In this episode of Desire and Power, I sit down for a long-form conversation with a dominant to explore what dominance actually means beyond stereotypes, fantasy, and misinformation.

We talk about the psychology of dominance, the level of responsibility it requires, and why real power in BDSM has nothing to do with abuse and everything to do with consent, accountability, emotional intelligence, and care. We explore how power is exchanged rather than taken, why many highly intelligent and neurodivergent people are drawn to kink, and what it truly means to hold space for another human being.

This conversation offers a grounded, honest look at dominance as a form of leadership: one rooted in communication, humility, and devotion to a partner’s safety, pleasure, and autonomy.

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In this episode, I explore the psychology of submission. Not as weakness or pathology, but as selective, embodied surrender. Through a short interview with a man who submits only to women he experiences as truly “superior,” we unpack why submission feels empty when it’s disconnected from meaning, and deeply fulfilling when it’s aligned with safety, presence, and discernment. This is a conversation about desire, power, nervous-system trust, and what happens when surrender is chosen rather than compulsive.

For more essays and deep dives into erotic psychology, shadow work, and desire, you can find everything here:

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Content note:This episode explores power and submission from a psychological and consensual lens. It is intended for adult listeners and discusses erotic dynamics in a reflective, non-instructional way.

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Modern dating feels exhausting — ghosting, mixed signals, emotional laziness, and a constant sense that no one is fully present. In this episode, I break down why flakiness has become so common, not as a personal failure, but as a predictable outcome of the culture we’re living in.

We talk about dopamine-trained nervous systems, the illusion of endless options, social media’s impact on intimacy, and why so many people confuse intensity with connection. I also share what non-flaky dating actually looks like in practice: not idealized, not perfect, but grounded in self-awareness, consistency, and choice.

This episode isn’t about blaming men or women. It’s about understanding what’s actually happening beneath the surface, and what it takes to opt out of a dating culture that keeps people stuck, numb, and disconnected.

For more essays and deep dives into erotic psychology, shadow work, and desire, you can find everything here:

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In this episode, I talk about desire and power as lived experiences, not something to optimize, perform, or moralize, but something that moves with the nervous system.

I share a period where my desire disappeared completely after heartbreak, why I didn’t force it back, and how it slowly returned through imagination rather than another person. We explore why desire often needs safety and containment before it comes back online, and how reclaiming private desire can radically shift your relationship to power.

We also get into the uncomfortable truth that desire can be narrow, specific, and non-negotiable, and that trying to force it out of obligation is a form of self-betrayal. Power, in this context, isn’t about control or options. It’s about choice, self-trust, and the willingness to say no.

For more essays and deep dives into erotic psychology, shadow work, and desire, you can find everything here:👉 https://linktr.ee/velvetvenenum

Christmas has a way of amplifying everything we try to keep contained — longing, resentment, nostalgia, desire, restraint.

In this episode, I explore the psychological and embodied side of the holidays: how family roles activate the shadow, how repression and ritual shape desire, and why this time of year can feel both tender and suffocating.

This is a quiet reflection on presence, honesty, and staying connected to yourself when everything asks you to perform.

In this episode, I slow down and explain what I actually mean when I talk about desire and power. Not as buzzwords, and not as moral categories, but as two forces that quietly shape how we relate, choose, repress, comply, and perform.

We explore desire as movement and information, power as influence rather than domination, and what happens when both remain unconscious. This episode lays the foundation for the work I’m doing here and why so many people feel disconnected even when they’re “doing everything right.”

If you’ve ever felt confused by your own desire, uncomfortable with power, or exhausted by trying to be good instead of honest, this episode is for you.

— Mira

This is a short introductory episode.

I talk about why I wanted to speak this work instead of only writing it, what voice changes in the body, and what this podcast is meant to hold.

Future episodes will move between solo reflections and long-form conversations exploring erotic psychology, shadow, desire, power, and the places where they intersect with culture and politics.

This episode simply sets the tone.

If you would like to check out my writing, head on over to my Substack.

- Mira