E309 - CPTSD & Dating: How To Find a Secure Partner

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In this video, I explore attachment styles, how to identify a secure partner, and the dynamics of trauma bonding.

► Links and Resources:

Fear of Commitment Video:

https://youtu.be/SUECZtfGkEM?si=mKymbK-Sh2jeFVD1

Chaotic Attachment Video:

https://youtu.be/-BFW7lVd8Yk?si=asZKMwEpWoPtradm

Trauma Bonding Article:

https://www.sandstonecare.com/blog/trauma-bonding/

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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

01:13 Dating With CPTSD

10:09 Dating With An Avoidant Attachment Style

13:40 Dating With An Anxious Attachment Style

16:17 Dating With A Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style

18:43 Trauma Bondings In CPTSD Dating

21:19 Why Secure Love Feels Boring

24:05 Dating with a Secure Attachment Style

27:01 How To Find a Secure Partner

27:30 Step 1: Start To Reclaim Your Own Sense Of Self First

30:15 Step 2: Continuously Shed A Light And Question Your Triggers

31:39 Step 3: Start To Become A More Securely Attached Person Yourself

34:08 Step 4: Date Like A Secure Person Would

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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)

► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.