He’s Lazy in Bed? Let’s Talk About Why — and What You Can Do

**The Question:**

My boyfriend of four months is sometimes quite lazy in bed. Ha ha. Meaning he lets me do most of the work. He may be tired, but I feel there’s something deeper. He’s normally quite masculine. What can I do?

From Rori:

So when you say you’re “doing the work” — are you doing it on him, or on yourself?

Sex is… you know, it’s many things.

It can be slow and tantric.

It can be touch-oriented, breathing together, looking into each other’s eyes — just *feeling*.

It’s so much touching.

And it doesn’t even have to mean intercourse.

It’s energy.

It’s an exchange.

The joy is the *experience* — that incredible, orgasmic freedom that lets your spirit flutter right out of your body and fly around the room.

That wild, sacred release that feels like freedom.

You can do that on your own, yes — but it’s even more powerful in his presence.

Just lay there on your back and say, “I just wanna lay here like a couch — could you please f my brains out?”

Try that next time!

Take off all your clothes and say, > “I want you to just… make me crazy,” and watch what happens.

Siren Island is where we practice voicing what you want like this — together.

Where you’ll learn to feel safe in your feminine power and to express your desire in every area of life — with love, with laughter, with softness, with fire.

There're live classes, embodiment practices, a sisterhood that holds you while you explore, and tools that help you live this way *everywhere*.

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Love, Rori