• Stop People Pleasing & Be Unapologetic

  • Just Say No, Kick That Guilt to the Curb, Stop Being a Pushover & Don't Care About What Others Think
  • By: Savera Anbereen
  • Narrated by: Claire Kander
  • Length: 2 hrs and 28 mins
  • 4.9 out of 5 stars (16 ratings)

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Stop People Pleasing & Be Unapologetic

By: Savera Anbereen
Narrated by: Claire Kander
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Publisher's Summary

Are you tired of saying yes to people so often that you constantly feel burnt-out and exhausted? Do you want to know how to say no and stop bending over backward just to please everyone except yourself? Then I advise you to keep reading. 

It’s never fun spending your time drowning in the shadows of others because you don’t have the heart to say no. Many people walk through their life with muffled voices and compromised needs because they give too much of themselves away to others. They sacrifice their personal freedom for a measly sense of approval, all an attempt to remain in good graces and evade conflict. 

But the truth is, you can’t live your life in hiding. You can’t squander your own desires and needs forever just to please the people in your life.

In Stop People Pleasing & Be Unapologetic, you will discover:

  • The most common characteristics indicative of a people-pleaser, so that you can make note of the traits that resonate with you and your experiences
  • The detrimental costs of continued people-pleasing that you need to become aware of to take control of your life again
  • A list of common root causes for people-pleasing behaviors, with a detailed look at parent-child relationships
  • How to conquer your fear and say no to others without being rude or feeling guilty afterwards
  • How to take back your power and stop apologizing, understanding when it’s appropriate to apologize, and knowing how to apologize the right way
  • How to stop letting people walk all over you and saying good-bye to being a pushover forever
  • Actionable tips and tricks to practice in your life to break away from people-pleasing once and for all
  • And so much more value.

You've served your life for others for a long time. More than anything, you deserve to choose how you spend your time. You deserve to be bold and live unapologetically. Buy the book, and change your life.

©2021 Savera Anbereen (P)2021 Savera Anbereen

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No in-depth actions or instructions given

I was liking the book ok until she got to the “over weight people won’t do shit to fix themselves” portion. Really? It was unnecessarily rude and insulting and had nothing to do with how to not be a people pleaser. Other than that, there’s really no actual tips on how to change. Say this instead of that is the main advice given.

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Awesome book!

This book was so very helpful to me. It is like it was written just for me. I am actually going to listen to it again! I give 5 stars on all levels!

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Practical advice

This audio book is full of practical advise that can be used right away. I highly recommend it.

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Awesome!

This book is truly something! As weird as it sounds, I used to have a hard time saying no to anyone. This made work very hard for me since I would always pick up extra things to do. I eventually became tired of doing so much and saying so little so I purchased this book. This was a great decision, and honestly, I think this can change my life.

Another one of the problems that this book assessed was my "sorry" addiction. Even when a problem wasn't my fault, I got into a mind space to always say sorry.

I would 100% recommend this book!

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A beautiful step on my journey

This book is incredibly relatable! I loved the author’s background story about being a compulsive people pleaser, which made me feel like the next step, the one where I can detach myself from the hold of what people think, is fully accessible right here and now. I spent most of my life being a pushover, being a target for manipulation, and thinking that this was the way to be kind and to be accepted by others. This book taught me to find balance between valuing certain opinions with crushing my own will. My adult life has been driven by the search for authenticity, and this was a beautiful step on my journey.

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Great advice!

I like the way this book teaches that it’s ok to say no. It’s ok to be your authentic self and there is nothing wrong with self-love. Great teachings!

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This is the book I needed 10 Years ago !!!!!

Omg, this book has literally reinforced the thoughts I have been struggling with lately. I have always been a people pleaser, and a little bit of a pushover, and lately I have just been sick of it. I have been trying to establish clear boundaries in my life and putting myself first. This book is perfect for anyone who needs guidance on how to focus and prioritize yourself and your goals without feeling guilty. I appreciate this book so much!

