What we do in our entire lives is we concoct this mental strategy, we have put together a pattern of behavior that we were taught to protect ourselves.

Our parents taught us that, society taught us that, we taught us ourselves that from the first time we were hurt by exposing ourselves.

We learned how to do everything possible to push people away and not be emotionally intimate.

And if you really look at everybody around you, you will notice hardly anybody is open to real emotional connection, and we've accepted that.

We've accepted anger and all kinds of strategies other than the reality of being where we are, loving ourselves, being in ourselves, and not being in the old patterns.

All of a sudden it's brand new, it's terrifying, He comes close. You are open. It's

like being assaulted!Go ahead. Imagine him in front of you. Imagine he's all you ever wanted. Imagine him now actually walking towards you with flowers and a ring and food and love and a smile in his face.

And he reaches you and he touches your breast. And he just says, "You are beautiful. How do you feel?"

I've never met a woman who doesn't immediately feel terrified the moment she gets what she wants.

So we want to prepare for that!

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Siren Island is my official community and Feminine Energy Sanctuary, right now the monthly membership is only $33 here:

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Love, Rori

So often, we acquiesce.

Not because we’re weak, but because it’s easier.

Easier to go along with his mood, his energy, his comfort zone—than to sit with what’s actually alive inside of us.

If I just soften, smile, agree, maybe the tension will go away.

Maybe love will feel safe again.

But when I do that too quickly, without checking in with me first, something happens: I start to disappear.

And with that disappearing act comes resentment.

Tiny and quiet at first, like a whisper we don’t want to admit we hear. We tell ourselves, “I’m fine. I’m the cool girl.

I can handle this.” But under that “fine” is a feeling that never got acknowledged.

And when we keep stuffing that feeling down just to keep the peace, we slowly lose touch with our true feminine power.

But what if we didn’t do that?

What if your first reaction wasn’t to him, but to you?

This is the practice!

It’s in those exact moments—when he’s distracted or cold or unavailable—that you have a choice.

You could shrink and make it about him…

Or you could lean into your own body, your own breath, and ask gently, “What’s happening in me?”

When we respond to ourselves first, something softens and steadies. Maybe we don’t need to say anything right away. Maybe the moment becomes a cup of tea, stroking the cat, letting our nervous system settle.

And sometimes—often, even—before you know it, he’s right there, arms around you, pulled back in by the magnetic truth of your centeredness.

On Siren Island, we practice living as your most empowered Feminine Self.

Practicing Feminine Energy tools you want and need to feel your best all out GIRL life and have love respond to you in beautiful feeling ways.

Siren Island is my official community and Feminine Energy Sanctuary, right now the monthly membership is only $33 here:

https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-community-program/

Love, Rori

So let's say out of nowhere, he's defensive.

Out of nowhere, he's just like pissed. He's cranky, right?

And he says something and you immediately feel, I want to get back on track.

I want to be loved.

what happened, he just got mad at me, and you're going to have reactions.

So we want to make the difference between reaction and responsiveness in all thesedifferent scenarios.

So the reaction would be, you're pissed right back.

How dare he? Where is this coming from?

And anger, right?

Another option would be, oh, we're off.

Oh my gosh, you know, what know what happened?

Let's get us back on track.... I'll be loving, I'll be giving, I'll be warm...

That could be a reaction and we're all different.

Some of us immediately click into anger, some of us immediately click into repair mode.

On Siren Island, we practice living as your most empowered Feminine Self.

Practicing Feminine Energy tools you want and need to feel your best all out GIRL life and have love respond to you in beautiful feeling ways.

Siren Island is my official community and Feminine Energy Sanctuary, right now the monthly membership is only $33 here:

https://blog.havetherelationshipyouwant.com/siren-island-community-program/

Love, Rori