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Publisher's Summary

Everyone knows that it is the give-and-take of negotiation that enables decisions to be made, problems to be solved, needs to be satisfied - in our professional as well as our personal lives. But where does that leave you when you confront someone who has no intention of negotiating fairly or in good faith? How can you find common ground when your opponent - an angry boss, an unreasonable client, a deceitful colleague, an insecure business partner, a stubborn spouse - refuses to give an inch? How, in short, can you get to "yes" when someone else says "no"?

In Getting Past No, Dr. Ury offers his unique five-step system to dismantle stone walls, disarm tough bargainers, deflect attacks, and dodge dirty tricks. Dr. Ury's method of breakthrough negotiation depends not on scoring a win over your opponent - but on winning him over. Getting Past No offers specific techniques and proven strategies designed to identify the problem, develop practical proposals, and invent creative options that satisfy both sides' needs.

Whether you're dealing with an unruly teenager or an office bully, Dr. Ury's method will help you gain control in even the most difficult situations. More than getting mad or getting even, Getting Past No will get you results!

©1991 William Ury (P)1991 Bantam Audio Publishing, Bantam Doubleday Dell Audio Publishing, A Division of Random House, Inc.

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Lots of good ideas

I needed a quick 'tutorial' before answering a difficult person that I am currently negotiating with. This was great. In 2 short hours, I had a pocketful of ideas which I used (and they worked!). It was very helpful to me. If the only available versions had been the longer ones (6 hours) , I probably would not have listened to anything, and not gained this valuable information.

16 of 18 people found this review helpful

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  • Joshua
  • Los Angeles, CA, USA
  • 09-04-03

Good as quick read, otherwise Getting to Yes

Getting Past No contains many of the techniques and ideas that are fully developed in the original "Getting to Yes." If you are looking for a quick read, this is good - otherwise, I would go for the "full" version.

13 of 15 people found this review helpful

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  • Tom
  • Harrison Twp., MI, USA
  • 02-03-04

The Bomb!

This Book is very good! I also bought "Getting to Yes" and this blew it away. A must listen.

8 of 9 people found this review helpful

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Getting Past No

As a Mediator, this book is a must read on negoiation tips to help resolve conflicts with differing personalties, conflicts and finding win win.

1 of 1 people found this review helpful

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Ok book

The book is Ok for a 2 hours listen, but I have read/listened to much better books. It starts very slow also yet gradually catches up.

3 of 4 people found this review helpful

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A faulty bridge

This book wasn’t for you, but who do you think might enjoy it more?

I enjoy the topic but feel like I missed quite a bit of material. I went ahead and bought the kindle book to get anything I missed.

How would you have changed the story to make it more enjoyable?

The material was great in general. The techniques for negotiations make sense, but since I need this for a class the reduced version is not enough.

What do you think the narrator could have done better?

The narrator was very good, but the layout seemed to be most like Bob Ross Era style workplace training films (stereotypes included).

What reaction did this book spark in you? Anger, sadness, disappointment?

Mostly I feel robbed of content. Abridged audio books are stupid and an awful investment. I wish I had caught that before I bought the abridge audio book.

Any additional comments?

Never buy abridged. If you are paying this much for audio books, then get your money's worth.

2 of 3 people found this review helpful

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Negotiate around No. Work and home.

Book gave excellent strategies for hard negotiations both for work and home. I will be able to use many of them in both cases.

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It's ok

Not a long book, which is good. Lots of practical advice, but somewhat simplistic. Perhaps negotiations are that simple? I was expecting something different. Felt a little like a sales pitch guide.

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Mastering Emotions in Tense Conflicts/Negotiations

This audiobook is 2 hours. The value you get: insights, skills (even entertainment) per minute spent is high.

In my view, the value of this book lies in getting tools and tactics for dealing with emotions in tense negotiations/difficult conversations. Many of us with an interest in interpersonal skills, have a good rational understanding of what to do and what not to do in order to be successful. The difficulty lies in managing emotions in the moment. We all have less functional ways of doing that, however, no matter what, when we lose our objectivity, we lose. This is a topic that is less often covered than the basic do's and don'ts of negotiations, but is beautifully covered here.

It's really about applying a mindfulness approach, instead of a 'mindless', where emotions take over. Step back. Go to the balcony. Observe yourself, detach yourself and stay in the 'pain' and emotional turmoil that the situation creates. Create space in time and space to get perspective. Name the game. Name the tactics. Name the emotions. Neutrally, objectively see underlying motives and interests, collaboratively satisfying those for both parties in a problem-solving approach.

Get it, enjoy, and you'll be better equipped for 'difficult conversations' with your colleagues, customer services, kids and spouses.

Great books to listen before or after this one are:
- The Art of Conflict Management, Great Courses
- The Psychology of Performance (you can apply that to negotiation and conflict resolution skills, highly applicable)
- The Science of Mindfulness

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15 words

everyone should listen or read this book at least twice. who came up with fifteen.