In this episode of Desire and Power, I sit down for a long-form conversation with a dominant to explore what dominance actually means beyond stereotypes, fantasy, and misinformation.

We talk about the psychology of dominance, the level of responsibility it requires, and why real power in BDSM has nothing to do with abuse and everything to do with consent, accountability, emotional intelligence, and care. We explore how power is exchanged rather than taken, why many highly intelligent and neurodivergent people are drawn to kink, and what it truly means to hold space for another human being.

This conversation offers a grounded, honest look at dominance as a form of leadership: one rooted in communication, humility, and devotion to a partner’s safety, pleasure, and autonomy.

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In this episode, I explore the psychology of submission. Not as weakness or pathology, but as selective, embodied surrender. Through a short interview with a man who submits only to women he experiences as truly “superior,” we unpack why submission feels empty when it’s disconnected from meaning, and deeply fulfilling when it’s aligned with safety, presence, and discernment. This is a conversation about desire, power, nervous-system trust, and what happens when surrender is chosen rather than compulsive.

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Content note:This episode explores power and submission from a psychological and consensual lens. It is intended for adult listeners and discusses erotic dynamics in a reflective, non-instructional way.

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Modern dating feels exhausting — ghosting, mixed signals, emotional laziness, and a constant sense that no one is fully present. In this episode, I break down why flakiness has become so common, not as a personal failure, but as a predictable outcome of the culture we’re living in.

We talk about dopamine-trained nervous systems, the illusion of endless options, social media’s impact on intimacy, and why so many people confuse intensity with connection. I also share what non-flaky dating actually looks like in practice: not idealized, not perfect, but grounded in self-awareness, consistency, and choice.

This episode isn’t about blaming men or women. It’s about understanding what’s actually happening beneath the surface, and what it takes to opt out of a dating culture that keeps people stuck, numb, and disconnected.

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