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Deal Breakers: When to Work on a Relationship and When to Walk Away | [Dr. Bethany Marshall]

Deal Breakers: When to Work on a Relationship and When to Walk Away

This is a book about men. Not all men, just emotionally unhealthy men. The ones who make you question, "Is it him or is it me? Am I making too big a deal out of this? I try to tell him how I feel, but he says I'm overreacting or needy or it's all my fault". Relationships are hard work, but how hard should they be? When do you know you are struggling too hard to make a relationship succeed?
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Publisher's Summary

This is a book about men. Not all men, just emotionally unhealthy men. The ones who make you ask, "Is it him or is it me? Am I making too big a deal out of this? I try to tell him how I feel, but he says I'm overreacting or needy or it's all my fault". Relationships are hard work, but how hard should they be? When do you know you are struggling too hard to make a relationship succeed?

Deal Breakers is about getting out of this "relationship purgatory": where the present is unfulfilling and the future is the only thing you can hope for. But there is no magic future. If he won't work on problems today, it's unlikely they'll ever be resolved. And passively hoping for change will only cost you years of depression or expensive therapy.

Dr. Bethany Marshall is here to remind women that relationships, like business relationships, are deals. In the business world, a deal breaker is the one non-negotiable term that, if not agreed to, means the deal is off. But in the world of relationships, identifying your deal breaker can be much more promising, as it holds out the possibility of helping you to understand where the relationship has gone wrong, what needs to be done in order to make it better, and when to walk away because you're doing more work than him to fix it.

©2007 Dr. Bethany Marshall; (P)2007 Tantor Media Inc.

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    Sarah Alice Springs, Australia 04-10-12
    Sarah Alice Springs, Australia 04-10-12
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    "What an amazing book!!!"
    Would you recommend this audiobook to a friend? If so, why?

    This book has been amazing and would recommend to people who are in a relationship or for those looking to get into one.


    What was one of the most memorable moments of Deal Breakers?

    The most memorable moment of this book was working out what type of person I am with. It was like a light bulb moment for me. I now have the information and the tools to better understand my partner and why we act and re-act the way we do but most importantly I know now how I can help myself.


    What about Renée Raudman’s performance did you like?

    I very much enjoyed the readers voice she was clear and did not have a mono tone voice that felt like your teeth were being pulled.


    Any additional comments?

    For those of you who have daughters and are concerned of some of the choices they are making or have made with choosing partners or the relationship is up and down this is the book for you. Great book. Thank you.

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    Gail jackson, NJ, United States 01-09-12
    Gail jackson, NJ, United States 01-09-12 Member Since 2011
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    Would you listen to Deal Breakers again? Why?

    Good content, especially if you're in a situation where you're considering ending or starting a relationship.


    Who was your favorite character and why?

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    Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

    yes


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    Alisha Cincinnati, OH, United States 11-02-11
    Alisha Cincinnati, OH, United States 11-02-11
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    "Great Eye-Opener!"

    I found this book to be very helpful and insightful. It is a must-read for anyone, male or female, straddling the fence trying to decide to whether to stay or leave a relationship. The book is written more for a female audience but if the "he's" are replaced with "she's" the book can work for a male audience as well. I did not find that the book was male bashing at all as some readers have suggested.

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    Kelli Thorpe 08-23-11 Member Since 2008
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    "Clarity can be Yours!!"

    This by far is the Best material I have came across to date to explain why some relationships are so confusing, hurtful and just don't make sense. A must for anyone in a relationship that's got you spinning. Not only does this explain what is really going on, why it is going on but it gives very clear examples of how to deal with it and how to make good healthy choices for yourself. After listening to this the veil of illusion will be lifted so that you can see more clearly what is really going on in your relationship. Bravo - no need to read between the lines with this one.

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    Lana Zagreb, Croatia 07-04-11
    Lana Zagreb, Croatia 07-04-11
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    "What every woman should know!"

    This helped me understand what was bothering me in my previous relationship and I feel that it will help me make better choices. I would recommend it to all women.

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    Diane Crossroads, TX, United States 01-06-11
    Diane Crossroads, TX, United States 01-06-11 Member Since 2007
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    "Great For Repeat Listening and a Keeper!"

    I loved this book and will keep it in my Library. I highly recommend it for trying to figure out who that guy is that you love but don't understand. Excellent one to repeat from time to time. Although it is about understanding Five main personality traits of Men, it can also include women in the categories. The Author offers insight into that personality and helps you understand when it's worth staying in the relationship and when it's time to end it. I might have ended my relationship sooner if I had read this book earlier.

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    Bogdel Denver, CO United States 05-13-09
    Bogdel Denver, CO United States 05-13-09 Member Since 2013
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    "Very Good!"

    Just make sure that you use is also for self-examination, as each of us may have isues that are addressed in this book.

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    Christy chattanooga, TN, USA 04-16-09
    Christy chattanooga, TN, USA 04-16-09
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    "love it"

    This is a great book! It is so full of helpful information. This is much cheaper than counseling!

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    Kindred44 12-27-08
    Kindred44 12-27-08
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    "A must have"

    I thoroughly enjoyed this book and highly recommend it! And I don't recommend just any book. If you are wondering if the man in your life is someone you can work a deal with or not this book will help. It puts things in perspective and not only points out flaws with certain men it also asks you to look at yourself plus she gives incredible examples!!

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    Kim 08-10-08
    Kim 08-10-08
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    "Good info"

    I bought this for a friend of mine and decided to listen before giving her the book. It is a little confusing listening at first since it is broken into parts of good,bad..... The book makes sense of it. Once I got past the way it was being read, breaking it tnot the parts and understood it, then it was pretty good. I think that the information is really good on a whole but all relationships have a little of everything in them. Although this is a great book to finally get over the user or the relationship that sucks your self out of your life. Some people just can't quit a bad relationship no matter what and this book makes those people give it up. I think it was a help to my friend.

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