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Great book!

Especially as a female, I always apologize, the word "sorry" is just a normal word I say all the time. This is the case with many people, I encounter many females who do exactly that. Some males also do that, but more with females. You want to listen to this book, truly stop pleasing people. Great book, great writing, and great narration. Awesome job!

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"You Aren't French Fries"..

Are you trying to please everyone?. This very well narrated audiobook will take you through each and every step on how to avoid being a people pleaser. After all, "You aren't french fries". Who doesn't love French Fries?, this doesn't have to be you, get comfortable with not having to please everyone in order to feel good. Thank you for this excellent book, I absolutely loved it.

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SAVING GRACE

This was a really enlightening book, and I loved seeing the author’s personal journey come to life in the last chapter. I have always bent over backwards for people my entire life. I’m the type of person who has a hard time saying no. I always end up doing favors that I don’t want to because I feel guilty. I always catch myself saying sorry for things I didn’t even do. I know I’ve been a pushover for a majority of my life. But I was reaching a breaking point. I wanted out, something to help me. The way this audiobook was written, I know the author has dealt with the same issues and understands my struggles. The author spewed so much knowledge and practical advice in this book. I was overwhelmed, but in a good way. I feel equipped to make changes and take my life back. I love the little anecdotes in the audiobook. I LOVE this book. I feel more empowered to be better for myself and step into discomfort to break my people pleasing habits. I really can’t thank the author enough. I SERIOUSLY recommend this book. For real.

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  • miss fiona fraser
  • 01-06-22

love this book

Absolutely love this book. Has really helped me to stop people pleasing. I didn't realise that people were taking advantage of me.

Love the fact that there are so many helpful tips on how to change my habits. Thank you 😊 x

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  • Bike Lady
  • 08-17-21

i learned so much

this book is really good. it is short, yes, but contains everything you need to know to get to the root cause of the people pleasing disease. i am going to have a second go at this book to absorb all the information therein. highly recommend.

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  • Chandler Kitching
  • 05-29-21

This is the most insane book I've listened to

Not sorry at all. If you bend over backwards at your own expense, then you need this book. Nothing has helped me more in life than this advice. Honestly, it makes me want to scream how many years I put up with people's garbage. I wish I had this book 10 years ago.

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  • steven christie
  • 05-14-21

No more mr nice guy!

I bought this audiobook as I'm a total pushover and can't say no to anything or anyone, this book is full of excellent little tips on how to stop being a people pleaser and take control for yourself. I always put others first and I'm sick of it , I feel the guilt if I say no to anything but after listening to this book I have regained my confidence and no is exactly what I'm going to be saying from now on . no more worrying about pleasing others, im taking my life back! recommend if u are in the same position i was in.

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  • Silvie
  • 05-10-21

Lots of good advice

This book is full of good advice. It gives lots of info on how to stop pleasing others, and how to say No. I like chapter 9 a lot, where the book is giving lots of tips on how to create healthy habits .

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  • Amz_shopper
  • 05-09-21

Needed to hear this

I’m a victim in trying to please those around me but I never would take my own feelings into consideration. Savera Anbereen did an amazing job in really digging home on what I needed to hear. I need to stick up for myself and be confident with what I want to do FIRST, but anyone else. Great narration by Claire Kander

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  • zoeks
  • 05-08-21

So many useful tips!

I can be such a pushover and this book was perfect for me. I love all the examples she includes and tips for being more unapologetic while still prioritizing relationships. I used to think that I had to jeopardize my happiness for the sake of my relationships, but this book teaches that you can have the best of both worlds. Loved it! Thanks for the great book.

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  • Hotel And Co
  • 05-08-21

Great Self-motivational Book

This is a great book. I was always pleasing others and always used to say yes. This book has enabled me to learn to say no where I am unable to complete a task. A great self-motivational and self-discipline book.