In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive into a major milestone — our very first video podcast episode! After years of audio-only recordings, I am showing up in video to connect with you more intimately.

I start with a heartfelt check-in, sharing my personal experiences of transitions and the collective 'hell' many of us have gone through recently in various aspects of our lives.

Today's episode is all about understanding the importance of pacing in dating for love addicts, discussing how unresolved traumas, father wounds, and touch starvation can lead us to rush into relationships. Learn practical steps on how to pace yourself, maintain your identity, and find joy in your current life while still holding space for the love you desire.

Plus, get updates on the new format of the Recovery School and upcoming changes in my services. This episode is packed with insights and actionable advice to help you on your journey to healing and self-love.

In this episode, we cover…

• 04:09 Navigating personal transitions
• 06:05 Why you should embrace the unknown
• 13:22 Healthy Love vs. Love Addiction
• 19:14 The importance of pacing in relationships
• 30:06 Leveling up in healing
• 32:22 How unresolved father wounds affect pacing in relationships
• 39:09 What is touch starvation?
• 47:30 How to ground in your own life
• 54:20 Upcoming changes and announcements to Black Girls Heal

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
• Book a 1:1 private coaching session with Shena until November 2024.
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.

Connect with us:

• Website: Blackgirlsheal.org
• Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal
• TikTok: @blackgirlsheal
• Facebook: Black Girls Heal

Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, I delve into the intricacies of implementing a no-contact process while co-parenting. This much-requested topic focuses on maintaining emotional neutrality and setting firm boundaries when you have to communicate with a co-parent for the sake of your children.

I’ll share practical steps and tips designed to help you stay centered and avoid the emotional triggers that led you to this place.

Disclaimer: This advice is not suitable for relationships involving physical domestic violence; please seek appropriate support if that is your situation.

In this episode, we cover…

• 01:41 Challenges of co-parenting during no-contact
• 03:23 An important disclaimer
• 05:50 Importance of emotional neutrality
• 11:48 Seeing your co-parent as a co-worker
• 24:13 Using parenting apps for communication
• 27:00 How to set boundaries to avoid emotional traps
• 31:40 How to deal with toxic relationships
• 39:28 Communicating with children during no contact

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Get the support of our 90-Day No Contact Support Kit to help you break your trauma bonded relationships, build a full life outside of the connection, heal related anxieties, and make space for healthy love.
• Listen to Episode 253: The 4 Steps of No Contact
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.

Connect with us:

• Website: Blackgirlsheal.org
• Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal
• TikTok: @blackgirlsheal
• Facebook: Black Girls Heal

Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we're diving into the world of love avoidance and how to navigate new relationships when you're healing from it. We'll talk about understanding intimacy disorders, recovering from those avoidant patterns, and how to communicate your needs in a healthy way.

Whether you're just starting in your recovery, you're in a new relationship, or even in a long-term one, this episode is packed with tips to help you stay balanced and build stronger connections.

In this episode, we cover…

• 01:33 Understanding Love Avoidance
• 02:30 The different archetypes of intimacy disorders
• 03:22 How to navigate love addiction and avoidance
• 05:26 Practical tips for love avoidants
• 10:12 Ways to share your life as a recovering love avoidant
• 19:00 How to initiate compliments and kindness
• 25:09 Why you should embrace vulnerability

Resources mentioned in the episode:

• Listen to Episode 258: What to Do When You Like Someone as a Love Addict
• Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Join The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled.
• Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements.

Connect with us:

• Website: Blackgirlsheal.org
• Instagram: @BlackGirlsHeal
• TikTok: @blackgirlsheal
• Facebook: Black Girls Heal

Thanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.