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Here are 5 Habits To Stop Letting Other People's Mood Control You. No Fluff, just practical habits that strengthen your boundaries.

Why The Smallest Criticism Breaks You Episode: https://youtu.be/e8FKISPF__0?si=rLYl-PuiMEVV4K_u

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02:56 Why Other People’s Mood Control You

10:36 Habit 1: Pause Before You React

13:50 Habit 2: Walk With a Better Posture

17:07 Habit 3: Having a Routine

20:16 Habit 4: Do More, of What You Need

24:10 Habit 5: Reconnect With Your Own State

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro - How To Stop Sabotaging Healthy Love And Relationships

00:03 Step 1: Be Aware That You’re Sabotaging

02:37 Step 2: Understand The Pattern And It’s Purpose

05:25 Step 3: Catch Yourself When The Pattern Is Triggered

07:21 Step 4: Pause: Stop Reacting

08:36 Step 5: Ground Yourself (Create Safety)

11:14 Step 6: Communicate Honestly And Openly (Practise Vulnerability)

14:06 Step 7: Address, What You Actually Need Or Want

16:21 Step 8: Practice Self-care & Compassion For Yourself

18:17 Step 9: Build Self-Worth

20:06 Step 10: Replace Relationship Sabotage With Self-Leadership

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Why We Sabotage Great Relationships?

02:56 What Is Triggering The Pattern?

05:42 Why Relationships Feel Like a Loss of Control?

11:58 Why Is It So Hard To Stop Sabotaging Love?

15:49 Is There a Better Way Instead of Sabotaging Love?

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In the past decade, I ended 5 long term relationships because of my commitment issues.

When I met my current partner, I decided to break this pattern.

In this video, I share everything I’ve learned on my journey of getting over avoidant attachment.

I’ll take you through the 7 stages every avoidant goes through and give you some new perspectives to ponder on.

If you follow along through all the steps, I’m nearly 100% sure you will leave this video with a huge aha and a ton of practical ideas how to start healing your avoidant attachment patterns.

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Limerence and Romantic Fantasies:

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You’re Not Your Emotions:

https://youtu.be/67QybhTEUMM?si=NLaxhT9KjecfupoC

► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:51 What Avoidant Attachment Feels Like

03:59 How Secure Attachment Feels Like

07:45 Stage 1: Avoidant Beliefs and Values

12:37 Stage 2: Deep Desire for Conflict Free Love

15:26 Stage 3: Dating and Limerence

21:39 Stage 4: The Shift

25:58 Stage 5: Pulling Back

32:06 Stage 6: The Breakup

39:39 Stage 7: Recover and Reset

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

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Why do you always push away the people you love?

Especially when things get close and serious?

If you clicked on this video, there are probably two possibilities why you’re here:

1) You are currently dating someone or are in a relationship that asks for more commitment, and you started to push the other person that you really like away.

2) You know someone, maybe your friend, brother, sister, or the person you’re dating, who is suddenly turning cold and pulling away.

Either way, it’s very honest and brave of you, that you care and want to figure out, why the reactions happen.

You don’t just judge yourself or the other person, and want to look for support and real answers.

The reason why you or the person you love pushed someone away is in both scenarios definitely the same.

And in this episode, we first of all answer the question, what’s the main reason for this.

But more importantly, afterwards we’ll also explore if there is an actual solution for this

And if so, how you can practically stop to push away the people you love to finally be in a stable, secure relationship.

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00:00 Intro

01:22 #1 Reason You Push Away The People You Love

07:17 You’re Not Broken

10:16 How Can You Stop Pushing Away the People You Love?

11:16 Step 1: Strengthen Your Sense Of Self

16:20 Step 2: Practice to Sense and Express Your Emotions, Needs, and Boundaries

21:30 Step 3: Learn to Stay In Relationships Without Losing Yourself

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For most of my life, I deeply longed for a warm, stable, loving relationship.

But instead of feeling safe and connected, I was constantly triggered in my relationships.

First being needy in the beginning, then panicking when things got too close.

In fact, I broke up five times, leaving behind a lot of heartbreak.

And I didn’t understand back then that I wasn’t “just needing space.”

I was avoidantly attached and scared of commitment.

But after working with four different therapists…after years of uncomfortable self-work…

Today, I finally live together with my current partner, and I feel like I've arrived in a safe relationship where I don’t want to run away anymore for the first time in my life.

And if I could move from attachment wounds… to building real emotional safety…

Then I want to show you exactly how.

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:16 Habit 1: Make Emotions And Needs Visible

05:26 Habit 2: Stop Trying To Fix Each Other

07:53 Habit 3: Name Patterns In Real Time

10:38: Habit 4: Listen And Pause During Conflict

14:02 Habit 5: Practice Vulnerability Instead Of Protest

16:34 Habit 6: Stay True to Yourself, Even If It Feels Wrong

19:42 Habit 7: Prioritize Love Over Perfection

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Why does criticism hurt so much?

I bet you know situations like these: You’re having dinner with the person you love.

Everything seems great, but then they say: "You didn’t ask me how my day was. It felt like you don’t care."

A solid statement, that kicked you out of you calm mind.

In your ears that sounded like an accusation.

Even worse, like a judgement.

You feel criticized, at the same time hurt and offended.

Your thoughts start spiraling.

Why didn’t you ask, idiot?

Why did you FAIL this one.

You feel ashamed.

Anxiety kicks in. What if they now think I don’t love them, because I forgot to ask?

But then your inner guard raises it’s voice:

You heat up and feel irritated.

Why do they even expect me to ask how their day was? Mine was exhausting and I just forgot to ask.. Why do they always expect things from me? It’s unfair.

When you can identify with this example, first of all, I’m not here to expose you.

If you react like this, it’s totally understandable, because there are good reasons for it.

Therefore today, in this video, I’m going to share 5 surprising reasons, why the smallest comment or criticism completely breaks you.

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Self-Care Habits for HSPs / Neurodivergents:

https://youtu.be/LdWEM_ZTZYM?si=15FaXVGsEMXC4hyp

10 Signs of CPTSD:

https://youtu.be/nH6mOBoqCsc?si=lQiDt7xNmbtjpfpD

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00:00 Intro

01:23 Reason 1: You’re Overwhelmed From Work And Life

02:46 Reason 2: Emotional Burnout

04:19 Reason 3: You’re Highly Sensitive /Neurodivergent

05:31 Reason 4: Childhood Trauma

07:32 Reason 5: Unstable Sense of Self

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Why does the person you love the most also trigger you the most?‘Shouldn’t love with this person be easy?’Well, I’ll give you the answer straight away: It’s not a coincidence. It’s how love actually works.Your partner isn’t there just to make you happy, they’re in your life to mirror your insecurities and vulnerable parts and make you grow through them. But knowing that, reveals the true underlying question: What’s below these painful triggers?What do they reveal about us?And how can we grow through them so we don’t feel so angry, hurt, upset and ashamed anymore?► Links and Resources:

Signs of an HSP:

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The Highly Sensitive Man:

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00:00 Intro

00:58 Why The Person You Love Triggers You Most

02:48 What’s Below These Painful Triggers?

03:03 1. High Sensitivity

05:39 2. Painful Patterns From The Past

10:46 3. Insecurities & Vulnerabilities

12:59 How Can We Grow Through Our Triggers

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

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► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.