adbl_ms_membershipImage_includedwith_altText_B076FLV3HT
adbl_ms_membershipImage_includedwith_altText_B076FLV3HT

1 audiobook of your choice.
Stream or download thousands of included titles.
$14.95 a month after 30 day trial. Cancel anytime.
Buy for $24.50

Buy for $24.50

Pay using card ending in
By confirming your purchase, you agree to Audible's Conditions of Use and Amazon's Privacy Notice. Taxes where applicable.

Publisher's Summary

Fascinating patient stories and dynamic exercises help you connect to healing emotions, ease anxiety and depression, and discover your authentic self. 

Sara suffered a debilitating fear of asserting herself. Spencer experienced crippling social anxiety. Bonnie was shut down, disconnected from her feelings. These patients all came to psychotherapist Hilary Jacobs Hendel seeking treatment for depression, but in fact none of them were chemically depressed. Rather, Jacobs Hendel found that they'd all experienced traumas in their youth that caused them to put up emotional defenses that masqueraded as symptoms of depression. Jacobs Hendel led these patients and others toward lives newly capable of joy and fulfillment through an empathic and effective therapeutic approach that draws on the latest science about the healing power of our emotions. 

Whereas conventional therapy encourages patients to talk through past events that may trigger anxiety and depression, accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy (AEDP), the method practiced by Jacobs Hendel and pioneered by Diana Fosha, PhD, teaches us to identify the defenses and inhibitory emotions (shame, guilt, and anxiety) that block core emotions (anger, sadness, fear, disgust, joy, excitement, and sexual excitement). Fully experiencing core emotions allows us to enter an openhearted state where we are calm, curious, connected, compassionate, confident, courageous, and clear. 

In It's Not Always Depression, Jacobs Hendel shares a unique and pragmatic tool called the Change Triangle - a guide to carry you from a place of disconnection back to your true self. In this audiobook, Jacobs Hendel teaches lay listeners and helping professionals alike:
 

  • Why all emotions - even the most painful ones - have value. 
  • How to identify emotions and the defenses we put up against them. 
  • How to get to the root of anxiety - the most common mental illness of our time. 
  • How to have compassion for the child you were and the adult you are. 

Jacobs Hendel provides navigational tools, body and thought exercises, candid personal anecdotes, and profound insights gleaned from her patients' remarkable breakthroughs. She shows us how to work the Change Triangle in our everyday lives and chart a deeply personal, powerful, and hopeful course to psychological well-being and emotional engagement. 

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying PDF will be available in your Audible Library along with the audio. 

©2018 Hilary Jacobs Hendel (P)2018 Random House Audio

What listeners say about It's Not Always Depression

Average Customer Ratings
Overall
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    258
  • 4 Stars
    35
  • 3 Stars
    12
  • 2 Stars
    6
  • 1 Stars
    6
Performance
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    201
  • 4 Stars
    40
  • 3 Stars
    13
  • 2 Stars
    4
  • 1 Stars
    4
Story
  • 4.5 out of 5 stars
  • 5 Stars
    201
  • 4 Stars
    31
  • 3 Stars
    13
  • 2 Stars
    4
  • 1 Stars
    4

Reviews - Please select the tabs below to change the source of reviews.

Sort by:
Filter by:
  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars

Simple and Profound

I was very surprised and delighted by how easy this book was to understand. It was very important to me because I have witnessed how tenacious my own defences are when trying to make emotional connections. The process is not easy and must be undertaken gently and with a great deal of self compassion. The author explains her techniques in a clear, jargon free manner and I was able to put them into practice right away.

The second thing I really loved about the audio book was that it was voiced by the author. She really did a great job and comes across as a sincere, open hearted person.

16 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Amazing!

Everyone should read this book. I'm a therapist and plan to give it to my family and refer it to all of my clients!

11 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Amazing

Highly recommend to anyone wanting to understand how to deal with emotions and how to respond when they overwhelm you! Changed my life!

9 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    3 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    3 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    3 out of 5 stars

Maybe for practitioners....

Not my favorite. Listening to this book was like reading IKEA assembly instructions. This might be something counselors enjoy although I felt there was a bit too much of a what “I” did, then “I”, “I” wanted etc. from the author. Didn’t enjoy the referenced PDFs throughout since it’s a audio book, wish there was a way to skip over those plug ins. Overall the book was - ok. Nothing so enlightening that will change your life but I hope someone gets something out of it.

6 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Wow! Great! Something I’ve grasped and might use!

This book helps with your emotions instead of blocking them. I feel better after listening to it! My bad feelings are still there but now I feel like I can handle them! The book has a great system of dealing with our emotions and feelings.

5 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

100% Recommend (By Therapist)

I am a therapist who had no exposure to AEDP or the Change Triangle Approach before listening to "It's Not Always Depression". This book has changed how I conceptualize and treat clients I see for psychotherapy for the better - it dovetails with what I've learned from Internal Family Systems work. The descriptions, case examples/stories, and exercises provided in the book really help you "live and breath" this self-work. It also doesn't hurt that Hilary Jacobs Hendel is an amazing audiobook narrator! It kept my attention the entire time. Highly recommend to anyone who wants to improve their wellness or therapists who want to improve their psychotherapy practice!

3 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    4 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Very useful self help book for emotional healing

Hilary Hendel provides an insightful and accessible interpretation of attachment psychotherapy. Although this book can be used as a “stand alone” I found it to be a powerful adjunct to working with an attachment therapist. The combination of case narratives, explanations of theory and exercises for the reader both hold our attention and invite active involvement in our personal emotional healing.

3 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Great book

I got what I was hoping to get from this book. It explores deeply how mindfulness can fill the gaps and problems that we create by ignoring or inhibiting our natural emotions. I loved it.

3 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Seriously Amazing!

This is one I want to listen to over and over again. There is so much in here, its amazing! This is a great resource for any stage you are in with therapy, either not having gone at all or if you have gone for years and anything in between.

2 people found this helpful

  • Overall
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Performance
    5 out of 5 stars
  • Story
    5 out of 5 stars

Phenomenal - Gives Me Hope

I can’t adequately articulate how resonant the principles in this book are to me. At the beginning of 2019, I was introduced to childhood attachment theory, and the realizations it sparked in my mind and body brought me into an open hearted state... but I still didn’t have the language that place, and eventually - after a lifetime of feeling BAD - I began to fear NOT feeling GOOD, which became a self-fulfilling prophecy. This year has been perhaps the hardest of my life, which is saying a lot compared to the year my dad committed suicide, or the spiritual abuse I experienced in the church I gave myself to. I can’t help but think that I have so much unlearning to do. It is daunting. On the change triangle, it makes me feel anxious, and - though I’m new to this - perhaps my defense is simply avoidance. Procrastination. Learning more without implementation. Well, I KNOW I need to read this again, and spend time with the exercises. Because I KNOW what emotional awareness feels like now - perhaps for the first time in my life. I have experienced the calm, clear, confident, courageous, compassionate, connected and curious me, and I don’t want to lose him again. Extremely grateful for this resource. Thank you for writing it!

2 people found this helpful