What do you say when someone dies? What do you do when it's your someone? In this episode of Mind the Chatter, we contemplate the emotional and psychological weight of losing a loved one. From awkward condolences to the strange bureaucracy of death, we explore how grief disrupts routines, relationships, and even our sense of self. Drawing from counseling theory and lived experience, we talk about mourning, memory, meaning-making, and the slow, uneven road to healing. Insightful, grounded, and just irreverent enough, this one’s for anyone who's ever felt a little lost in loss.

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Lilian Wanja – Counselling Psychologist, Mental Wellness Speaker

Peter Nyugi – Counselling Psychologist, Writer

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We kick off our mini-series on grief with a conversation that redefines what loss really means. From breakups and job loss to the death of a loved one, grief shows up in more ways than we expect. And it doesn’t follow a neat timeline. In this episode, we describe the emotional, physical, and cognitive impact of grief, why it hurts so much, and how to navigate it without judgment. Whether you’re grieving a person, a dream, or even a version of yourself, this mini-series is for you.

🎧 Your Hosts:

Lilian Wanja – Counselling Psychologist, Mental Wellness Speaker

Peter Nyugi – Counselling Psychologist, Writer

Questions, feedback, or want to book a session?

Email us at: ⁠⁠⁠mindthechatterpod@gmail.com

In this episode of Mind the Chatter, we dive into the quiet, heavy world of shame, the emotion that makes you want to disappear. We break down what shame actually is, where it comes from, and how it sneaks into everyday life disguised as perfectionism, people-pleasing, and self-sabotage.

We also explore the not-too-subtle difference between shame and guilt, the role of culture and family, and how therapy helps untangle the story shame tries to tell you. Expect honest insights, real-life examples, therapist-backed strategies, and a reminder that you are so much more than your worst inner critic.

🎧 Your Hosts:

Lilian Wanja – Counselling Psychologist, Mental Wellness Speaker

Peter Nyugi – Counselling Psychologist, Writer

Questions, feedback, or want to book a session?

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In this episode of Mind the Chatter, we untangle the often-blurry lines of family boundaries. We discuss what they are, why they matter, and how to set them without setting the house on fire. From guilt trips and unsolicited advice to enmeshment and invisible loyalties, we explore the psychological roots of boundary struggles and how to break cycles without breaking relationships. Expect relatable stories, therapist-approved tips, and a few laughs at the awkward art of saying "no" to your loved ones.

🎧 Your Hosts:

Lilian Wanja – Counselling Psychologist, Mental Wellness Speaker

Peter Nyugi – Counselling Psychologist, Writer

Questions, feedback, or want to book a session?

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In this episode of Mind the Chatter, we unpack what emotions really are, why they matter, and how they can help (or hinder) your everyday life. We explore the difference between adaptive and maladaptive emotions and break down common emotional responses. As always, we share practical tools for emotional regulation. Whether you tend to shut down or feel everything all at once, this one's for you.

🛠️ Resources Mentioned:

• Expand your emotion vocabulary: TherapistAid Emotion Worksheets

• Download a Feelings Log: Feelings Log PDF

  
  

🎧 Your Hosts:

Lilian Wanja – Counselling Psychologist, Mental Wellness Speaker
Peter Nyugi – Counselling Psychologist, Writer

Questions, feedback, or want to book a session?
Email us at: mindthechatterpod@gmail.com

How do you know when you actually need help? In this episode, we break down the subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs that your mental health might need attention. From physical symptoms to sneaky coping mechanisms, we explore why asking for help feels so hard and how to make it easier. Whether it's therapy, support from friends, or just giving yourself permission to pause, this is your reminder that you don’t have to do it alone.

We get to introduce ourselves as mental health professionals and give you an idea of what to expect in future episodes.