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Stop being a people pleaser! Learn to set boundaries and say no to people - without feeling guilty!

Are you fed up with people taking advantage of you? Are you tired of coworkers, friends, and family members demanding your time and expecting you to give it to them?

If so, The Art of Saying No is for you.

Imagine being able to turn down requests and decline invitations with confidence and poise. Imagine saying no to people asking you for favors, and inspiring their respect in the process.

Download The Art of Saying No: How to Stand Your Ground, Reclaim Your Time and Energy, and Refuse to Be Taken for Granted (Without Feeling Guilty!)

Amazon best-selling author Damon Zahariades provides a step-by-step, strategic guide for setting boundaries and developing the assertiveness you need to maintain them. You'll learn how to say no in every situation, at home and in the workplace, according to your convictions. And best of all, you'll discover how to get your friends, family members, bosses, coworkers, and neighbors to respect your boundaries and recognize your personal authority.

In The Art of Saying No, you'll discover:

  • My personal struggle with being a people pleaser (and how I overcame the habit!)
  • The top 11 reasons we tend to say yes, when we know we should say no
  • 10 simple strategies for turning people down with finesse
  • Why saying no to people doesn't make you a bad person (the opposite is true!)
  • The best way to develop the habit of setting personal and professional boundaries
  • How to know whether you're a people pleaser (and how to gauge the severity of the problem)

©2017 Damon Zahariades (P)2017 Damon Zahariades

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Good listening

Compulsive “yes” to every request is not my problem, rather finding nice ways to decline unnecassary requests from zero-tolerance people. I did find parts of the book useful for that, especially regarding respectful “no’s”. It was good to listen to.

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Assertiveness is a Muscle

A thorough treatment if how to recognize if you are a people-pleaser and need to grow in assertiveness, and then everyday ways to practice building that muscle (hint: start with low resistance and work your way up the stack). Simple but not easy. Well done.

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Don't Waste Your Time

This book is generic. You've already heard or concluded everything the author has to say. I feel like I could have wrote something better. Very little insight is offered on this subject by this book. Not worth the time. It may be good for junior high or high school kids but not adults with a lot life experience. Furthermore, the assertiveness problems the author presents is only from a first world privileged position i.e. Someone getting your order wrong at Starbucks. Really? There's real issues in the world. I recommend reading Brene Brown's books instead. Her honesty through vulnerability approach to solving people pleasing has been working well for me. Save your money or audible credits!

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Awesome!

Very well written and equally well presented. The strategies listed here are simple and yet very workable!

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Extremely beneficial. Highly recommended.

Extremely beneficial. Highly recommended for anyone who wants to learn how to say no with confidence, in their personal life, employment, and in business. One of the important lessons I learned from this book is that the saying YES to people and perceived opportunities which not in line with your goals it’s saying YES to yourself. Thank you, Damon. Great work!

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Great book.

Great book on this topic. I highly recommend it to everyone who struggles with this.

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Great Read

Excellent delivery. Great pace and voice fluctuations that keeps the interest. I especially connected with being pre prepared with the comfort of saying No so it is not so difficult during unexpected requests. Also I can utilize the "I don't" prepared statement for myself.

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Concise and clear

A clear and easy listen that gives straight forward practical advice. Easy to review as and when required. The narrator was also pleasant to listen to Great work thanks

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A MUST READ!!!!

This is beneficial in all aspects of life. You will not regret your decision.

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Simple and Helpful

This book really inspired me to be assertive and ground my self in saying no. A no to someone is a yes to me, and that’s huge!

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  • charlotte
  • 04-26-20

Just didn't get to the point.

just tell me which lines to use. Thats all i need to know. Too many examples, literally don't even know what to say. Did not learn anything 🙈

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  • 03-22-19

Great book!

Just the right length, lots of info and tips without saying the same thing over and over like some other books of this type. Really enjoyed it

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  • Stuart Bugden
  • 11-14-17

It could help some, but it was lacking

The book had potential and some elements were very good. However, it is far too short and I never really appreciate adverts in a book I've bought. worth a read, but don't think it'll change your world

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  • Owen
  • 10-31-20

Very good, and with practical, applicable advice

Recommended for anyone who is a chronic people-pleaser. The advice provided is simple and easy to try.

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  • ALISON HYNDS
  • 10-04-20

Boring 💤

Had 'some' good advice, but far too repetitive I got fed up of listening half way through every chapter.

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  • David Roberts
  • 06-02-20

Good book, with some subtlety.

Decent book on assertiveness with some simple examples of different scenarios where the listener may be stronger or weaker at drawing boundaries, as such it demonstrates a degree of subtlety.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-23-20

Loved it!

Lots of useful hints and tips, I would highly recommend. Easy to listen to and quite short at 2 hours so information is a absorbed effortlessly.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 05-05-20

If you value yourself then read this book

We all need to learn how to say no gracefully at some point in our lives. Some more than others and this book tells you how. It’s especially useful for diehard people pleasers and parents that are easily manipulated. It’s a very short read full of lots of goodness. V Rattan. Ex-people pleaser

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  • Denise Pollard
  • 03-30-20

The Art of Saying No

Very interesting and informative on how subtly and how many different ways to say “no” without causing offence. Good read!

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  • Mr. David Maginnes
  • 02-02-20

How to rephrase what we all need to say...

it can be hard to say no... but it turns out there are many to do so.

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  • Asad
  • 11-08-19

liberating

loved it! now it's much easier for me to say No to people and have more time for myself.