Listen Like You Mean It

Reclaiming the Lost Art of True Connection

By: Ximena Vengoechea

Narrated by: Ximena Vengoechea

Length: 7 hrs and 57 mins

Publisher's summary

“Full of revealing, instantly applicable ideas for leveraging your strengths and overcoming your weaknesses.” (Adam Grant, author of Think Again and Originals, and host of the TED podcast WorkLife)

For many of us, listening is simply something we do on autopilot. We hear just enough of what others say to get our work done, maintain friendships, and be polite with our neighbors. But we miss crucial opportunities to go deeper - to give and receive honest feedback, to make connections that will endure for the long haul, and to discover who people truly are at their core.

Fortunately, listening can be improved - and Ximena Vengoechea can show you how. In Listen Like You Mean It, she offers an essential listening guide for our times, revealing tried-and-true strategies honed in her own research sessions and drawn from interviews with marriage counselors, podcast hosts, life coaches, journalists, filmmakers, and other listening experts. Through Vengoechea’s set of scripts, key questions, and exercises, you’ll learn to:

• Quickly build rapport with strangers
• Ask the right questions to deepen a conversation
• Pause at the right time to encourage vulnerability
• Navigate a conversation that’s gone off the rails

Now more than ever, we need to feel heard, connected, and understood in a world that keeps turning up the volume. Warm, funny, and immensely practical, this book shows you how.

* This audiobook includes a downloadable PDF of illustrations, charts, and exercises.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio.

©2021 Ximena Vengoechea (P)2021 Penguin Audio

Critic reviews

"Could there be a more relevant book for our times? While there are plenty of books on persuasion, none tells us how to influence others through the quiet art of understanding. Vengoechea implores us to truly hear other people (maybe for the first time) and is the perfect author of a book on why we should listen like we mean it." (Nir Eyal, bestselling author of Hooked and Indistractable)

"This zestful guide will inspire readers to listen better." (Publishers Weekly)

“You know listening is one of the best ways to learn and connect, but how much time have you actually spent analyzing your style and skills? As a user experience researcher, Ximena Vengoechea specializes in the art and science of listening. Her book is full of revealing, instantly applicable ideas for leveraging your strengths and overcoming your weaknesses.” (Adam Grant, author of Think Again and Originals, and host of the TED podcast WorkLife)

Loved this book

I really enjoyed this book, and wish I had heard about it and read it many years ago. There are so many great tips and aha moments for personal and business conversations and relationships. This is going on my recommendation list to my friends and clients.

Good Read

This was a great, educational read (listen). I was able to see tendencies in my listening habits, provided me with awareness.

Isolating Introvert

I'm making poster size charts to put on a wall at home so we can get better at relationship. It does trickle into all areas wherever people are. My family didn't communicate well, lots of abuse and mental illness too.I am having to learn to connect with others instead of isolate. This has truly helped me gain confidence. Love that she included charts and visuals to remember key points to apply immediately.

Great way to explore communication

This book is such a great way to explore more if your communication skills and how to go about certain situations, especially work