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Life Check Yourself

Life Check Yourself

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Each week on the podcast, hear Marni Battista, Founder and CEO of The Institute For Living Courageously, interview the world's top experts in how to help people live more meaningful and impactful lives. Ciencias Sociales Relaciones
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  • Turning Pain Into Wisdom, Beauty and Power

    Turning Pain Into Wisdom, Beauty and Power
    Dec 2 2025
    In this episode of Life Check Yourself, I sit down with writer and self-healing advocate Alexis Leigh, author of Pain Is a Portal to Beauty: Stunning Discoveries After Loss, Psychedelics and Feeling It All. With roots in Wharton, law school and the corporate world, she shares how a single moment in the woods cracked open a life that looked "perfect" on paper but felt empty inside, and how following that inner voice led through divorce, deep emotional work and psychedelic journeys into a life of authenticity, love and radical self-trust. About The Guest Alexis Leigh is a writer and advocate for self-healing through unconventional methods, including psychedelics and deep inner work. She left a successful career in finance and consulting, holds a BS in Economics from Wharton and a JD from Lewis and Clark Law School, and now lives between Oregon and Maui with her partner and three boys. Her memoir, Pain Is a Portal to Beauty, explores how feeling deeply, rather than numbing out, can turn grief and loss into clarity, meaning and beauty. 3 Main Takeaways Answer the inner wake-up call instead of settling for a "good enough" life (01:52) Use everyday emotions as portals instead of numbing them away (17:11) Trust body wisdom and courageous tools to turn pain into power and self-leadership (24:26) Main Topics, Timestamps, Explanations & Notable Quotes • Topic 1: When Your Life Looks "Fine" But Feels Like A Tragedy Timestamp: 01:52 – 11:13 What this unlocks: Hearing an inner voice that says, "If you die today, your life will have been a tragedy," forces radical honesty. It challenges the belief that gratitude means tolerating loneliness or emptiness. Letting that truth land can be the moment a person finally gives themselves permission to want more love, more meaning and a different life, even when everything looks "fine" from the outside. From there, every pattern, relationship and identity becomes open to being questioned and redesigned. Notable quotes: "I was walking in the woods in the summer of 2020 and I heard a voice that said, 'If you die today, your life will have been a tragedy.'" "I had all of the categories, but I did want more love and more meaning. I just kind of thought you should not want that." "To hear that your life is a tragedy, it is like everything is not working. That is not like your life needs a little tweaking. That is like throw it in the trash." How this affects someone listening: Letting in the possibility that a "have it all" life can still be tragic breaks the spell of settling. It shows that longing for more is not selfish, it is truthful. Once that truth is acknowledged, a person can stop negotiating with their own sadness and start redesigning their foundation instead of endlessly rearranging the furniture on top of it. • Topic 2: Feeling Feelings Instead Of Numbing – Turning Tiny Triggers Into Portals Timestamp: 17:11 – 23:32 What this unlocks: Painful emotions often get buried under food, wine, screens or busyness. Removing those coping habits, even briefly, can stir up anger, panic or irritation. Those first reactions are not proof that something is wrong; they are the doorway. Meeting them with curiosity instead of judgment turns daily annoyances and "overreactions" into chances to release old grief, anger and fear. Over time, this builds emotional muscle and makes it easier to stay present instead of collapsing into victimhood or self-criticism. Notable quotes: "Our bodies protect us from these feelings when we are not ready to look at them… my body dissociated from feeling, numbed me completely when my mom went away when I was young." "It is not about how can I go from not feeling anything to feeling everything. It is about how can I go from not feeling anything to even recognizing what is a feeling." "As soon as you notice that you are feeling victim, then you can be sweet to the part that is feeling victim… none of it has to ultimately land in judgment." How this affects someone listening: Seeing emotions as parts that need care, rather than flaws that need fixing, rewires the entire healing journey. Small triggers stop being proof that progress is failing and become guidance toward what still needs love. This softens inner criticism, reduces shame and makes deep emotional work sustainable instead of exhausting. • Topic 3: Psychedelics, Body Wisdom and Becoming Bigger Than Outcome Timestamp: 14:59 – 27:10 & 34:32 – 35:37 What this unlocks: When the thinking mind is in charge, decisions get stuck in fear, logic loops and "what ifs." Dropping into body wisdom and, for some, working with medicines like MDMA, psilocybin or ayahuasca can help unpack stored pain that blocks intuition. As layers of grief clear, self-trust grows. Life's events still hurt, but they no longer define identity. A person begins to feel bigger than any outcome and capable of leading themselves, instead of endlessly searching for ...
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  • How To Set A Living Boundary without Starting a Fight

    How To Set A Living Boundary without Starting a Fight
    Nov 14 2025

    Today's conversation features Lionel Moses—family man, veteran of Desert Storm, coach, and author of The Marriage Seed. We dig into relationship mastery across home and work: self-awareness over blame, trust over suspicion, and communication that lands (not just "gets said").

