Interview with a Dom

In this episode of Desire and Power, I sit down for a long-form conversation with a dominant to explore what dominance actually means beyond stereotypes, fantasy, and misinformation.

We talk about the psychology of dominance, the level of responsibility it requires, and why real power in BDSM has nothing to do with abuse and everything to do with consent, accountability, emotional intelligence, and care. We explore how power is exchanged rather than taken, why many highly intelligent and neurodivergent people are drawn to kink, and what it truly means to hold space for another human being.

This conversation offers a grounded, honest look at dominance as a form of leadership: one rooted in communication, humility, and devotion to a partner’s safety, pleasure, and autonomy.

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