Look at your hand.

Look at the bracelet you’re wearing.

Look at the shirt you’re wearing.

Anything that inspires you to feel grounded, or the floor, or centered — or any of those words we always use — or an object you can touch, that you can feel engaged with. The table right here, the desk, your knee.

Hold your hand.

See if you can feel engaged with that.

And then see the man, see your boss, see whatever you see — see your work ahead of you — and don’t get lost in the picture for a minute.

I’m here.

See if that feels more deep.

So instead of “grounded” or “centered,” let’s call it being deep inside you — connected with you, engaged with you.

Now tell me:

Do you feel the need to ask a question of this person?

Or do you kind of feel quiet inside?

If you suddenly feel quiet inside, then there’s no need to ask a question.

So what is going on with your vibe now that you’re down there?

Are you feeling angry at him because he’s not engaging with you, and it creates this need inside you?

Are you feeling frustrated that you’re in this moment of discomfort?

Or do you feel, oh, I just needed to drop down — I just needed to feel me?

I need to feel inside me.

I need to feel self.

Self.

We talk about self-respect, self-regard, self-love… but how about you just feel self?

Me.

Say me.

Say self.

You feel that full vibration, that full aliveness of me.

And yes, it can make you feel anxious that they will go away if you’re not reaching out.

Of course. So pull it back in. Pull that anxiety, that worry about them, back inside.

Drop it down inside you.

It often feels like a reach-out — like a tentacle going out — and then it becomes words, a question.

So what we want to do is notice when that’s happening.

Notice when you feel the need to reach out… and pull it back inside.

Feel the loneliness.

Feel what’s at the bottom of the feeling that makes you think you need to engage the other human. Turn to a dog, a cat. Feel presence. Feel pleasure.

All of a sudden it feels like an invitation.

So what we’re really saying is: whenever you feel the need to reach out and ask — even to someone at work, someone on your team — pause and ask yourself:

What is the root of that feeling of need?

Because it may not be a need at all.

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Love, Rori

We’re talking about dating as opposed to deep relationships.

So I think in this segment I’m going to go into if you’re deeper into a relationship and there’s so much more baggage and history when you attempt to connect rather than separate through your words, and by getting down into what it is you want when you are already so untaken care of and you have so much anger and all kinds of stuff going on.

What I’d like to start with is first a recap of this whole process that I’m talking about.

We're starting from a scratch— and if you're not in a loving relationship that feels extraordinary and you’re super happy and amazing...

If you’re still not there yet, the way I certainly was until I was 40, then you, like me, have been spending all of your energy literally saying that you want love, but literally pushing it away.

That all of your energy has been going into pushing love away, not pulling it in.

That your whole—you come to me here with the energetic machine of pushing men away automatically.

You’re good at it, and you do it.

Even though it sounds and feels like something else to you. It feels like you’re not lucky, or the bad men.

It's you pushing men away and love away on purpose, because that is your inner self trying to protect you.

So let’s switch that!

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Love, Rori

So, connection. What does connection feel like?

I’m really talking to faith-based women and non–faith-based women who can come with me into a spiritual place.

And when I say a spiritual place, it’s ephemeral.

It’s not concrete.

The people around you don’t know what you’re talking about.

They may think you are silly.

They may think you’re a “silly feeler” with spiritual leanings.

I want you to realize how much you are trying to block that stuff.

I don’t know a single woman who is not actually a spiritual person.

You have the ability to build cells in your body.

What could that possibly be?

You know, cells go bad in your body—and you can heal.

That’s something completely different.

That’s connection: to your body, to life, to self, to everything.

Just speaking about it—do you feel like we’re in another world that I could call spiritual?

We’re speaking about what I can’t do with a needle or scissors.

We’re speaking about what heals.

When you break your leg, isn’t it amazing that it heals by itself?

Yes, it’s a function of the way your body works, but it’s kind of magical because you don’t know exactly how it works.

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Love, Rori

Your feeling state is your truth.

It’s not what you want him to do or how you wish things looked.

It’s the pulse that lives deep inside you — the craving, the warmth, the tension, the peace.

