10 to 25

A Groundbreaking Approach to Leading the Next Generation—And Making Your Own Life Easier

De: David Yeager

Narrado por: David Yeager

NATIONAL BESTSELLER • Acclaimed developmental psychologist David Yeager reveals the new science of motivating young people ages ten through twenty-five in this groundbreaking book that is a must-read for managers, parents, educators, coaches, and mentors everywhere.

“Ambitious and revelatory...10 to 25 offers baffled adults new approaches—and possibly new hope—during some of their families’ most difficult years.” —The Wall Street Journal

“Required reading for anyone who aspires to be a wise influence on the young people they care about.” —Angela Duckworth

“One of the most fascinating and important books of the past decade...It will change millions of lives.” —Carol Dweck

“This engaging, data-driven book is filled with practical insights.” —Adam Grant

Imagine a world in which Gen Xers, millennials, and boomers interact with young people in ways that leave them feeling inspired, enthusiastic, and ready to contribute—rather than disengaged, outraged, or overwhelmed. That world may be closer than you think. In this book based on cutting edge research, psychologist David Yeager explains how to stop fearing young people’s brains and hormones and start harnessing them.

Neuroscientists have discovered that around age ten, puberty spurs the brain to crave socially rewarding experiences, such as pride, admiration, and respect, and to become highly averse to social pain, such as humiliation or shame. As a result, young people are subtly reading between the lines of everything we say, trying to interpret the hidden implications of our words to find out if we are disrespecting or honoring them. Surprisingly, this sensitivity to status and respect continues into the mid-twenties. 10 to 25 helps adults develop an ear for the difference between the right and wrong way to respect young people and avoid frustrating patterns of miscommunication and conflict.

Yeager explains how to adopt what he terms the mentor mindset, which is a leadership style that’s attuned to young people’s need for status and respect. Anyone can adopt the mentor mindset by following a few highly effective and easy-to-learn practices such as validating young people’s perspectives (rather than dismissing them), asking them questions (rather than telling them what to do), being transparent about your beliefs and goals (rather than assuming that they will accurately guess your thoughts), and holding them to high standards (rather than coddling them). Yeager’s scientific experiments have shown these practices reduce a wide variety of behavior problems, including school dropout, unhealthy eating, stress, purposelessness, mental health problems, and more.

One of the biggest misconceptions about mentoring is that it takes up too much time. On the contrary, those who use the mentor mindset end up with more time. Through back-and-forth conversations, young people feel empowered, and managers can transfer responsibility to them. Young people in this age group are poised to learn, grow, and accomplish incredible things—if only we can tap into the basic neurobiological systems that drive their motivation and behavior.

An essential read for anyone who interacts with young people, 10 to 25 is a groundbreaking book that offers long-term strategies to help nurture well-adjusted, independent, accomplished young people who contribute to society in positive ways—all while making our own lives easier.

Great examples

This book would have been beneficial in writing my thesis about spanning the generational gap in the workforce.

This book will change the way I parent!

I am dedicated to being a mother who inspires her children to use critical thinking. This book gave me the tools to do that! A must-read and re-read.

Helpful thought process.

As an "elder" working to help younger people all around me find their way, this was a helpful thought process.

Mandatory reading for parents, teachers, coaches

This book gave me more that I didn’t know about mentoring than any other resource I’ve ever come across

Essential concepts for mentoring teens and others

Novel (to me) concepts which helped me reframe, improve and even enjoy some of the most difficult parts of my relationship with my teens. If any criticism, it is that there are a few fundamental points which he emphasizes over and over again, but I ultimately felt necessary to really internalize the lessons and gave me useful scripts approaches for different scenarios. Highly recommended.

Mentor Mindset. Mentor Mindset

Info is very good. Definitely more educational than entertaining. Dense at times but exactly what I was expecting/looking for. Very glad I listened to it!

Outstanding!

A must read for parents, educators, therapists, and physicians who have the joy of helping our youth!

Fantastic and Practical Advice

Really a great read, particularly as a parent of children this age. So much practical advice that I was able to put in place while listening to this book that will really help me have a better understanding of ”mentor”mindset.

A teachers guide to reach every child

I truly enjoyed the storytelling behind the theories that were shared. To see practicality and every day struggles is encouraging as an educator. I highly recommend this book to parents and teachers alike.

Mandatory reading for Mentors

The author describes an approach to mentoring young people by using questions to transparently encourage the belief that beliefs can change, seeing stresses and challenges as resources, and encouraging a sense of belonging and purpose. The techniques are supported various studies and seem to make good sense. This is recommended reading for anyone in a position of mentoring young people.

There is quite a bit of repetition and the section of bullying was weak.

The author narration was excellent.