It Begins with You

The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life

By: Jillian Turecki

Narrated by: Jillian Turecki

THE INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES AND USA TODAY BESTSELLER

Oprah Daily Best Self-Help Books for Personal Growth in 2025 – New York Post Best of the Month

The beloved relationship coach, teacher, and host of the top relationship podcast Jillian on Love reveals nine core truths about love and self-acceptance and provides powerful self-healing techniques and strategies to help us repair our relationship with ourselves and start building the rewarding relationships we deserve.

Jillian Turecki’s holistic, compassionate, yet no-nonsense approach to love has attracted a devoted following of millions. In her highly anticipated debut book, she makes clear that if you want a meaningful relationship filled with connection, security, and intimacy, you have to look within. The common denominator in all your relationships is you.

Drawing from decades of experience helping clients heal themselves and their relationships, It Begins with You introduces the 9 core truths we must accept in order to change our lives:

• Truth 1: It begins with you.
• Truth 2: The mind is a battlefield.
• Truth 3: Lust is not the same thing as love.
• Truth 4: You have to love yourself.
• Truth 5: You must speak up and tell the truth.
• Truth 6: You need to be your best self (even after the honeymoon).
• Truth 7: You cannot convince someone to love you.
• Truth 8: No one is coming to save you.
• Truth 9: You must make peace with your parents.

Blending therapeutic strategies, somatic techniques, client case studies, practical tools, tips, and guiding questions, It Begins with You gives us a roadmap to finally start doing the work needed to love ourselves and find the love we deserve. It's never too late to choose yourself.

Great book

I really like the content but I think the author didn’t do a good job of narrating…

Authentic and profound

Listening to Jillian felt like I had a friend sitting on the couch next to me, giving me sound and straight forward advice. Going into 2025, her book is giving me confidence in myself to start focusing on myself and healing the parts of me that I thought love could fix. I know now that I need to love myself first.

Love yourself 1st by reading this book and really listening.

I love Jillian’s voice as it provided calm encouragement to tune into valuable insights into what I needed to hear and understand about myself present and past. I truly appreciate the steps/suggestions of How or what to do about specific topics. Thank you for writing this and helping me learn how to love myself better.

Good information.

Great information on how to forgive yourself and learn how to recognize your attachment style. Follow the nine steps in this book to find a healthy relationship full of love and respect.

Meaningful relationships reflect the love you practice internally.

When we stop waiting for others to fill our gaps, and instead take ownership, relationships shift from fragile transactions to conscious partnerships.