Look at your hand.

Look at the bracelet you’re wearing.

Look at the shirt you’re wearing.

Anything that inspires you to feel grounded, or the floor, or centered — or any of those words we always use — or an object you can touch, that you can feel engaged with. The table right here, the desk, your knee.

Hold your hand.

See if you can feel engaged with that.

And then see the man, see your boss, see whatever you see — see your work ahead of you — and don’t get lost in the picture for a minute.

I’m here.

See if that feels more deep.

So instead of “grounded” or “centered,” let’s call it being deep inside you — connected with you, engaged with you.

Now tell me:

Do you feel the need to ask a question of this person?

Or do you kind of feel quiet inside?

If you suddenly feel quiet inside, then there’s no need to ask a question.

So what is going on with your vibe now that you’re down there?

Are you feeling angry at him because he’s not engaging with you, and it creates this need inside you?

Are you feeling frustrated that you’re in this moment of discomfort?

Or do you feel, oh, I just needed to drop down — I just needed to feel me?

I need to feel inside me.

I need to feel self.

Self.

We talk about self-respect, self-regard, self-love… but how about you just feel self?

Me.

Say me.

Say self.

You feel that full vibration, that full aliveness of me.

And yes, it can make you feel anxious that they will go away if you’re not reaching out.

Of course. So pull it back in. Pull that anxiety, that worry about them, back inside.

Drop it down inside you.

It often feels like a reach-out — like a tentacle going out — and then it becomes words, a question.

So what we want to do is notice when that’s happening.

Notice when you feel the need to reach out… and pull it back inside.

Feel the loneliness.

Feel what’s at the bottom of the feeling that makes you think you need to engage the other human. Turn to a dog, a cat. Feel presence. Feel pleasure.

All of a sudden it feels like an invitation.

So what we’re really saying is: whenever you feel the need to reach out and ask — even to someone at work, someone on your team — pause and ask yourself:

What is the root of that feeling of need?

Because it may not be a need at all.

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Love, Rori

We’re talking about dating as opposed to deep relationships.

So I think in this segment I’m going to go into if you’re deeper into a relationship and there’s so much more baggage and history when you attempt to connect rather than separate through your words, and by getting down into what it is you want when you are already so untaken care of and you have so much anger and all kinds of stuff going on.

What I’d like to start with is first a recap of this whole process that I’m talking about.

We're starting from a scratch— and if you're not in a loving relationship that feels extraordinary and you’re super happy and amazing...

If you’re still not there yet, the way I certainly was until I was 40, then you, like me, have been spending all of your energy literally saying that you want love, but literally pushing it away.

That all of your energy has been going into pushing love away, not pulling it in.

That your whole—you come to me here with the energetic machine of pushing men away automatically.

You’re good at it, and you do it.

Even though it sounds and feels like something else to you. It feels like you’re not lucky, or the bad men.

It's you pushing men away and love away on purpose, because that is your inner self trying to protect you.

So let’s switch that!

On Siren Island, you can work with my Rori Raye Coaches every day, in the community, and live over Zoom in five different classes through the month.

You can have everything you want from your feminine energy.

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Love, Rori

So, connection. What does connection feel like?

I’m really talking to faith-based women and non–faith-based women who can come with me into a spiritual place.

And when I say a spiritual place, it’s ephemeral.

It’s not concrete.

The people around you don’t know what you’re talking about.

They may think you are silly.

They may think you’re a “silly feeler” with spiritual leanings.

I want you to realize how much you are trying to block that stuff.

I don’t know a single woman who is not actually a spiritual person.

You have the ability to build cells in your body.

What could that possibly be?

You know, cells go bad in your body—and you can heal.

That’s something completely different.

That’s connection: to your body, to life, to self, to everything.

Just speaking about it—do you feel like we’re in another world that I could call spiritual?

We’re speaking about what I can’t do with a needle or scissors.

We’re speaking about what heals.

When you break your leg, isn’t it amazing that it heals by itself?

Yes, it’s a function of the way your body works, but it’s kind of magical because you don’t know exactly how it works.

Siren Island is where you can practice the magical feminine state of being with me and my Feminine Siren Coaches.

The live classes, the practices, the community, the tools—

all created to help you feel safe in your feminine power so you can use it everywhere in your life.

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Love, Rori