Asking Him Questions Doesn’t Create Connection, Do This Instead…

Look at your hand.

Look at the bracelet you’re wearing.

Look at the shirt you’re wearing.

Anything that inspires you to feel grounded, or the floor, or centered — or any of those words we always use — or an object you can touch, that you can feel engaged with. The table right here, the desk, your knee.

Hold your hand.

See if you can feel engaged with that.

And then see the man, see your boss, see whatever you see — see your work ahead of you — and don’t get lost in the picture for a minute.

I’m here.

See if that feels more deep.

So instead of “grounded” or “centered,” let’s call it being deep inside you — connected with you, engaged with you.

Now tell me:

Do you feel the need to ask a question of this person?

Or do you kind of feel quiet inside?

If you suddenly feel quiet inside, then there’s no need to ask a question.

So what is going on with your vibe now that you’re down there?

Are you feeling angry at him because he’s not engaging with you, and it creates this need inside you?

Are you feeling frustrated that you’re in this moment of discomfort?

Or do you feel, oh, I just needed to drop down — I just needed to feel me?

I need to feel inside me.

I need to feel self.

Self.

We talk about self-respect, self-regard, self-love… but how about you just feel self?

Me.

Say me.

Say self.

You feel that full vibration, that full aliveness of me.

And yes, it can make you feel anxious that they will go away if you’re not reaching out.

Of course. So pull it back in. Pull that anxiety, that worry about them, back inside.

Drop it down inside you.

It often feels like a reach-out — like a tentacle going out — and then it becomes words, a question.

So what we want to do is notice when that’s happening.

Notice when you feel the need to reach out… and pull it back inside.

Feel the loneliness.

Feel what’s at the bottom of the feeling that makes you think you need to engage the other human. Turn to a dog, a cat. Feel presence. Feel pleasure.

All of a sudden it feels like an invitation.

So what we’re really saying is: whenever you feel the need to reach out and ask — even to someone at work, someone on your team — pause and ask yourself:

What is the root of that feeling of need?

Because it may not be a need at all.

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Love, Rori