Copyright © and (P)1995 by Dove Audio, Inc.
I have the paper based version of this book, so I was naturally thrilled to see it on Audible. Yet I was disappointed in the sample and then to read it is available in Format 1 quality only. Dr. Elgin wrote an excellent book that I have found extremely useful in dealing with people.
Another reviewer said SEEING what was said was not effective--he missed the point. You have to match the perspective of the person you're talking to in order to help them understand you. Moreover, that is only the basics of the book, which then goes into how to parse (or dissect) the statements people make and then use specific techniques to prevent yourself from taking the bait and falling victim to verbal abuse. One favorite of mine is when someone baits you into an argument and you can ask them a simple question that not only ignores the bait, but places them and everyone around you on notice that you will not be abused in such a way. And a welcome side-effect is to take the agressive assertions they make away from them while //placing them on the defensive.//
This book is well worth your time, but I am disappointed that the audio quality is so low. My recommendation is to buy it in the bookstore or check it out at the library if you can find it (it's been out of print for several years now.) Otherwise, this might be the only place you can get it. Either way, it is a very worthwhile read.
This book has very valuable information about dealing with people--especially those that are attacking you. Sound quality isn't that great, but it's a lot better than a poor book with great sound quality.
First impression- audio quality is terrible, simply unacceptable. Others have mentioned this before, I didn't care so much but it is so bad sometimes I have to rewind just to acoustically understand what the author is saying. Imagine an old audio cassette on the dashboard of your car for a summer, then sticking it into an 80's low-cost cassette player that has never been cleaned.. you get the idea.
Contents wise- very interesting, inspiring. The author establishes a very logical system of linguistics that aims to help in everyday communications, especially in situations when you have to deal with 'difficult' people. I have yet to try the techniques, but the mere awareness of the principles established in this book makes me more aware of communications and language. Recommended, but perhaps I would go for paper version due to extremely poor, insulting audio quality.
The copyright says 1995, but the audio quality made me feel like I was in 1982. While this book had some good points, it really wasn't what I expected and I don't feel overly prepared to defend myself verbally. Also, I felt the examples stopped short. I wanted to hear the next step in the example conversations, not just the attack and initial defense. Overall, I hoped for more.
Nothing! Its a fantastic book, but the audio is terrible. Sounds like it was recorded in an empty room with a cheap mike on a tape deck. Really prehistoric audio quality and sound level. BUT THE BOOK. Great book.
every one who seeks to live peacefully in our crazy world !
just the subject
YES, GET A PROFESSIONAL NARRATOR !
The audio quality was horrible and the tone of reading does nothing to help it.
Not recommended and I wish I didn't waste a credit on this.
I enjoyed hearing the author on her own work, speech examples, and orderliness of presentation. The author talks about speech styles, matching messages to minimize cognitive dissonance, and Satir modes (blamer, computer, distorter(?), and leveler. (This could be improved upon by adding an insidious category -but it's a relatively short work.) It may be a little useful in confrontational situations with people of average intelligence or slightly higher but I doubt it would help much with the really intelligent and the genius. Still, there is much to redeem this work from it's tape deck origins and I doubt a close apprehension of this material couldn't improve upon most people's competence communicating in general, everyday situations.
I was incredibally disappointed with this book. It sounded like a whole bunch of made up, let's all hug, match my feelings to your feelings, kind of retorts. I'm sorry, but when I ask if you 'SEE' my point, I'm not talking about viusualization. This book tells you to answer back with the same sense as originally queried, but they lost the point that this is a conversation and you aren't actually seeing and touching these words.
Save your money! Avoid this book.
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