On a date, you might find yourself smiling and nodding along while he talks—and talks—and somewhere inside, you’re feeling… invisible.Instead of pushing through or pretending you’re fine, try this:“You know, I really followed you through that story. I could feel how frustrating it was for you… and I’m actually starting to feel a little frustrated myself. I think I’d love to feel more connected—is there anything you’d like to know about me?”This isn’t about confronting him.It’s about tuning in to you—before the irritation builds, before you go quiet, before you disappear.You’re not trying to impress him. You’re inviting him into connection. If you’d like support in staying soft, open, and real on your dates (without losing yourself or your voice), Siren Island is here for you.Come join us for live classes, tools, and real-time coaching:https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-community-program/Love,Rori

Something feels off on the date—but what is it, exactly? Why do some moments feel like magic, and others fall flat?

What’s really happening when things don’t go as hoped? It’s not about him.

💔 You’re wondering why he talked your ear off and never called again.

💬 You’re replaying the moment he kissed you goodbye but asked zero questions.

🌪 You’re stuck in your head, trying to decode it all.

Most of us aren’t actually on the date. We’re in the future. We’re strategizing, performing, and abandoning our own experience.

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Everything in Modern Siren has a slightly "spiritual" leaning bend to it.

Everything is metaphorical, nature-influenced, and based on your emotional, deepest self, while also being authentic to that.

It's essential to rely on the fact that even if you're not deeply feeling into yourself, who you are in that moment is also authentic.

This might sound like a mistake, but from a spiritual view, it's all the same.

Our judgment of ourselves often falls into a nearly religious context.

So let me try to clarify this perspective, and then we can take your questions and see how we can move into this arena.

I believe I’ve always been in the spiritual arena, but the difference lies in trying to connect with a man on a spiritual level, which often leads us down the wrong road.

For us, spirituality has largely been a masculine arena, wouldn’t you agree?

It’s primarily run by masculine energy and thoughts. The spirit resides up here, in the upper chakra, around where your thinking is—essentially at the top of your head.

When we occupy that space, we often dampen the earthiness of femininity.

Come back to your feminine energy !

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We’re talking about vibration—and what vibration does.

Well, if we’re energy and everything’s energy, and we’re talking about Feminine Energy, then we darn well better know what that word “energy” means to us, right?

To me, energy is a spiritual concept. For me, it’s pretty simple. Scientifically, it breaks down to atoms, molecules, quarks, quantum physics—all of that. It’s really there.

We are really not solid. In one sense, we are air and water. Water is matter, but we’re really space between the molecules and atoms and quarks and electrons running around in every millimeter of our bodies.

There’s space. So much space between the electron and the nucleus of every atom—it’s insane how much space there is. Nothing.

So what is that to you? What does that mean to you?

Does that bring you a sense of peace? Wonder? Awe?

I love wonder and awe.

Does it bring you something like:

“Wow… if I pass my hand through the air—which is a big tool of mine—through the molecules… can that settle me? Can that settle you?”

It’s these subtle moments—where science meets spirit, and thought gives way to feeling—that we start to understand how deeply energy shapes our experience as women.

This is the space where feminine energy lives: in breath, in awareness, in the softness we allow ourselves to return to.

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Love, compassion, and kindness—all of it leads us toward better feeling.

Isn’t that what religion is about?

Isn’t that what Mother Teresa lived for?

Pain is hard to tolerate.

But you, love, are a Siren—you can hold it.

If you’re sensitive like me, you feel it all: your own pain, others’ pain, the emotional noise of the world. But what if—instead of blocking you—it expanded you?

What if it opened the door to desire… want… sexual energy?

Because sexual energy is divine.

It’s not a tactic. It’s not a game. It’s yours—a gift to connect to higher consciousness.

If you’ve ever had one of those big, soul-shaking orgasms, you know:

You’re not just closer to pleasure—

You’re closer to God.

To all that is.

To what your senses and your body were meant to experience.

Let’s stop talking about sex and relationships like they’re just strategy.

You want a man who gets you on every level.

And you deserve to explore your feminine energy as the sacred power that it is.

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Love, Rori

How do you structure your time and space?

How do you relate to the world around you?

I've trained myself not to go back and reread what I wrote the day before.

I also use a dry-erase board for notes, which stays relevant just for the day.

Having these around has surprised me with how well they work for me.

This is the closest thing I have to the Business Siren Handbook, which, if you don’t already have, is one of the most powerful things I’ve ever created.

It contains everything I talk about—how to stay in feminine energy at work and receive so much more love from men, without cutting yourself in half. You remain whole as a feminine energy being.

A big part of that is the evolutionary to-do list—a beautifully messy way to track your tasks and time while integrating them into your life in a way that serves you.

Lately, I’ve also gone back to using a paper planner, something I relied on years ago. I’m filling it with what truly matters to me—my support groups, my meetings with you, my personal time, and the people I love being with. Work fits into that, rather than the other way around.

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Love, Rori

If you feel empty, it’s because you don’t have yourself to hold onto.

So what do you do?

You dive into you.

Instead of chasing another high, you take that moment and go:

“Wow, I have this deep feeling. I am incredible. I have deep compassion for myself, for my sadness, for my grief. These things have happened to me. What a story I have. I feel so much. I am amazing.”

You may not be as introverted as you think.

You may not be living in as small of a world as you believe.

There’s a whole festival inside you. A theme park. There are roller coasters inside you.

So when the high is over and life suddenly feels empty, that’s your cue—go inward. Explore your emotions.

Journal it out.

Talk it out.

Get a coach who can help you connect with the parts of yourself that are hiding.

It’s difficult to do alone—even for me.

I use breathing techniques and all sorts of tools, but a coach can actually guide you into a conversation with your inner child, with the parts of you that have been waiting to be heard.

When you do this, life stops feeling like a letdown.

And when you leave him, you won’t feel empty.

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Love, Rori

There were times when I so badly wanted it to be all about him.

After two dates, I’d think, he’s the one, I want him, and I’d want exclusivity right away.

My coach said, ‘If you really want to give it a try and see what it feels like, go ahead.’

So I did. And I ended up on the floor, heartbroken. But actually? I’m glad I did it.

Looking back at my relationships—miserable, wonderful, short, long, intense—I wouldn’t have wanted to live my life without some of those passionate, intense flings.

They were memorable. Now that I’m safe and secure, I can see that maybe they were placeholders—maybe I wasn’t going to meet my husband yet, but I needed some fun in the middle. I needed to learn.

What If He’s The One… But Only for 4 Weeks?

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Love, Rori