9 Covert Ways to Outsmart a Narcissist

Beat the Tools He Uses to Mind Control You

By: Jamie Keller

Narrated by: Pete Beretta

Length: 29 mins

Publisher's Summary

If you downloaded this book, it is no doubt that you are dealing with a narcissist on a regular basis. He or she is probably driving you crazy. They gaslight you and try to make you believe that you're crazy. They blame and shame you for everything that goes wrong in their lives. They destroy and damage everything that others have because of their constant envy. They want to always be on top, and they don't care who they step on to get there.

I have dealt with narcissists for years in my family environment and my work environment. I have learned a few tricks in dealing with a narcissist that I would like to share with you. I have experienced their behavior firsthand. I feel that non-narcissists deserve tools to equip them in dealing with a narcissist better so that we don't fall for their malicious mind games.

Narcissists employ a tactic called triangulation which causes jealousy and competitiveness in those around them. They pit two people against each other in order to make both pay more attention to him or to cause them the urge to compete against each other for his attention or for a common goal.

Triangulation can be used as a tool by a narcissist for one of many reasons. He might use triangulation in order to make his partner jealous and fear losing him. Her jealousy will naturally then cause her to hang onto him much tighter and to ignore his bad behavior instead of dumping him for being a jerk. He can cheat and then blame the cheating on the person that he cheated with, pitting his girlfriend and mistress against each other to keep him out of the line of fire.

©2015 Jamie Keller (P)2015 Jamie Keller

IT'S ALL ABOUT PERSPECTIVE

For the negative reviews I read above,

There are situations in this world that people may find themselves in that you have no idea about; in the slightest way. It is no right of yours to say what a person should do with their life or whether they should stay or go. It doesn't matter a single bit about what your personal opinion is on whether someone in this situation should leave or not. & I highly doubt the author was gearing towards audiences of your stature anyway, as you sound a lot like my children’s father right now with your judgments & insults. Smh. At the end of the day kind people... we were put on this earth to LOVE. & BE LOVED.
every. single. one. of. us.
Narsissts non the less. Literally. They are difficult if not impossible to love once figured out but I don’t mind a challenge in the name of my first and most important earthly calling. Love. & if I fail, which I know it’s very possible that I do... I was given the strength in this world to get back up as I have done so many times before in many different contexts & situations.

For women reading this... find a place of peace. I’ll tell you from experience, there’s one place a narsisst will find excuse after excuse not to go with you to... church... nor could they rightfully argue with you about going to church or spending too much time at church, it’s likely they grew up in church.. at that church you will find normal & joyful people & at the minimum an hour and a half of being able to breath freely... during that hour to hour and a half, those people will show you how to find & obtain peace. Once you get there it’s likely you’ll never want to leave, bc with that peace comes strength. ❤️

To the point😉

Validates everything you have felt and gone through. Helps you realize the truths behind the actions. Allows you to breath again😊

Extremely Useful Information For Many

Those of us in unavoidable relationships with a narcissist know the damage they do, all too well. If, like me, you are for whatever cause or reason still forced or stuck with having to deal with that person and figure out how to personally cope, you will like this book.

The narration was good & fit the subject matter.

real help against narcissism.

so many books on narcissism or a man woman narcissistic relationships but not that many that pertained to me, whose nieve daughter has been hijacked by a Narcissis!

Thank you!

I lived with a narcissist for 5 years, plus dating two. I didn't know he was a narcissist. I fell into his trap. I noticed the same reaction and behavior (his) that is described in this book. After reading this book I had an "Aha!" moment.
It explained why my normal way of communication didn't work with him and only got me frustrated. This book helped me too communicate with him and other narcissists at work.

Really Unhealthy Advice

What would have made 9 Covert Ways to Outsmart a Narcissist better?

If someone is dealing with emotional pain from a relationship with a narcissist they need help extracting themselves from the relationship and creating psychological distance from that person. The advice in this book would deepen their connection with the narcissist and possibly cause the narcissist to retaliate against them (for narcissists staying in a relationship with someone who they think has done them wrong could be the best form of retaliation).

What was most disappointing about Jamie Keller’s story?

Many narcissists are sociopaths. This advice in this book is likely to anger or humiliate a narcissist and create a really dangerous situation for someone who is in a relationship with them.

You didn’t love this book... but did it have any redeeming qualities?

Some of the information about narcissistic behavior seems accurate but the advice for dealing with it is comically unhealthy.

Just what I Needed to Know

Short, to the point and exactly what I was searching for. With this short book, I went from feeling overwhelmed to knowing how to proceed. I feel better now.

Right on que!

I have somewhat of a unique circumstance. You see i dont deal with this type of person (exactly @ least) on a daily basis. I am a step dad to a 16 yr old narcissist in training! Let me elaborate. My wife & i have been married for 6yrs. We are happily married & get along almost always! The part where the narcissist comes in, is my wifes ex husband! He could quite possibly be the true inventor of narcissism! lol Even though he personally is not in our lives, his 16yr old son is. My step son (Matt) is a very intelligent, creative, intuitive kid, that he impresses me as a dad. But over the last 5yrs or so, i see more & more of his dads qualities truly warping his mind. Of course he is like most teenage boys, he wants to be just like his dad. Dont get me wrong, i am by no means the perfect person. I too have my faults, & i constantly try to better myself through self help books & educating.
Your book seriously hits on every single aspect i have ever seen in Matt. To pick one specific aspect of narcissism that my wife & i deal with, i would say the fact finding. We have learned thats its best too try & ignore it & change the subject as quickly as possible.
Sorry for the long review, maybe i should have went to the authors blog instead. Thank you for the book though, i entirely understood it!

Signed,
A Step Dad's daily struggles

Nailed it!

Nailed it! My dad, stepfather, and exes were narcissist. I went to university to avoid them.

Just bad writing.

The narrator wasn't half - bad, but the writing... Eesh. I actually felt sad for the author who was very clearly writing from her own experience and didn't have a single fact or study to back up her opinions. This is an opinion book and while bits here and there are interesting, for the most part, it's just badly done. Glad it was so cheap, otherwise I'd be wanting my money back.

Practical Help

Actual help! I will listen to this on repeat until my cognitive dissonance evaporates. Thank you.

read it!

if you're struggling with a manipulative person in your life, if sometimes you feel like you're the crazy one, you're the abuser...just read it. it's short enough that you could keep it and read it once a week just to remind yourself why you should stay disengaged.

very useful tips

very useful tips for people who have to deal with Nars in any form of relationship.

Simplistic nonsense

These 'tips' could only work ion the very early stages of a relationship, in which case the best advice would be to get out as soon as possible. 'Don't return calls', 'Make yourself unavailable' etc. Better to read a teenage magazine advice column, or just google for a free article.

A very quick and interesting read!

The book is very short and get be read within 30mins, this will give any busy person the knowledge they need quickly.