What Do You Say?

How to Talk with Kids to Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance, and a Happy Home

De: William Stixrud PhD, Ned Johnson

Narrado por: Ned Johnson

A guide to effectively communicating with teenagers by the bestselling authors of The Self-Driven Child and Seven Principles for Raising a Self-Driven Child

If you're a parent, you've had a moment--maybe many of them--when you've thought, "How did that conversation go so badly?" At some point after the sixth grade, the same kid who asked "why" non-stop at age four suddenly stops talking to you. And the conversations that you wish you could have--ones fueled by your desire to see your kid not just safe and healthy, but passionately engaged--suddenly feel nearly impossible to execute. The good news is that effective communication can be cultivated, learned, and taught. And as you get better at this, so will your kids.

William Stixrud, Ph.D., and Ned Johnson have 60 years combined experience talking to kids one-on-one, and the most common question they get when out speaking to parents and educators is: What do you say? While many adults understand the importance and power of the philosophies behind the books that dominate the parenting bestseller list, parents are often left wondering how to put those concepts into action. In What Do You Say?, Johnson and Stixrud show how to engage in respectful and effective dialogue, beginning with defining and demonstrating the basic principles of listening and speaking. Then they show new ways to handle specific, thorny topics of the sort that usually end in parent/kid standoffs: delivering constructive feedback to kids; discussing boundaries around technology; explaining sleep and their brains; the anxiety of current events; and family problem-solving. What Do You Say? is a manual and map that will immediately transform parents' ability to navigate complex terrain and train their minds and hearts to communicate ever more successfully.

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“In an age when childhood anxiety, depression, and suicide are on the rise, parents need, more than ever, tools for communicating effectively with children. What Do You Say? could not have arrived at a better time and is essential reading for today’s parents.” —Booklist

"Full of easy-to-implement tips, this is a resource parents will return to." --STARRED Publishers Weekly

“A must-read for any parent who finally wants to stop arguing, bickering, and negotiating with their kids, but who also wants their children to succeed and do well in life. Stixrud and Johnson provide clear, actionable guidance on how to motivate kids to do well school, to conquer their fears and anxieties, and ultimately to pursue activities that bring joy and happiness. The advice in this book has already helped me become a kinder, more effective mom.” --Michaeleen Doucleff, New York Times bestselling author of Hunt, Gather, Parent


"In What Do You Say? Stixrud and Johnson function as guardian angels who show up at precisely the right time with precisely the right advice. Deploying an ideal mashup of research, relatable scenarios, and instructive dialogues they guide you to be a calm, loving consultant to your child, while helping you counteract the impulse to push, pull, or control. Your kid grows capable and resilient from their strong interpersonal connection with you, the competency they develop, and the autonomy you’re giving them. This book is a must-read game-changer for all parents. It’s already changing my life!" —Julie Lythcott-Haims, New York Times bestselling author of Your Turn and How To Raise an Adult

Excellent Resource & Inspiration

I love how concisely the information is delivered and all the practical examples amd uses. This book is filled to the brim with wisdom for communicating with children and adults alike.

Very logical and loving

Great ways to show love and respect to children. Also great insight to thoughts and psychology of parental actions. i loved the book and have started implementing communication techniques with my own children, they do work. i intend on listening to it again.

Parenting college class worth paying for

If there were a college for parenting, but the kind where you loved the curriculum and didn’t feel bored lost or preached to, this would be one of the classes you’d want to take.

Whether you think you’re a good parent or not this book is perfect for you

Learned a lot

I enjoyed this book as it was full of useful tips and also included various scenarios with helpful suggestions on how to navigate those scenarios. They were very relevant to today’s parents. I implemented many of the suggestions and have already noticed improvements in how my kids and I communicate. This is a fantastic tool.

Excellent science based book.

This was wonderful. I will strive to implement these lessons in my daily life.

I would like a book suggestion that applies to the relationship with spouse.

Actionable Advice

I really appreciate the rational approach to dealing with kids as future adults. Teaching them over telling them. Lots to work on with many examples and sample conversations/scripts. The book seems more appropriate for kids about 10 and up. Highly recommend.

Very good in every respect.

The book overs many aspects of the topic very well and always provides logical and implementable suggestions to address the situations being discussed. The presentation is not overly complicated or too lengthy and the material is easy to follow and incorporate in how you interact with children. I highly recommend the book.

Very helpful info

As the granddad of an 11-year-old girl and a 13-year-old boy, I needed some help. This was just what I needed!

Excellent follow-up to their previous book

Enough new info to warrant a listen even if you've read The Self-Driven Child.

A must read for parenting

I downloaded the audio book and it was a great listen from beginning to end. Jewels in every chapter and what a gift these two men have given. Please don’t stop there and keep continuing this most important discourse on how to parent and talk with children.