In her 20 years of clinical experience, Perel has treated hundreds of couples whose home lives are empty of passion. They describe relationships that are open and loving, yet sexually dull. What is going on?
In this explosively original book, Perel explains that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor is antithetical to erotic desire for both men and women. Sexual excitement doesn't always play by the rules of good citizenship. It is politically incorrect. It thrives on power plays, unfair advantages, and the space between self and other. More exciting, playful, even poetic sex is possible, but first we must kick egalitarian ideals and emotional housekeeping out of our bedrooms.
While Mating in Captivity shows why the domestic realm can feel like a cage, Perel's take on bedroom dynamics promises to liberate, enchant, and provoke. Flinging the doors open on erotic life and domesticity, she invites us to put the "X" back in sex.
©2006 Esther Perel; (P)2006 HarperCollins Publishers
"As revelatory as it is straightforward....Perel sanctions fantasy and play and offers the estranged modern couple a unique richness of experience." (Publishers Weekly)
I haven't finished it yet, and it's been several months since I've had it. The books I'm into get completed in less than 2 weeks.
Love Sci Fi and Fantasy books since I was 8, starting reading A Princess of Mars series in Junior High School thanks to my Uncle Lester.
I found it really difficult to understand her and to listen to the author read this book. This is one of the few books I have never finished.
Just don't even bother unless you like long winded professional gossip. I suppose the biggest drawback with me is that Ms. Perel narrated this as well. She doesn't leave you with anything more than a clinican's view of her client's problems who seem to have bigger problems than their sexual disfunctions.
I gave this four and one half hours. I won't do it again.
loved this book. I've listened to many of her Ted talks and that's why I got this book.
it's great advice for all couples and single people who want to be in a long healthy sexual relationship with their partner.
Straight to the point!
The book is very well read! It feels like your are listen to a novel rather than a thesis.
none. It is a thesis
You will live a happier life if you know about all this!
I just can't get into this book. Dr. Jamie Turndorf has a podcast with better, more positive and proactive advice. This book makes me feel trapped and depressed and I don't like it! I'm too happy for this, just looking for some fun tips and info, not some dragging rambling, not even sure what this author is talking about.
I love learning thru books, about life, people and ways to be better. My best listen so far? The Power of Now, have a good listen!
Its a different sort of book, probably because it is not american. It does not give you a step by step approach to solving your problems, or the how to relationship manual. It engages you in a open ended discussion about couples, fidelity and how we view sex and attraction inside couples.
I love that the author has opened up this discussion, something that I believe we need to talk about and think more. This is the second book of its kind I read, and plan to read more, as it is such an important and interesting subject.
The only fault I find in this book are the French words. It is meant to make it cooler and sexy, but really, the book is in english! I knew some of the words as I do have some basic french, but each time I heard one I though to myself "not cool!" as on an audiobook, you don't even get the spelling to be able to go and look for it!
The narration was good for a author narration, but of course a professional narration is always better.
All and all, a great and fun read!
I simply loved this book. I purchase the audiobook and then kindle book. I enjoyed every chapter, and I plan on reading and listening to it for a second time.
Ester did a wonderful job writing and narrating this book. I highly recommend it!
I've listened through this book at least twice. The guidance and the illustrative stories make this an easy read.
I found that there is actually quite a bit of concordance with Kosher Lust by Rabbi Boteach... they both have similar advice, but come at from two different perspectives... One is the academic therapist, the other a popular religious author and counselor. When I hear two different perspectives bring the same message, I'm thinking that there is likely some basic truth involved. Two of the similar conclusions that come to mind, from both books, is the value of separation (with then coming together), as well as maintaining some mystery and awe of your partner.
I had first heard Esther Perel's TED talk on a related topic, and I was impressed with her perspective, which is why I purchased this book.
Her accent is easy to listen to...
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