In her 20 years of clinical experience, Perel has treated hundreds of couples whose home lives are empty of passion. They describe relationships that are open and loving, yet sexually dull. What is going on?
In this explosively original book, Perel explains that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor is antithetical to erotic desire for both men and women. Sexual excitement doesn't always play by the rules of good citizenship. It is politically incorrect. It thrives on power plays, unfair advantages, and the space between self and other. More exciting, playful, even poetic sex is possible, but first we must kick egalitarian ideals and emotional housekeeping out of our bedrooms.
While Mating in Captivity shows why the domestic realm can feel like a cage, Perel's take on bedroom dynamics promises to liberate, enchant, and provoke. Flinging the doors open on erotic life and domesticity, she invites us to put the "X" back in sex.
©2006 Esther Perel; (P)2006 HarperCollins Publishers
"As revelatory as it is straightforward....Perel sanctions fantasy and play and offers the estranged modern couple a unique richness of experience." (Publishers Weekly)
"Familiarity breeds contempt" as in marriage, so with this audiobook.
I am so disappointed. I am halfway through this audiobook and I have yet to see any actionable steps. I fell asleep between hours 4-5, and I doubt I will go back and listen to the material I missed unless I have nothing else on my virtual book shelf to occupy my attention.
The book is a painful recount of the stories of the psychologist's patients, and nearly every problem that could exist in the bedroom. The only thing it did do well was to give me the impression that I was certainly not alone in my boredom and dissatisfaction. I already knew that. I wanted to know what to do about it! That's why I bought the book.
I kept thinking it would get better if I kept going, but not yet, and not likely from what I can tell.
If you want to know how to make your marriage better and the sex more interesting, buy a different book, like a technique manual, or use the gentler steps in the Art of Seduction. Better yet try for French Women Don't Sleep Alone. Same content, but more entertaining, and better suggestions on how to fix the problem. Definitely don't waste your time or money on this one.
I haven't finished it yet, and it's been several months since I've had it. The books I'm into get completed in less than 2 weeks.
Love Sci Fi and Fantasy books since I was 8, starting reading A Princess of Mars series in Junior High School thanks to my Uncle Lester.
I found it really difficult to understand her and to listen to the author read this book. This is one of the few books I have never finished.
Great insight and lots of different scenarios to ponder. Voice was attractive but use of French phrases made it a little difficult to understand. Very inclusive of different types of relationships
"nothing is fool proof to a talented fool"
I was hesitant to get the book because of her accent, but reading some other reviews convinced me to try, and boy am I glad. The content of the book is pure gold, the repetition is at a minimum and the lessons are as deep as they are practical. Her accent became enjoyable and re-enactments immersing. All in all this is one of the best books on the topic and her eloquence of expression puts a cherry on top.
Ps I'm pretty sure I've learned a word or two in the process ;)
This amazing treaties on human relationships, sex and sexuality explores often contemplated concepts that are difficult to reconcile. The book helped me acknowledge and better understand my own sexuality and wants. Esther Perel adds her wonderful voice to the subject which imparts a multicultural dimension. Listened twice!
This book could change the landscape of long term committed love, and ultimately effect the fabric of society. If lovers would experience the type of paradigm outlined in Perel's writings, it would make for far better happiness overall in homes, leading to more fulfilled individuals in society as a whole.
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