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Today, Dr. Heidi continues to explore the dynamics of toxic relationships, particularly focusing on how individuals with toxic personalities view others as mere resources for emotional support. She introduces the concept of the 'vending machine' dynamic, where the toxic person only engages when they need something, leading to emotional abuse and control. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of recognizing these patterns and taking steps to protect oneself from falling into the vending machine trap.

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In this episode, Dr. Heidi explores the concept of the 'glass house' as a metaphor for the toxic personality's fragile self-image. She discusses the role of the 'chief editor' who manages the narrative to protect this image, the unpredictability of toxic behaviors, and the intense need to be right that drives these individuals. The conversation emphasizes understanding these dynamics to regain personal power and clarity in relationships with toxic individuals.

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In this conversation, Dr. Heidi explores the concept of emotional math in toxic relationships, where positive experiences are often met with negativity. She explains how the toxic individuals in these relationships operate under a scarcity mindset, leading to insecurity and competition over emotional resources. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of recognizing one's own successes and not minimizing them due to the reactions of others. The discussion also highlights the predictability of toxic behaviors, allowing individuals to better navigate their relationships and own their happiness.

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Also check out her sister podcast, 'Fak'n Tired' where she talks all about the after affects and emotional wreckage that is left over after the toxic relationship has ended.

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In this episode, Dr. Heidi discusses the complexities of toxic relationships, and how we often second guess ourselves when attempting to find answers. She emphasizes how important both validation and understanding are in moving forward . She shares her personal experiences and insights on recognizing toxic behaviors, the predictability of such patterns, and the necessity of observing and documenting these behaviors for personal growth. The conversation aims to empower listeners to differentiate between normal and toxic dynamics in relationships, ultimately guiding them towards healing and self-awareness.

Here is the link to the new sister podcast, 'Fak'n Tired'.

https://open.spotify.com/show/0IGMxKcGNPOPDQMrCmfs8a?si=pYah9QsXTduaaGOEUzsCTA

In this episode, Dr. Heidi discusses the unseen complexities of toxic relationships and the journey towards healing and self-acceptance. She introduces her new podcast, 'Fak'n Tired,' which aims to provide support for those challenged by life after toxic relationships. Dr. Heidi emphasizes the importance of understanding the nervous system's role in our reactions and behaviors, and encourages listeners to strive for the element of understanding the residual effects that you may be experiencing. Her wish is that you too can find independence and peace. The conversation highlights the need for sustainable support, the recognition of internal changes, and understanding things that may show up after leaving toxic environments.

In this conversation, I discusses the complexities of emotional abuse and its long-lasting effects on individuals. I am choosing to emphasize that there are no truly good days in emotionally abusive relationships, as the perceived good days are often manipulated by the abuser to control the victim's feelings and reactions. I explain the difference between emotions and feelings, and how emotional abusers use language and behavior to distort their victims' perceptions of their own feelings, leading to confusion and dependency.

Listener question: My former has turning himself into the victim & it seems to be getting worse as negotiations move forward.

As I share more & more of my personal journey of healing, I see how even the everyday events, the ups and downs of just normal life have been affected by my past. Today, I am telling you a story & discussing the importance of understanding one's reactions and the impact of past experiences on current behaviors. Through an upsetting but non emergency life event, a flood in my basement, I reflect on the lessons I have learned about loss, change, and personal empowerment. The self growth is becoming so much more evident, even in the little things. The importance of making my own decisions, finding strength in adversity, & seeing the reason bad stuff sometimes happens, has given me a confident feeling of both self acceptance & inner peace.