This book has had a more profound and positive impact on my life than anything else I’ve ever read or listened to. Period. I wish I could give it ten stars out of five. If you even suspect you might have an anger management problem, you owe it to yourself to take a listen and at least evaluate your situation.
The first part of this book describes what an anger management problem looks like and how it manifests itself in a person’s life. I always knew I had a bit of a temper. Pretty much everyone in my family did. But when I listened to the first part of this book and realised how closely the author’s descriptions matched my life, I simply felt sick.
I realised I had been ignorant of or effectively downplayed my anger problem all my life. But that’s not surprising. After all, all our boyhood heroes (not to mention family members) all acted that way, so how bad could it be? I also realised that the majority of the dysfunction in my personal and work life appeared to be traceable back to my anger issues.
Fortunately, the next part of the book goes into how to begin to deal with the problem. This involves understanding where the anger comes from. In a nutshell it’s often learned from our families and it’s all based on what amounts to distorted thinking. To get a handle on the problem, one has to begin to see how their thinking is distorted. That’s not as hard as it sounds, but of course it takes real effort to begin to and keep on changing the habits of a lifetime.
The third part of the book deal with specific issues (violence, etc.) that may or may not have relevance to a given reader. The fourth deals with families.
I see now uncontrolled anger is an awful cross to bear. It’s terribly damaging to the angry person, whether they know it or not. As the saying goes, “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” And, the fact is, it’s also very, very damaging to the angry person’s family. Bad stuff.
Again, if you even suspect you may have a problem with anger buying this audio book may be the best investment of your life.
I found the information in this book very interesting and helpful. It gave me insights into the behaviour of a number of my co-workers and, at times, even myself. That's what I was after.
My only reservation was that the writing was too academic and stilted. Had this been a textbook, I'd have expected that. The writing made it, at times, hard to stick with the author and get the information. So 3 stars instead of 5 for "story".
I like the title and cover art, btw.