• The Asshole Survival Guide

  • How to Deal with People Who Treat You Like Dirt
  • By: Robert I. Sutton
  • Narrated by: Robert I. Sutton
  • Length: 5 hrs and 59 mins
  • 4.2 out of 5 stars (359 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

The New York Times best-selling author of The No Asshole Rule reads his guide on how to preserve civility, sanity, and success when facing a business world full of difficult people.

Since The No Asshole Rule became a national best seller a decade ago, Robert Sutton has been asked, in a thousand different ways, the best way to deal with an asshole. This new guide presents Sutton's signature prescriptive advice for everyone who is feeling oppressed, demeaned, or disrespected by people who treat them badly.

Drawing on a trove of real-life stories from people dealing with implacable jerks in every kind of setting, Sutton delivers a highly effective, methodical game plan, starting with a diagnosis: Exactly what kind of asshole are you dealing with? From there Sutton provides thoughtful, field-tested strategies aimed at specific asshole-deflecting goals - avoiding them, outwitting them, disarming them, and countering their negative influence. He even teaches you how to look inward to stifle your own jackass.

Equally useful and entertaining, The Asshole Survival Guide helps you develop a robust new outlook that can preserve the sanity of your workplace and personal life and stop all those perfectly good days from being ruined by some jerk.

©2017 Robert I. Sutton (P)2017 S&S Audio

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Situational Asshole Stories, with No Guidelines

Sutton provides interesting stories of dealing with assholes from a few real life business scenarios, a few public figures, his colleagues, and himself. His attempt to provide guidance often results in simply giving additional detail about the story he's chosen as the backdrop. The guidance that Sutton does give ultimately boils down to:
1. Evaluate yourself fairly; make sure you're not the asshole
2. Check your behavior when people treat you shitty to make sure you're not the asshole
3. If you're not the asshole, avoid instantaneous acts of revenge.
4. Be nice to the asshole and try to work through possible misunderstanding.
5. If the olive branch doesn't work, seclude yourself from the given asshole(s).
6. Reevaluate yourself again (perhaps interjected a few more times throughout)
7. Assemble a support group
8. Avoid reciprocating asshole behavior.
9. Under rare circumstances should you seek to avenge yourself.
10. Truthfully and wholehearted evaluate yourself and have willingness to change if you're the asshole.

I could have saved my money.

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No editor? No voice coach?

After listening to Mark Manson's The Subtle Art of not Giving a F..., this title caught my attention and I unfortunately wasted one of my audible credits on this. Was there nobody around when Mr. Sutton recorded himself reading this book? If you are around well-spoken people a lot and listen to audio books read by professional actors, this performance will disappoint you. Mr. Sutton pronounces words like 'escape' and 'especially' consistently as 'eXcape' and 'eXpesially'. Did nobody listen to this before it was published? He also has so many sentences that follow this pattern: "if you have people in your life that leave you bla, bla, bla, or bla", or "assholes like to bla, bla, bla, or bla whenever they...", or "sometimes when boss holes bla, bla, or bla the people that work for them." I wanted to like this book, but I cannot make it through, because the constant listing of 3 or 4 verbs or nouns is driving me nuts, and I just don't want to hear him say 'eXcape' and 'eXpecially' one more time. Please pay someone to edit your writing and someone to read your book next time. It will be a wise investment!

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cant make it past chapter 2!

I couldn't get past the second chapter.does it ever get to the actual book?He reads off a bunch of statistics for an entire chapter.He doesnt actually read them but just the number of statistics for each topic for the first 20 minutes!Awful.Sorry,I feel like it made me into a asshole!I'm just being honest.This cost over $14!

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Try a New Narrator

I understand that an author might want to be the one to read the audiobook -- or that the publisher might think this is a plus. But there are times, like here, where it would greatly enhance the book if a professional narrator read it. I have tried multiple times to listen to this -- it's a great subject, and the content seems interesting. But I can't do it.

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Highly recommend!

We live in a world full of assholes. Sometimes we are that asshole! Great strategies for dealing with all kinds of assholes, including the one that you are.

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Brace Yourself

As an academic leader for the last 28 years, I've been on a professional journey to promote well-being in the workplace. I have been especially interested in the phenomena of "difficult faculty," or in the parlance of this book, "assholes." I have led focus groups on the topic. When I bought this audiobook, I expected it to be the perfect adjunct to my own leadership development because I knew it would engage the scientific literature on assholes. In 2017, I was very likely on the same page as Dr. Sutton. But this was before I learned about the trauma-informed movement. The trauma-informed literature looks at "assholishness" not as a character flaw, but as a manifestation of an individual's life history and current life situation in the context of their environment. Trauma histories are actually commonplace in the US; two-thirds of Americans have experienced at least one Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE). These days, I try to see people through a "trauma lens." Accordingly, I found reading The Asshole Survival Guide unexpectedly jarring. I haven't heard someone call someone else an asshole in my professional circles in at least two years; not because they shy away from the word, but because they are less inclined to make the attribution. I am sure that many of Dr. Sutton's remedies for surviving assholes are effective, but I believe they would be just as effective, and probably even more effective, without characterizing the tormentors as assholes. Of course, book sales would plummet, and I don't begrudge Dr. Sutton for promoting his book sales. The choice of title was genius.

In addition to the tone of the content, the professionalism of the narration was very difficult to listen to. Certain mannerisms of the narrator, who was Dr. Sutton himself, were highly distracting. Every mispronunciation of "excape" and "exspecially" made me cringe involuntarily. I don't fault his dialect per se - he can speak however he wants - but it was just very hard to listen to. He also voiced monotonically, such that his pitch and cadence seemed to have no connection to the word-meanings. I was distracted by this as well. I found myself saying, "You shouldn't have said it that way" or "That word should not have been emphasized." Finally, I was distracted by his use of, "And I quote" before nearly every quotation. I have listened to dozens of history titles and found that historian authors seem to get their quotes across without using the phrase. Re-releasing the book with a professional actor or narrator may cause an upsurge in book sales.

In sum, I am ultimately better for reading this book. I learned some of the science and disagree with other reviewers who say it's all common sense. It's not. But the listening was hard-going.

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Great sanity check for those being tortured

I wish I had discovered this book earlier when I was at my last job with a psychopath boss who no one would stand up to. It's a practical guide with real, useful advice and helps you put the situation in perspective and re-examine your own unhelpful thought patterns. It's the friend you wish you had when you're being tortured by jerks at work!

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Essential Reading for Humanity

Thanks to Bob Sutton for sharing the benefit of years dedicated to this kind of research. The moment I picked up "The No Asshole Rule," the "light" went on. I didn't know how to "act" on the new knowledge, however. Was I coping well, or poorly? What was the right and wrong thing to do or not do? And, why me lol? This book was able to answer something I didn't have: perspective.

It springs off of years of original research revealing emotional context, actions taken or not taken, and their outcomes, good or bad. Sutton skillfully uses these real world stories to present his insights and recommendations. The advice would hardly be worthwhile, however, if Sutton didnt understand and practice these principles himself. However, it's clear he takes them to heart and practices good old fashioned humility and self-awareness, like any perennial wise person worth their salt.

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Good

Good. Learned a lot. Good sense of humor and examples. Jumped to the end chapters though. Too many stories not needed as I heard similar with his other book.

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Tell Me Something I Didn’t Know

I didn’t gain any practical tips for surviving assholes in the workplace. I didn’t learn anything knew about why assholes behave the way they do and why people generally let them get away from it. My takeaways: either suck it up or leave.

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