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Mating in Captivity Audiobook

Mating in Captivity

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Publisher's Summary

Esther Perel takes on tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

In her 20 years of clinical experience, Perel has treated hundreds of couples whose home lives are empty of passion. They describe relationships that are open and loving, yet sexually dull. What is going on?

In this explosively original book, Perel explains that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor is antithetical to erotic desire for both men and women. Sexual excitement doesn't always play by the rules of good citizenship. It is politically incorrect. It thrives on power plays, unfair advantages, and the space between self and other. More exciting, playful, even poetic sex is possible, but first we must kick egalitarian ideals and emotional housekeeping out of our bedrooms.

While Mating in Captivity shows why the domestic realm can feel like a cage, Perel's take on bedroom dynamics promises to liberate, enchant, and provoke. Flinging the doors open on erotic life and domesticity, she invites us to put the "X" back in sex.

©2006 Esther Perel; (P)2006 HarperCollins Publishers

What the Critics Say

"As revelatory as it is straightforward....Perel sanctions fantasy and play and offers the estranged modern couple a unique richness of experience." (Publishers Weekly)

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    Marie Kerby 10-02-10
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    "Nice title and bio, but not as fun to listen to"

    I haven't finished it yet, and it's been several months since I've had it. The books I'm into get completed in less than 2 weeks.

    5 of 8 people found this review helpful
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    Beth Salem, OR, United States 01-01-12
    Beth Salem, OR, United States 01-01-12 Member Since 2010

    Love Sci Fi and Fantasy books since I was 8, starting reading A Princess of Mars series in Junior High School thanks to my Uncle Lester.

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    "Hard to listen to her"

    I found it really difficult to understand her and to listen to the author read this book. This is one of the few books I have never finished.

    4 of 7 people found this review helpful
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    05-16-09
    05-16-09 Listener Since 2002
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    "Professional gossip"

    Just don't even bother unless you like long winded professional gossip. I suppose the biggest drawback with me is that Ms. Perel narrated this as well. She doesn't leave you with anything more than a clinican's view of her client's problems who seem to have bigger problems than their sexual disfunctions.

    I gave this four and one half hours. I won't do it again.

    11 of 21 people found this review helpful
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    Fritzie Thompson 08-11-16
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    "great advice for all "

    loved this book. I've listened to many of her Ted talks and that's why I got this book.
    it's great advice for all couples and single people who want to be in a long healthy sexual relationship with their partner.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    Thais Calgary 08-10-16
    Thais Calgary 08-10-16 Member Since 2016
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    "AMAZING!"
    If you could sum up Mating in Captivity in three words, what would they be?

    Straight to the point!


    What was one of the most memorable moments of Mating in Captivity?

    The book is very well read! It feels like your are listen to a novel rather than a thesis.


    Which scene was your favorite?

    none. It is a thesis


    If you were to make a film of this book, what would the tag line be?

    You will live a happier life if you know about all this!


    Any additional comments?

    no

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    Monica Olszewski 08-02-16 Member Since 2013
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    "Boring"

    I just can't get into this book. Dr. Jamie Turndorf has a podcast with better, more positive and proactive advice. This book makes me feel trapped and depressed and I don't like it! I'm too happy for this, just looking for some fun tips and info, not some dragging rambling, not even sure what this author is talking about.

    0 of 0 people found this review helpful
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    Matteo Barcelona, Spain 06-24-16
    Matteo Barcelona, Spain 06-24-16 Member Since 2013

    I love learning thru books, about life, people and ways to be better. My best listen so far? The Power of Now, have a good listen!

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    "Great book, great insights"

    Its a different sort of book, probably because it is not american. It does not give you a step by step approach to solving your problems, or the how to relationship manual. It engages you in a open ended discussion about couples, fidelity and how we view sex and attraction inside couples.

    I love that the author has opened up this discussion, something that I believe we need to talk about and think more. This is the second book of its kind I read, and plan to read more, as it is such an important and interesting subject.

    The only fault I find in this book are the French words. It is meant to make it cooler and sexy, but really, the book is in english! I knew some of the words as I do have some basic french, but each time I heard one I though to myself "not cool!" as on an audiobook, you don't even get the spelling to be able to go and look for it!

    The narration was good for a author narration, but of course a professional narration is always better.

    All and all, a great and fun read!

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    Bell G. 06-11-16
    Bell G. 06-11-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Great for all couples ...."

    Loved her since I saw her talks on TED TALKS. RECOMMEND to everyone you won't regret it.

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    Amazon Customer 06-06-16 Member Since 2016
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    "Must Read/Listen!"

    I simply loved this book. I purchase the audiobook and then kindle book. I enjoyed every chapter, and I plan on reading and listening to it for a second time.

    Ester did a wonderful job writing and narrating this book. I highly recommend it!

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    Race Easy 06-01-16
    Race Easy 06-01-16 Member Since 2016

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    "A good listen..."
    Would you listen to Mating in Captivity again? Why?

    I've listened through this book at least twice. The guidance and the illustrative stories make this an easy read.

    I found that there is actually quite a bit of concordance with Kosher Lust by Rabbi Boteach... they both have similar advice, but come at from two different perspectives... One is the academic therapist, the other a popular religious author and counselor. When I hear two different perspectives bring the same message, I'm thinking that there is likely some basic truth involved. Two of the similar conclusions that come to mind, from both books, is the value of separation (with then coming together), as well as maintaining some mystery and awe of your partner.

    I had first heard Esther Perel's TED talk on a related topic, and I was impressed with her perspective, which is why I purchased this book.


    What about Esther Perel’s performance did you like?

    Her accent is easy to listen to...


    0 of 0 people found this review helpful

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