• Self-Reg

  • How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life
  • By: Dr. Stuart Shanker
  • Narrated by: Robert Fass
  • Length: 9 hrs and 2 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook
  • Release date: 06-21-16
  • Language: English
  • Publisher: Penguin Audio
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars (85 ratings)

Regular price: $28.00

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Publisher's Summary

The first parenting book to bring the science and psychology of children's behavior together to build brain/body awareness for self-regulation and success.

Self-Reg is a groundbreaking book that presents an entirely new understanding of your child's emotions and behavior and serves as a practical guide for parents to help their kids engage calmly and successfully in learning and life. Rooted in decades of clinical practice and research by leading child psychologist Dr. Stuart Shanker, Self-Reg realigns the power of the parent-child relationship for positive change.

Self-regulation is the nervous system's way of responding to stress. We are seeing a generation of children and teens with excessively high levels of stress and, as a result, an explosion of emotional, social, learning, behavior, and physical health problems. But few parents recognize the hidden stressors that their children are struggling with physiologically as well as socially and emotionally. An entrenched view of childrearing is seeing our children as lacking self-control or willpower, but the real basis for these problems lies in excessive stress.

Self-regulation can dramatically improve a child's mood, attention, and concentration. It can help children to feel empathy and to develop the sorts of virtues that every parent knows are vital for their child's long-term well-being. Self-regulation brings about profound and lasting transformation that continues to mature throughout life.

Shanker translates decades of his findings from working with children into practical, prescriptive advice for parents, giving them concrete ways to develop their self-regulation skills and teach their children how to do the same for optimal learning, social, and emotional growth as well as for overall well-being.

©2016 Stuart Shanker (P)2016 Penguin Audio

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Phenomenal

I've read over 30 parenting books in the past couple of years, including excellent pieces by Tsabari, Greene, Markham, & Siegal, but I found Self-Reg really touched a chord, and is the perfect complement for those other works, which I'll continue to revisit. Self-Reg has the advantage of being something that I'm already using myself, for myself, not just in my role as a parent, but also as a physician, educator, husband, artist, and human. The narrator's soothing voice made learning the material easier, very much in keeping with the basic premise of Self-Reg. It has even changed my meditation practice to a practice of self-regulation, and that has made all the difference. I believe I'm already a better parent, ironically, just as my child became a better son. :-) Go figure! I really like this book, I just started my second read/listen, this time via Kindle version.

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Very helpful for all parents and teachers!

This helped me understand the way the brains of my children (all 7 of them) are developing, how media and food affects them, and how I can get through to them in stressful times by helping to calm them and by staying calm myself. Fascinating book.

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Better books out there

This book had a lot of info and background but really nothing in the way of what to do about it. It's not the first book I've read that deals with these same things & was definitely the least helpful. The Explosive Child & What Your Explosive Child is Trying to Tell You we're way more helpful in way to help with regulation even if your child isn't necessarily an exploder.

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Lens changing look at your kids and self

The information conveyed in this story has been a game changer as a parent. It has helped me view my children's behavior through an entirely different lens and has helped us through the ups and downs of parenting. I highly recommend this read for parents and educators. #Parentingtips #Lenschange #Forthekids #Tagsgiving #Sweepstakes

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Helpful Reference for Entire Family

My husband and I found this to be a very helpful reference for working with our kids and also ourselves. Preventative maintenance is it concept that we haven't really placed as much effort on now that our kids are older and we were reminded through this book to watch for the signs and prevent chaos before it happens. The science behind the book is also very helpful information to refer to.

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Great information!!

I enjoyed this book and although this information is not a surprise it is a nice reminder! I especially like how it talks in present time with present struggles with some recent sound studies to back it up.

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An answer to a teachers prayer.

This has helped me look at my students in a new way. I can now support their needs and help them grow and learn.

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Illuminating

This book really helped me understand some of my child's behaviors, and better yet what to do about them. I do wish the action steps provided were a little more robust, but just understanding my role better will, I think, be immensely helpful for both of us.

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Disappointed

Here I see 11 ratings of 5 stars and think this must be an awesome book. Not the case. Have to wonder who wrote the reviews.

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