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Mating in Captivity Audiobook

Mating in Captivity

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Publisher's Summary

Esther Perel takes on tough questions, grappling with the obstacles and anxieties that arise when our quest for secure love conflicts with our pursuit of passion. She invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

In her 20 years of clinical experience, Perel has treated hundreds of couples whose home lives are empty of passion. They describe relationships that are open and loving, yet sexually dull. What is going on?

In this explosively original book, Perel explains that our cultural penchant for equality, togetherness, and absolute candor is antithetical to erotic desire for both men and women. Sexual excitement doesn't always play by the rules of good citizenship. It is politically incorrect. It thrives on power plays, unfair advantages, and the space between self and other. More exciting, playful, even poetic sex is possible, but first we must kick egalitarian ideals and emotional housekeeping out of our bedrooms.

While Mating in Captivity shows why the domestic realm can feel like a cage, Perel's take on bedroom dynamics promises to liberate, enchant, and provoke. Flinging the doors open on erotic life and domesticity, she invites us to put the "X" back in sex.

©2006 Esther Perel; (P)2006 HarperCollins Publishers

What the Critics Say

"As revelatory as it is straightforward....Perel sanctions fantasy and play and offers the estranged modern couple a unique richness of experience." (Publishers Weekly)

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    Kimmi 02-01-12
    Kimmi 02-01-12

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    "Save your money."

    "Familiarity breeds contempt" as in marriage, so with this audiobook.

    I am so disappointed. I am halfway through this audiobook and I have yet to see any actionable steps. I fell asleep between hours 4-5, and I doubt I will go back and listen to the material I missed unless I have nothing else on my virtual book shelf to occupy my attention.

    The book is a painful recount of the stories of the psychologist's patients, and nearly every problem that could exist in the bedroom. The only thing it did do well was to give me the impression that I was certainly not alone in my boredom and dissatisfaction. I already knew that. I wanted to know what to do about it! That's why I bought the book.

    I kept thinking it would get better if I kept going, but not yet, and not likely from what I can tell.

    If you want to know how to make your marriage better and the sex more interesting, buy a different book, like a technique manual, or use the gentler steps in the Art of Seduction. Better yet try for French Women Don't Sleep Alone. Same content, but more entertaining, and better suggestions on how to fix the problem. Definitely don't waste your time or money on this one.

    10 of 15 people found this review helpful
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    Marie Kerby 10-02-10
    Marie Kerby 10-02-10 Member Since 2016
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    "Nice title and bio, but not as fun to listen to"

    I haven't finished it yet, and it's been several months since I've had it. The books I'm into get completed in less than 2 weeks.

    5 of 8 people found this review helpful
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    Beth Salem, OR, United States 01-01-12
    Beth Salem, OR, United States 01-01-12 Member Since 2010

    Love Sci Fi and Fantasy books since I was 8, starting reading A Princess of Mars series in Junior High School thanks to my Uncle Lester.

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    "Hard to listen to her"

    I found it really difficult to understand her and to listen to the author read this book. This is one of the few books I have never finished.

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    Curtis & Becky 02-24-17
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    "Amazing!"

    Opened my eyes to so many aspects of myself and my husband.. Everyone one needs to read this book.

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    Belinda A. Kaufman 02-22-17
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    "Great insight"

    Great insight and lots of different scenarios to ponder. Voice was attractive but use of French phrases made it a little difficult to understand. Very inclusive of different types of relationships

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    Igor Dashkevych NC USA 02-14-17
    Igor Dashkevych NC USA 02-14-17 Member Since 2016

    "nothing is fool proof to a talented fool"

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    "Wow"

    I was hesitant to get the book because of her accent, but reading some other reviews convinced me to try, and boy am I glad. The content of the book is pure gold, the repetition is at a minimum and the lessons are as deep as they are practical. Her accent became enjoyable and re-enactments immersing. All in all this is one of the best books on the topic and her eloquence of expression puts a cherry on top.

    Ps I'm pretty sure I've learned a word or two in the process ;)

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    Rodney 02-14-17
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    "Could not stop listening. Excellent!"

    This amazing treaties on human relationships, sex and sexuality explores often contemplated concepts that are difficult to reconcile. The book helped me acknowledge and better understand my own sexuality and wants. Esther Perel adds her wonderful voice to the subject which imparts a multicultural dimension. Listened twice!

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    Timothy Lewis 02-13-17 Member Since 2014

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    "Great audio book. Full of wonderful anecdotes."

    The author's accent was charming and gave a real depth to the stories and explanations.

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    Lauren Petty INDIANAPOLIS, IN, US 02-04-17
    Lauren Petty INDIANAPOLIS, IN, US 02-04-17
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    "Superb in-depth look."

    This book could change the landscape of long term committed love, and ultimately effect the fabric of society. If lovers would experience the type of paradigm outlined in Perel's writings, it would make for far better happiness overall in homes, leading to more fulfilled individuals in society as a whole.

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    Shauna 02-01-17
    Shauna 02-01-17 Member Since 2016
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    Full of useful insights for monogamous and non monogamous couples. loved this book, I will definitely listen to it again.

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