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Jealousy: A Psychologist’s Guide to Overcome Envy, Codependency & Possessiveness in Any Relationship - Trust, Love & Be Happy

Psychology Self-Help, Book 10
Narrated by: Cathi Colas
Series: Psychology Self-Help Books, Book 10
Length: 1 hr and 55 mins
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Imagine how different your life would be if you knew how to deal with jealousy effectively; to stop this negative emotion from damaging your life and relationships.

Almost every person will suffer from bouts of jealous behavior at some stage in life; it’s unavoidable. But it's not the little moments of envy that are the problem, it's the crippling forms of chronic jealousy we feel toward others that harm us the most - especially within romantic and intimate relationships. Most people simply aren’t equipped with the right emotional control and rational outlook to deal with these instances in a proper manner.

Katherine Chambers is an ex Stanford psychologist who specializes in all forms neuroscientific and psychotherapy subjects. However, not until she left college life and entered the "real world" did she begin to understand these theoretical topics in a practical sense. Over the past 15 years, she has built a multi-six figure consulting business and a family of her own.

In this insightful and functional audiobook, Chambers gives listeners a firsthand look into the overriding concepts of jealousy, as well as a practical real-life guide on how to:

  • Spot the traits of jealousy within yourself and others
  • Combat codependency and addiction to other humans
  • Understand the factors that can drive your partner away
  • Strategies to increase your overall self-esteem (critical for overcoming jealousy)
  • Identifying jealousy triggers and how to defuse them
  • Understand the four attachment styles and how they effect your relationships
  • Communication advice to reconnect with a loved one
  • Emotional recontextualization techniques to gain clearer perspectives
  • And much more
©2018 Katherine Chambers (P)2018 Katherine Chambers

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Really wanted to like this book but it fell flat

Given her background I was really hoping the author would delve into the nuances of jealousy a bit more, but instead the book just covers the most obvious components of jealousy in relationships. I also didn't really like the anecdote where she told her friend to remember that someone else had it worse than him to "shift his perspective".

Sure, gratitude practice can be helpful, but it's also okay to feel bothered by things no matter how good your life is otherwise.

She also talks a lot about how jealousy is unhealthy, but what about using it as a tool? For example, if you're not normally a jealous person, then sometimes jealousy can be a strong indicator that something is wrong with your relationship.

Her advice (to my understanding) is to just learn how to ignore your jealousy... but what about the times it's there for a good reason?

I agree that there are some types of jealousy that *are* very unhealthy, and it can be easy to overdo it. But sometimes in abusive relationships, one partner will purposely try to make the other jealous to keep control over them. In that case, it's better to recognize *why* the jealousy is happening and root out if it's a general, all the time, irrational sort of jealousy *or* a warning sign that something else is very off.

I personally think *any* jealousy should be addressed by both partners *together* in a relationship, because it's a problem that both can contribute to and can help to solve.

Maybe I misunderstood the point of the book... In that case, I apologize. This is just what I understood from the parts of the book I listened to. I think unfortunately I'll have to return this one.

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