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Number-One Best Seller on Amazon!

2014 USA Best Book Awards Winner: Finalist, Parenting & Family

Most books on ADHD don't dare expose the genuine grit of the moment-by-moment peaks and valleys of this special parenthood - the gut-wrenching, crying on the bathroom floor, feeling like you're losing your mind truth of the matter that is learning to successfully parent a child with ADHD. Boy Without Instructions: Surviving the Learning Curve of Parenting a child with ADHD changes that.

Williams shares her unfiltered thoughts and emotions during her progression through this learning curve during this harrowing ride. Right before your eyes, this initially grief-stricken momma transforms from obsessed-with-ADHD control-freak and helicopter mom to optimistic and (mostly) confident parent of a child who happens to have ADHD. Boy Without Instructions validates your grief and guilt, yet reveals that it's truly possible to craft a (mostly) joy-filled life for your child with ADHD, yourself, and your family.

©2014 Penny Williams (P)2016 Penny Williams

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not at all what I expected

Narrator was the only bright spot. No answers. just a frustrating story about a difficult situation. if you are looking for a story that might relate to your ADHD experience, this is the book for you. if you are looking for how to, or answers, look elsewhere.

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  • JG
  • 05-03-16

Loved this book!!!

I loved this book. I related so much with Penny. I laughed and cried. the narrator was great too. I would definitely recommend this book to anyone who has a child with ADHD.

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She lost me at the word "dope"

I wanted to love this book, the context was intriguing and I hoped I would find some useful information from someone who has gone through my current situation. But when she said "we didn't want to dope our child" she completely lost my respect. That was very judgmental. Had she used the word 'medicate' I would have kept reading because I understand that not everyone decides to do that. But by using the word 'dope' I felt very judged because I do choose to MEDICATE my son. And let me tell you, it has made his school experience 100x better.

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great introduction to the world of adhd

I found this book to be a fascinating look into how family life is altered by a kid with severe adhd. It certainly changes the way I look at the condition and how parents deal with it.

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Thank God.

This book is my story and my son’s story. I’m so grateful that these words were said.

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A Memoir, Not A Guide

An intimate memoir of a mother's struggle with her child's ADHD. Reads more as a personal journal than a guidebook for other parents, so keep that in mind. There are definitely some touching and authentic moments, though rather unpolished in structure and writing style. The narrator speaks clearly, but her voice quickly becomes monotonous, and she has a depressing vibe. There aren't many peaks and valleys in her tone. I don't know that I would recommend this audiobook to others unless they are simply looking for shared experiences in their parenting journey.

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All teachers should be required to read this book.

I absolutely loved this book. It felt as if I were describing my own child and all of her disabilities. She became so broken-hearted along with her father and me that we made the decision to homeschool just shortly after returning from Christmas break of her Kindergarten year. We could no longer accept the lack of support and effort that she was receiving. I never dreamed that I would be homeschooling one of my children. We adopted our daughter who was born addicted to meth amphetamines. She came to us at 3 weeks old. We expected that she would have ADHD, but we had no clue how many other disabilities that she would have until we started Kindergarten. Our two oldest daughters were A B students from K-12. They never struggled with school and they both excelled academically. I give this momma an A+ for her will to fight for her son’s education. I had just endured hip surgery and a double spinal fusion a month before our daughter started Kindergarten and physically couldn’t keep up the fight that we also found ourselves in. After numerous phone calls, emails, and in school meetings, we threw in the towel and rescued our daughter from that nightmare. I have found myself with tears falling while listening to this beautifully written book. It helps a little bit to know that our daughter isn’t struggling alone with her disabilities. Thank you for sharing your incredibly brave story with us.

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Worth a read

I liked her honesty and the ability to tell her story I was able to relate with a lot of her struggles with her child and it has helped open my eyes with my own recently diagnosed ADHD son worth a read for sure.

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Not a book on guidance

I expected this to have advice on parenting a child with ADD/ADHD. It does not. It is a mother's story about her struggles and achievements raising her son with ADD, with an extreme focus on medication, which gets very repetitive and can drone on a bit. It is an ok story as is but not to be read if you're looking for actual help with parenting your own child.

