College English professor who loves classic literature, psychology, neurology and hates pop trash like Twilight and Fifty Shades of Grey.
was one of the first voices (appropriately, that of a woman) to speak up against the feminist insisience that there are no innate differences between men and women. (Neuroscience has since proven Tannen and the early van guard correct in their assessment, as men's and women's brain themselves are, indeed, different.) Tannen is a linguist and has accented on how men and women communicate, and I have taught her for nearly two decades in my English classes. It is important to note that, though there clearly are differences in how men and women think, emote, and talk, there is much overlap, some exceptions to the rule (I always say I am a heterosexual man who thinks like a woman), and that seeing the reality of difference in no way implies a surperiority or "better way" on either side. I read this on the heels of Gurian's Boys and Girls Learn Differently, which I also highly recommend.
Very basic book on the subject, but it does have useful information. More of a self-help book than science. It even has chapter summaries like an eighth grade text. But it is a good book for what it is. She does push the "Wizard Of Oz" metaphor--which doesn't work completely, as Dorothy never really comes to any deep realization, other than that she likes being home. (She doesn't learn how to deal with narcissists like the Wizard.) At any rate, it's a pretty good book if you don't expect anything too in depth. Read some Robert Hare if you want something a bit better.
If you are a man tired of the feminizing demands put on you and wonder why men abused and humilated by their wives on TV shows and commercials is funny rather than being considered what it is--spousal abuse--or if you are a woman, puzzled by the fact that your relationships never seem to work out because you have been programmed to say you want one thing from a man but actually, instinctually, want something else--or if you are just plain finished with the radical feminists who continue to claim victimization in every realm (they are actually ahead in most realms, like control of resources and preference in job acquisition) in order to gain ever more political power--than this is the book for you. The truth--hard and unvarnished...not PC, but the truth nonetheless.