Modern Dating Is Broken — Here’s Why

Modern dating feels exhausting — ghosting, mixed signals, emotional laziness, and a constant sense that no one is fully present. In this episode, I break down why flakiness has become so common, not as a personal failure, but as a predictable outcome of the culture we’re living in.

We talk about dopamine-trained nervous systems, the illusion of endless options, social media’s impact on intimacy, and why so many people confuse intensity with connection. I also share what non-flaky dating actually looks like in practice: not idealized, not perfect, but grounded in self-awareness, consistency, and choice.

This episode isn’t about blaming men or women. It’s about understanding what’s actually happening beneath the surface, and what it takes to opt out of a dating culture that keeps people stuck, numb, and disconnected.

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