E310 - 7 “Toxic” Green Flags That Can Secretly Ruin Your Relationship

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Ladies & Gentlemen, welcome to today’s episode, where we talk about 7 Trauma-Driven Green Flags, That Are Actually Red

You might think you’ve found the one — they’re kind, attentive, emotionally open… But what if those ‘green flags’ are actually coming from unresolved trauma?

Therefore today, I’ll walk you through 7 behaviors that look like emotional maturity or even love but are secretly warning signs rooted in anxious attachment, fawning, codependency, or toxic shame.

If you’re someone healing from CPTSD, this might just change how you see "healthy" relationships forever.

► Links and Resources:

The Secret To STOP Fighting in Your Relationships:

https://youtu.be/dF2QYyxqJjM

Spiritual Bypassing:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spiritual_bypass ⁠

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:11 Flag 1: They Always Want To Be With You

05:46 Flag 2: They Never Get Mad At You

12:10 Flag 3: They Open Up About Everything On The First Date

16:42 Flag 4: They Always Put You First

19:00 Flag 5: They See You As Their Entire World

21:39 Flag 6: They Communicate So Well During Conflict, But Nothing Ever Changes

25:22 Flag 7: They’re Obsessed With “Healing”

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.