Deal Breakers

When to Work on a Relationship and When to Walk Away

By: Dr. Bethany Marshall

Narrated by: Renée Raudman

Length: 5 hrs and 16 mins

Publisher's summary

This is a book about men. Not all men, just emotionally unhealthy men. The ones who make you ask, "Is it him or is it me? Am I making too big a deal out of this? I try to tell him how I feel, but he says I'm overreacting or needy or it's all my fault". Relationships are hard work, but how hard should they be? When do you know you are struggling too hard to make a relationship succeed?

Deal Breakers is about getting out of this "relationship purgatory": where the present is unfulfilling and the future is the only thing you can hope for. But there is no magic future. If he won't work on problems today, it's unlikely they'll ever be resolved. And passively hoping for change will only cost you years of depression or expensive therapy.

Dr. Bethany Marshall is here to remind women that relationships, like business relationships, are deals. In the business world, a deal breaker is the one non-negotiable term that, if not agreed to, means the deal is off. But in the world of relationships, identifying your deal breaker can be much more promising, as it holds out the possibility of helping you to understand where the relationship has gone wrong, what needs to be done in order to make it better, and when to walk away because you're doing more work than him to fix it.

©2007 Dr. Bethany Marshall (P)2007 Tantor Media Inc.

Just what I needed!

After being in an unhealthy and toxic relationship with a non-recovering alcoholic for 15 years THIS book was just what I needed. Real life advice on what is acceptable and what is unacceptable. How to try to fix it or walk away. Things my mom and step mom could not provide for me along with journey because they chose “the boy pretending to be a man” so how could they help me with mine?! I suggest this book for any woman wondering if the relationship they are in is worth the effort they are putting forth. This book offered massive clarity and action steps.

Great for determining what are your deal breakers

Is there anything you would change about this book?

I would also focus on the other side of things, what women do wrong as well. This book comes across as very biased towards women being right and men being wrong. Even myself, as a woman, knows that there are 2 sides.

Would you recommend Deal Breakers to your friends? Why or why not?

I would because it discusses how you know things are deal breakers for you, how to spot them easily and how to be ok with breaking it off with the person who is breaking the deal. It also talks about how to know if it is worth working on.

What three words best describe Renée Raudman’s voice?

Fine, nondescript, nothing stood out good or bad

Do you think Deal Breakers needs a follow-up book? Why or why not?

Yes, from the man's side

Any additional comments?

The author does clarify at the end in an interview that she has met many men who were more the victims in their relationships and the women were the bullies, but that she just wanted to primarily focus on the one side.

love it

This is a great book! It is so full of helpful information. This is much cheaper than counseling!

This book is a book I recommend to literally anyone going through this stuff. Women OR men

This book is absolutely amazing. Qute literally had to sit down at some parts becsuse she took the words out of the exes mouth and I was stunned. Great to work on yourself or just be aware of what not to accept in relationships

EXTRAORDINARILY CLARIFYING

Alternate title suggestion, "Crazy No More" lol.

This books will shine clarity on all the little things you KNOW are just not feeling right but can't quite put your finger on.

Furthermore, it does so in a compassionate, nonjudgemental, empowering approach as it offers concrete solutions.

Well Done!

Would you listen to Deal Breakers again? Why?

Good content, especially if you're in a situation where you're considering ending or starting a relationship.

Who was your favorite character and why?

none

Was this a book you wanted to listen to all in one sitting?

yes

Helpful

I downloaded this while ending a relationship with an alcoholic and I found it very helpful and validating

Amazing. So insanely helpful and realistic.

I can't really explain how helpful this book was.
I've been grappling with some serious issues with my husband of 12 years and this book really put so much into perspective.
Thank you so very much.

Very interesting

Enjoyed and learned quite a bit.
Many insightful points of view.
I would recommend to others.

Light Weight, Superficial, Waste of Time and Money

What disappointed you about Deal Breakers?

No substance. It was as though a high school teenie bopper wrote this. Boring, uninsightful, based on nothing more than light weight observations.

Has Deal Breakers turned you off from other books in this genre?

No, there are some really good books, but don't waste time on phony, money making junk like this.