starting with a diagnosis: Exactly what kind of asshole are you dealing with? From there Sutton provides thoughtful, field-tested strategies aimed at specific asshole-deflecting goals - avoiding them, outwitting them, disarming them, and countering their negative influence. He even teaches you how to look inward to stifle your own jackass.

Equally useful and entertaining, The Asshole Survival Guide helps you develop a robust new outlook that can preserve the sanity of your workplace and personal life and stop all those perfectly good days from being ruined by some jerk.

©2017 Robert I. Sutton (P)2017 S&S Audio

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Situational Asshole Stories, with No Guidelines

Sutton provides interesting stories of dealing with assholes from a few real life business scenarios, a few public figures, his colleagues, and himself. His attempt to provide guidance often results in simply giving additional detail about the story he's chosen as the backdrop. The guidance that Sutton does give ultimately boils down to:
1. Evaluate yourself fairly; make sure you're not the asshole
2. Check your behavior when people treat you shitty to make sure you're not the asshole
3. If you're not the asshole, avoid instantaneous acts of revenge.
4. Be nice to the asshole and try to work through possible misunderstanding.
5. If the olive branch doesn't work, seclude yourself from the given asshole(s).
6. Reevaluate yourself again (perhaps interjected a few more times throughout)
7. Assemble a support group
8. Avoid reciprocating asshole behavior.
9. Under rare circumstances should you seek to avenge yourself.
10. Truthfully and wholehearted evaluate yourself and have willingness to change if you're the asshole.

I could have saved my money.

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Highly recommend!

We live in a world full of assholes. Sometimes we are that asshole! Great strategies for dealing with all kinds of assholes, including the one that you are.

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Essential Reading for Humanity

Thanks to Bob Sutton for sharing the benefit of years dedicated to this kind of research. The moment I picked up "The No Asshole Rule," the "light" went on. I didn't know how to "act" on the new knowledge, however. Was I coping well, or poorly? What was the right and wrong thing to do or not do? And, why me lol? This book was able to answer something I didn't have: perspective.

It springs off of years of original research revealing emotional context, actions taken or not taken, and their outcomes, good or bad. Sutton skillfully uses these real world stories to present his insights and recommendations. The advice would hardly be worthwhile, however, if Sutton didnt understand and practice these principles himself. However, it's clear he takes them to heart and practices good old fashioned humility and self-awareness, like any perennial wise person worth their salt.

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Tell Me Something I Didn’t Know

I didn’t gain any practical tips for surviving assholes in the workplace. I didn’t learn anything knew about why assholes behave the way they do and why people generally let them get away from it. My takeaways: either suck it up or leave.

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Good Book!

A nice short book that goes over ways to deal with the worst people in your life. Thankfully, I don't have any real a**holes in mine, but it has great advice for those times you have conflicts with others and, maybe more importantly, at the end of the book it goes over ways to look at your own behavior and make corrections if you're the a**hole. Would recommend this book!

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great food for thought

loved it. Allowed me to relate to my true life situations. Found myself rewinding a lot to get "it". Very well enunciated.

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Super helpful

It makes you think, laugh, and at times look in the mirror and think how you could be playing a role in the environment.

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No editor? No voice coach?

After listening to Mark Manson's The Subtle Art of not Giving a F..., this title caught my attention and I unfortunately wasted one of my audible credits on this. Was there nobody around when Mr. Sutton recorded himself reading this book? If you are around well-spoken people a lot and listen to audio books read by professional actors, this performance will disappoint you. Mr. Sutton pronounces words like 'escape' and 'especially' consistently as 'eXcape' and 'eXpesially'. Did nobody listen to this before it was published? He also has so many sentences that follow this pattern: "if you have people in your life that leave you bla, bla, bla, or bla", or "assholes like to bla, bla, bla, or bla whenever they...", or "sometimes when boss holes bla, bla, or bla the people that work for them." I wanted to like this book, but I cannot make it through, because the constant listing of 3 or 4 verbs or nouns is driving me nuts, and I just don't want to hear him say 'eXcape' and 'eXpecially' one more time. Please pay someone to edit your writing and someone to read your book next time. It will be a wise investment!

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Excellent Guide

I thought the subject was an excellent topic for personal growth, but found the book to be slightly less than I expected.

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  • maria
  • sherwood, oregon, United States
  • 09-25-17

saved my life

read this at just the right time to take control back. thank you very much

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