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Well told, so tragic that this keeps happening to our ADHD children

Well documented chronicle of the learning curve of raising a child with ADHD. This story could have been mine. I find it so tragic that there is a lack of knowledge about ADHD, and lack of help for families navigating this challenge. The author offers insights into successful strategies for helping to support the child.

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  • 09-19-16

Negative and depressing

Don't buy this one if you are hoping for a positive viewpoint and the ability to learn good strategies from other parents who have walked the ADHD path before you. This book focuses very much on the negatives and the bad days. It over dramatises the tough times that come along with ADHD. I felt compelled to keep listening as I was sure the author was at some time going to reassure me that persistence pays off or give some ideas to make things better. Any sniff of positivity only came right at the very end. Not one to lift your mood and help you look on the bright side I'm afraid. If you want to listen to someone having a good moan about how awful things can be for a family on the constant up hill struggle of having a child with ADHD...you'll love this book!

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  • 10-24-18

Annoying

I suppose if your main parenting obsession is making sure that your kid achieves academically this book is for you. I have a kid who likely has adhd - and he has many of the same behaviours as Ms Willliams's child and yet while I do want to work with him on his behaviours - I would never feel the need to meticulously document each meltdown and title it "ADHD is ruining my life" which is what this book feels like. It also feels like what she wants is a completely sedate 6 year old without ever having to let him run around or preventing him from eating cookies for breakfast. If your kid is bouncing off the walls ADHD might have something to do with it but it also might be because you let him eat sugar for breakfast and you never let him go outside. I'm a big fan of trying out environmental factors before deciding that every behaviour issue is a result of medication not being exactly right. It just feel like, listening to this book - any time her kid misbehaves she blames it on the medicine - and takes pride in it because she's such a great mama. Not as helpful as I had hoped it would be. Also hate the blogger pet names she gives everyone.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 04-03-21

A very good insight into a parent's struggle.

Hearing about the personal daily struggles with supporting a child with Adhd makes this book so valuable. I felt for Mom, child and family. This book gives a very good insight about the trials as nd tribulations of navigating life, education, and specialist services, encountering disappointing inadequacies in educational resources, but at the same time highlighting great work and good will among educational staff on the ground.. For the most part.

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  • richard harris
  • 08-06-18

fantasic and informative

i laughed and i cried as this was just like she was speaking about our son minus the baseball, fantastic and has made me stronger and optimistic for my sons future and my sons appointment tomorrow with the mental health team, Thank you Penny

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  • Louis
  • 12-21-20

great book

really enjoyed it recognise some of the traits in Ricochet and myself and his helped me to be more aware. Thanks Penny for a great book, I hope Ricochet becomes all he wants to be

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  • Sophia Cosmas
  • 07-16-17

Seeking a village...

I suppose the main reason anyone would seek out this book would be if they were in a similar situation as Penny and her family.

As it is, my son's diagnosis is pretty much bang on identical to Ricochet's... so this story was most insightful, helpful, comforting and really worthwhile.

It is my first non technical port of call in terms of ADHD / Dysgraphia / processing disorder reading so it really was a great relief. I shed some tears probably just glad to know we aren't alone, but also seeing the breadth of everything laid out.

Highly recommended.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-12-21

Understanding

Boy without instructions was just the book I needed at this time. My son was diagnosed with ADHD earlier this year. I felt like I was the Mum in this book. It helped me feel like I'm not alone in this journey and help inspire me to all I can for my son. Thank you Penny

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-27-19

Truely amazing!

This was amazing, truely amazing. I spent most of the book in tears, because it is so relatable and I really felt everything that was being said.

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  • Ross Hunter
  • 09-07-19

Disheartening

It was a little disheartening and hard to finish. Lots of more of the same melt down moments and it felt like there was little to no hope by the end. Weary acceptance maybe.

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  • MyTop5Authors
  • 08-19-19

Relatable

Listening to this mamas journey with her sons ADHD made me laugh and made me cry. I could relate to a lot of it. As a person without much of a support network it was nice to feel like we aren't the only ones going through this

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 05-03-18

Amazing 🧡

Loved this book and related to EVERY word. Thank you Penny Williams for your honesty and integrity. Ricochet is a lucky boy! 🤗😘