Our Mothers, Ourselves
How Understanding Your Mother's Influence Can Set You on a Path to a Better Life
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Henry Cloud
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In Our Mothers, Ourselves, Henry Cloud and John Townsend show how understanding how our mothers have profoundly influenced our lives can set us on a path toward wholeness and growth.
No one has influenced the person you are today like your mother. The way she handled your needs as a child has shaped your worldview, your relationships, your marriage, your career, your self-image - your life.
Our Mothers, Ourselves can help you identify areas that need reshaping, to make positive choices for personal change, and to establish a mature relationship with Mom today.
- The Phantom Mom
- The China Doll Mom
- The Controlling Mom
- The Trophy Mom
- The Still-the-Boss Mom
- The American Express Mom
You'll learn how your mom affected you as a child and may still be affecting you today. Our Mothers, Ourselves is a biblical, realistic, and empowering route to wholeness and growth, to deeper and more satisfying bonds with your family, friends, and spouse - and to a new, healthier way of relating to your mother.
This book was previously titled The Mom Factor.
©2015 Henry Cloud and John Townsend (P)2015 ZondervanListeners also enjoyed...
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5 out of 5 stars
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Very insightful
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- BLopez
- 05-24-19
worth listening to
I really needed to hear this book. It has opened my mind to have more grace for my mom. I have learned how to forgive my mom God's way. And how to move forward in our relationship.
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- Sonya
- 08-23-16
Good information!
This would be useful to nearly anyone who has/had a mom. I plan to share it.
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- 08-29-18
Very good!
This is a great book, and it's very eye opening. I would highly recommend it to everyone.
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- 01-12-20
Great resource.
Another book by these 2 that most women should probably read. Before seeking a counselor, read this first.
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- Thomas
- 03-14-18
Powerful
Very easy to listen too. This book is full of practical advise while not condoning mothers not the children.
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- Mitchell Packett
- 02-01-18
a necessary read!
find yourself so that you can offer your true self to your children and to the world
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VERY TIMELY
Finally... I was " Let off 'The Hook' ".....
" Thank you, Lord of 'Grace' and 'Mercy'....
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- O
- 05-23-17
More for mothers to read, not children
This book is more for mothers with children than daughters or children. It gives more parental advice versus insight for the children.
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- Clifton Brantley
- 03-03-19
Abridged, not the full book.
Excellent book. The only negative, and it’s a big one, is that it says it is unabridged but it is not.
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