As soon as you drop down into that, everything shifts.Stop wanting him to act differently.

Stop trying to fix.

Instead, notice what you feel.

Maybe it’s uncomfortable, maybe it’s even ugly — and that’s perfect.

Feeling is safety.

Safe to be, safe to feel, safe to exist in your own body without performing for love.

Your mind wants to keep you safe by controlling, planning, protecting.

But your body — your heart, your feminine core — already loves you.

The moment you let yourself feel, peace begins.

Power begins.

Pleasure begins.

You don’t get there by doing more.

You get there by softening — by letting your energy move down, into your belly, your heart, your body.

That’s where your life starts breathing again.

That’s the feminine way: stop doing and start being.

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Love, Rori

There’s something that feels almost taboo to talk about in dating, and that’s this desire for men to be more initiating.

Many women wonder, Can I even want that? Can I ask for that?

What I’ve noticed—especially watching something like Love Is Blind—is that people often come together because their patterns recognize each other.

On the surface, it looks like compatibility. But over time, what was hidden starts to show.

Niceness can cover a lot.

Sometimes what looks gentle at first turns out to be demanding, or even controlling.

It takes time to get to someone’s real nature.

So let’s talk about wants versus expectations.

Expectations are patterns.

Wants are deeper.

Just because you want something doesn’t mean it will happen—but wanting is where everything starts.

The problem is, many of us don’t actually know what we want anymore.

Our desires have been shaped by what we were told we should want.

When you say, “I want him to lead,” what you usually mean isn’t a list of behaviors.

You don’t want him to perform masculinity correctly.

What you want is to feel something—to relax, to soften, to drop out of your head and into yourself.

And when you connect there, something shifts.

Connection comes before behavior, not the other way around.

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Love, Rori

Do you really want a man who is really hemming you in?

Because I have to tell you, there are men out there who would look at you and say, “Wow, you are amazing.”Why would you want a man who says, “I resent you… I feel competitive with you”?

I love watching celebrity couples because they show us so much about what happens when two highly successful, competitive people try to build a relationship.

How does it work out?How did J-Lo — Jennifer Lopez — and Ben love each other so much that they wanted to come together three times, only for it to end in disappointment every time?

She’s just like us: “I’ll try again. I’ll fill it with roses and wonder.”

But over time, the period she’s willing to put up with disappointment grows shorter and shorter.

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Love, Rori

**The Question:**

My boyfriend of four months is sometimes quite lazy in bed. Ha ha. Meaning he lets me do most of the work. He may be tired, but I feel there’s something deeper. He’s normally quite masculine. What can I do?

From Rori:

So when you say you’re “doing the work” — are you doing it on him, or on yourself?

Sex is… you know, it’s many things.

It can be slow and tantric.

It can be touch-oriented, breathing together, looking into each other’s eyes — just *feeling*.

It’s so much touching.

And it doesn’t even have to mean intercourse.

It’s energy.

It’s an exchange.

The joy is the *experience* — that incredible, orgasmic freedom that lets your spirit flutter right out of your body and fly around the room.

That wild, sacred release that feels like freedom.

You can do that on your own, yes — but it’s even more powerful in his presence.

Just lay there on your back and say, “I just wanna lay here like a couch — could you please f my brains out?”

Try that next time!

Take off all your clothes and say, > “I want you to just… make me crazy,” and watch what happens.

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Love, Rori

Teal is one of my Rori Raye coach Superstars, and she has already taught two full masterclasses inside the Siren Island Community.Today, she’s back to share how she became a true “Feminifestor” — in love, in partnership, and in the way men respond to her.I don’t talk about Law of Attraction very often, and yet many of my trained coaches and so many of my clients become master Feminifestors in their own lives.This is a special sneak peek of MAN-ifest — an introduction to the energetics of calling in a committed, emotionally available partner, and a preview of what Teal will be teaching in depth during the upcoming 5-day MAN-ifest experience.I hope you love this introduction to Teal’s event — I’ll be there!✨ Join Teal’s 5-Day Virtual Party Here:https://www.tealelisabeth.com/a/2148190876/FUg42oqzLove, Rori