Mom Rage

The Everyday Crisis of Modern Motherhood

De: Minna Dubin

Narrado por: Minna Dubin

A frank, feminist examination of the hidden crisis of rage facing American mothers—and how we can fix it

Mothers aren’t supposed to be angry. Still, Minna Dubin was an angry mom: exhausted by the grueling, thankless work of full-time parenting and feeling her career slip away, she would find herself screaming at her child or exploding at her husband.

When Dubin pushed past her shame and talked with other mothers about how she was feeling, she realized that she was far from alone. Mom Rage is Dubin’s groundbreaking work of reportage about an unspoken crisis of anger sweeping the country—and the world. She finds that while a specific instance of rage might be triggered by something as simple as a child who won’t tie her shoes, the roots of the anger go far deeper, from the unequal burden of childcare shouldered by moms to the flattening of women’s identities once they have kids. Drawing on insights from moms across the spectrum of race, sexual orientation, and class, she offers practical tools to help readers disarm their rage in the moment, while never losing sight of the broader social change we need to stop raging for good.

Reseñas de la Crítica

“The author’s candid appraisal of her own rage . . . and her penetrating insights make for captivating reading. It’s an astute account of how society fails mothers." —Publishers Weekly

“A cleareyed analysis of the intricate web of cultural and political challenges that make female-identified parenting nearly impossible . . . the author writes with humor, vulnerability, and a level of expertise that shape her narrative into a nuanced and convincing argument for justice.”

—Kirkus

“Mom Ragemakes crucial space for all of us who have experienced the sudden, terrifying urge to stab a mattress with a kitchen knife, punch a wall, or squeeze our children a little too tightly. Dubin reminds us our darkest moments are symptoms of systemic failings, not signs of personal flaws—and that our anger should be harnessed as an animating force for equity.”
—Angela Garbes, author of Essential Labor

“Mom Rage does an expert job weaving data and research to explain why moms are in crisis while also giving us thoughtful individual and systemic solutions.”—Eve Rodsky, author of Find Your Unicorn Space

“Breaking down the unnamable feelings so many women have as mothers, Mom Rage is a must-read for women who struggle to reconcile the cultural pressure to be 'good mothers' with the powerful negative emotions that come with parenting."—Soraya Chemaly, author of Rage Become Her

“If you've ever screamed at your child in ways that shock you — and we all have, haven't we? — Mom Rage is an absolute must-read. As Minna Dubin argues, your anger is not a moral failing. This book is an eye-opening exploration of the many social forces that drive mothers to explode at their children, as well as the societal and situational solutions that could, ultimately, save us.”

—Melinda Wenner Moyer, author of How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes

"Mom Rage is a critical addition to the literature of mothering, compassionately exploring the ugly, rageful moments that haunt many of us even as we struggle to do right by our kids. Dubin invites us to consider our rage in the full context of a perverse, broken, contradictory, and cruel American system that fails families at every turn. I needed the compassion of this book, as well as its expansive look of what parenting can and should be.”

—Lydia Kiesling, author of Golden State

Spot on!

Every single thing in this book made me feel so seen! I found so much comfort in listening to this book!

Must read for today’s mom and everyone who loves her

This was life affirming. Thank you, Minna for sharing your personal story and the struggle of mothers everywhere (especially the US.) The system is broken. Mothers and children both need better care. - An inspired mama

Better Than Expected

I love the facts, the way it is written, the research put into the book.

This is a woman’s book written by a woman that show our worlds faults on motherhood and the neglect of the world to show help for all mothers.

It is must read for any “mom”!

As a lesbian foster mom this book helped me understand that I am not alone. Mom rage is real and I am not losing my mind. Thankfully I heard the book mention on a podcast.

Empowering, liberating, and enlightening

This book speaks the unspoken truths that many mothers know. Mom Rage shares how other parents, family and community members need to help mothers in a way that I found helpful and empowering.

I gained greater insight into how I want to help raise kids while also learning more about my own rage and my mothers.

By doing this and more, this book is clearly shifting the cultural narrative of what being a mother truly looks like and requires. It’s honest.

Couldn’t finish the book- disappointing and vulgar

I read many books and can work through difficult moments to get to the book’s lesson… but this one I could not bring myself to continue. While I can’t say my review is the most valid since I only got through chapter three, I felt this book just made me feel more frustrated and angry as I read.

I feel the author understands many of the struggles women and mothers face, but her delivery of the material is so dark and bitter that I couldn’t bring myself to continue it. While this is a book entitled “mom rage” and definitely is out to make sure the reader understands the injustices faced by mothers everywhere, the profanity and seething contempt the author seems to feel towards many perceived groups (patriarchy, people judging your parenting, the “PR” team of motherhood, and more) left me feeling confused and frustrated with the author (not the injustices). I believe validating emotions and working through problems and injustices are important, but utter contempt for everyone, “society” and “culture” doesn’t feel like we’re gonna get anywhere.