Living in the Solution

Discovering Your Authentic Self

By: Verda La Rue

Narrated by: Meredith Marshall

This audiobook is about codependency--the addiction to other people--and attempting to control addictions, opinions, and behaviors. It covers the concept of addiction to dysfunctional and toxic relationship processes and identifies the main "process-drugs" people use to try to navigate through relationships. It discusses how one loses themselves in an attempt to find love and belonging in dysfunctional ways, and how this does not work for healthy relationships. After thoroughly identifying the disease processes, this audiobook educates and guides the listener to practice daily living in the solution rather than in the problem. It is a complete paradigm shift in thinking and is a life changer. It maps out the Codependent Anonymous (CoDA) 12 steps as a solution to restoring that lost relationship with oneself.

CoDA recovery is the final frontier of recoveries. AA and NA are necessary to get free of the chemicals, but the CoDA steps, worked with a CoDA sponsor, give us emotional sobriety. This level of emotional sobriety includes healthy relationships, healthy boundaries, and the ability to have a trusting, healthy, and supportive friendship with ourselves first, and then--by extension--with others.

The breakthrough information in this book is how our dysfunctional relationship patterns are actually process-drugs that we are addicted to and need to surrender to get a clear perspective of who we are and what we deserve in our relationships. There are two chapters entirely devoted to setting healthy boundaries, which are key to learning how to take care of ourselves in any relationship--even the difficult ones.

I define codependency as “repetitive self-abandonment, and an unconscious emotional addiction to dysfunctional relationship processes as an attempt to attain a sense of power and control in our relationships”. We know it is an addiction, because the CoDA 12-step recovery program is so effective in treating it. Codependency is not a mental disorder. There is recovery from it if one is willing to show up for themselves, attend CoDA meetings, and work the 12 steps with a trusted mentor, guide, or sponsor.

©2021 Verda LaRue (P)2022 Meredith Frances Marshall

Insightful journey through codependency

For someone just learning about codependency, this was a really great book to listen to. I learned a lot ! The narrator had a wonderful voice ,which made it even better !

Excellent read

This book was excellent and broke down codependency at its finest! Would recommend to anyone who is in recovery or sufferers from codependency!

Incredibly insightful-

For those looking for a real change, a transformation of consciousness an engaging and profound work on recovery from co-dependency. Incredibly helpful, insightful, action oriented, read in a vibrant and inviting way. I listen on repeat as it ushers me to a hopeful, self loving future!

Want to heal your relationships?

This was an incredible read and audio experience! Simple, straightforward, and practical tools for understanding and changing the way we act in relationships- by healing the relationship with ourselves. Stop looking “out there” when you can live in the solution in you!