Here's the Question: I want to be friends with a recent ex, and I know that we want different things romantically, but how can I build back the trust and support as friends when he refuses to talk to me?From Rori: All right. You may hate me, but don’t. Don’t do it. Stop it.Too much energy. Ridiculous. For your real wants. He’s a friend.He’s not going to help you. Forget it.Plus, you’re trying to convince him because he’s not coming towards you. You’re totally staying in your masculine energy for a reason.And the reason is you feel lonely, right?You want to, and you want to win too.Let’s see. Yes, you want the win of winning him over.Please don’t do it. Please step away.If I was doing one-to-one with you, I would… even in a master class, I know you’d fight me and you’d say, “oh, but he’s really a worthwhile person. There’s so many things that he could offer me. He could get me a job. He could do this. He could do that.”Doesn’t matter.He’s… like this. You’re going like this forward and he’s moving away. You’re just chasing him.And guess what? All this energy that you’re using on that is just crippling you from what you really want, which is an honest relationship.But I’m here to tell you, I know because I know this in myself.If you meet a man who starts moving towards you, you’re going to run because internally, this is all you can handle.You have to practice.You have to practice just staying like this, like a flower open and let guys come to you and try to pollinate you.Just let them come to you.If you feel scared and you start to run away, I want you to notice that.But going forward is always the losing strategy.Going forward after someone is always a losing strategy.Any strategy is losing.But you’re in your mind, you’re in your masculine.Don’t.Stay still.Being a siren is all about stillness.It’s all about serenity.It’s all about staying on your island.It’s all about singing.It’s all about you singing.If you recognize yourself here, if this feels familiar…Siren Island is where you want to be.Join me on Siren Island here:https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-feminine-energy-course-and-community/Love, Rori

Everything’s getting better, but it’s still not working.

What’s going on? Here’s what I really want you to hear what you’re saying to yourself, okay?You’re saying:X, Y, Z has happened, therefore it will continue to happen.But truthfully, haven’t you ever felt breakthroughs continually in your life?You couldn’t figure out a problem all of a sudden.Have you ever felt like shut down and all of a sudden you cried and then you felt yourself open?All of a sudden your dog did something cute and you went—that’s an opening.That means if some man stood in front of you, no matter how closed down you feel at any given moment, if you tracked yourself and maybe tried to tool in the moment, you could open up for that moment.Most of us have a bad habit of walking down the street, walking through life in a half dead state.You know, we’re in our heads.We are not feeling anything or experiencing anything.We’re in our heads.So we want to work on that and start feeling what’s going on in our body.Start looking at what’s around us—the grass, the trees.Start dropping our head action down into our vaginas and doing that constantly all day long.It’s a matter of…and then you will start to feel more gapsmore openingsmore moments where you feel more like yourselfwhen you feel looserwhen you’re not in your headand things not working out i i’m if you’d like to write that down like one one not work outthe only reason something would not work out would be that: • either he’s decided you’re not the one • or you’ve decided, even though he wants you, that he’s not the one • or he doesn’t want what you wantYou want kids, he doesn’t want kids.All the things that could be decided on date one.And which wouldn’t make a difference as long as you were circular dating more than one man at the same time.It wouldn’t be serial.It wouldn’t be, oh, this is good and then it falls apart.This would be good and then it falls apart.If you’re doing them all, if you’re doing 10 men at the same time or you’re open to it,you have much more chance of not leaning on any one man.And the second that you found a man amazing,it is possible that you started leaning forward.And he went, "whoops, bye!"Which is pretty impossible to happen with a man who actually thinks you’re the one.So there’s no way for you to know.You just got to keep going.Talk to basketball players.Look at sports.One minute, a guy’s falling on his face and missing the hoop 20 times in a row.The next minute he throws it in the hoop and he wins the game for everybody.Yes?So keeping track of your past no’s does not mean that the next yes no is going to be a no.It doesn’t.So here we’re back to this.If you can feel this… it’s for you.Come join me on Siren Island,where you’ll learn how to open, feel, and live in an epically powerful feminine state of being.Enter here:https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-feminine-energy-course-and-community/Love, Rori

The process of dating, online dating, going on dates, talking to men—that is like exposure, the psychological technique for healing anxiety.

If you’re terrified of elevators, you get into the elevator and you deal with your anxiety from a very knowledgeable place until, guess what? The anxiety reaches a level… and then it goes down, if you’re paying attention.

So as a Siren, as a modern Siren on Siren Island, learning these techniques to track yourself, you will start to heal yourself through the process of dating and being in a relationship—because it’s those moments of being triggered that are the healing moments.

So I’m hoping this is exciting you and giving you more reason to get more deeply involved in this relationship concept, because it will help heal your codependent survival instincts on all levels.

Which is going to elevate you financially. It’s going to elevate your work—because your bosses are 99% sure to be in masculine energy, whether or not they’re men or women.

Yes—women bosses are totally in their masculine energy.

And we need to open the door for you to be a leader in your field, in your feminine.

And that means retraining yourself—and everyone around you.

So this is pretty momentous.

But guess what?

It’s the easiest route compared to the one you’re doing now.

The one you’re doing now involves thinking your way through it, trying to manipulate other people into loving you and liking you in order for you to survive—which is why we choose unavailable men, men who are confused, men who don’t know what they want.

When it’s clear as a bell what you want…

Yes, it just makes me—yes—tear up here.

It’s like I’m working against myself.

You’re working against yourself if you try to pretend like it’s not important to you and say, “I’m just going to decenter them.”

No.

So what I want you to do is start noticing—with The Catch.

There are six Love Forever Tools. If you’re not on Siren Island and hearing this, if you’re not in my Siren world—get in it somehow so you can get the Six Love Forever Tools.

Those will change your life in—what—10 pages?

So the first one is The Catch, the first of the six. The Catch means awareness.

This is everything you see out there—Eckhart Tolle, being a mystic as I perceive myself, the magic of life itself, all of those things… the intuition.

Siren Island is here: https://www.coachrori.com/lp/siren-island-feminine-energy-course-and-community/

Love, Rori