    3 Main Takeaways

    1. Start with self. Lasting change begins by checking beliefs, tone, and patterns before judging a partner.

    2. Choose trust over suspicion. Misunderstandings shrink when curiosity and clarity lead the interaction.

    3. Weed the garden, consistently. Relationships thrive when small problems are pulled early—over and over.

    Three Core Topics (with timestamps, explanations, and quotes)

    • Self-Responsibility > Perfection Hunting (05:52–06:39; 11:11–12:14)
      Timestamp: 05:52 — 06:39
      Why it matters: Recognizing that minds change proves self-knowledge evolves. Extending the same grace to a partner transforms conflict from judgment to teamwork. Perfection tests (ROCD, nitpicking) block real connection; openness creates possibility.
      Notable quote: "If you change your mind, that proves you disagree with your old self… give grace for your partner." (05:52–06:39)

    • Trust Over Suspicion (14:37–15:16; 15:38–16:25)
      Timestamp: 14:37 — 15:16
      Why it matters: Many "communication problems" are interpretation gaps. Filling those gaps with trust, not suspicion, stabilizes connection and keeps dialogue constructive—even after past hurt. Flexing rigid checklists into "openness to possibilities" prevents discarding viable partners for trivial reasons.
      Notable quote: "When you're trying to establish a relationship, you have to really know how to fill in those gaps of misunderstanding with trust versus suspicion." (14:37–15:16)

    • Tone, Pauses, and the Garden Rule (18:45–20:10; 08:06–08:48; 31:00–31:38; 32:34–32:53)
      Timestamp: 18:45 — 20:10
      Why it matters: Tone is a reflex—and often invisible until heard back. Recording and replaying increases awareness, making it easier to shift delivery. Pair this with the "dung grows things" and "measure twice, cut once" mindset: expect mess, pause before reacting, and remove small weeds quickly to protect what's growing.
      Notable quotes:
      • "Most people… don't like their own tone. When they hear it, it annoys them enough to make the change." (19:24–20:08)
      • "One of the best fertilizers you can have is dung." (08:06–08:48)
      • "Measure twice, cut once." (31:00–31:38) + "That's a learned behavior." (32:34–32:53)

    Extra Gems (fast timestamps)

    • Boundary + buy-in at work: Relationship habits bleed into teams; clarity and care increase performance. (27:09–29:44)

    • Weed therapy: Pull issues up by the roots, repeatedly. (25:52–26:06)

    • Win-win-win frame: Healthy partnerships benefit the two people and the world around them. (39:17–39:51)

    Connections:

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    Lionel's Book - The Marriage Seed, Life coaching ot help get out of our own way

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  • How to stop a checklist love and start a real connection

    How to stop a checklist love and start a real connection
    Nov 6 2025

    Today I'm joined by April Davis, founder of LUMA Luxury Matchmaking—and yes, she's married to a divorce attorney, which gives her a razor-sharp lens on what actually lasts. We dig into modern dating beyond the apps: values vs. chemistry, paradox of choice, readiness, standards, gender roles, and commitment—so real love stops feeling impossible and starts feeling inevitable.

    3 Main Takeaways

    1. Values beat vibes. Chemistry fades; aligned values keep relationships stable long-term.

    2. Choice overload kills connection. The app era fuels paradox of choice and "dating for dismissal." Narrow on what actually matters.

    3. Readiness > checklist. Openness, fair conflict, and commitment predict lasting love more than "perfect" specs.

    Deep Dive — 3 Core Topics 1) Values Over Chemistry (02:24–03:31)

    • Timestamp: 02:24

    • What it means: Prioritizing values (character, life goals, family, faith, kids) prevents future mismatch that chemistry can hide. This shifts selection from short-term spark to long-term fit—dramatically reducing avoidable breakups.

    • Notable quote (02:24): "Values are something that is core to who you are… you can't see red flags with rose-colored goggles."

    • Why it matters: When values align, everyday decisions, conflict resolution, money, and parenting stay coherent—creating durability instead of turbulence.

    2) Apps, Standards & the Paradox of Choice (11:27–12:20; 04:20–05:24)

    • Timestamp: 11:27

    • What it means: Infinite swiping feeds a paradox of choice and "dating for dismissal," where attention moves to filtering out instead of letting something good unfold. Over-filtering (height, income, micro-preferences) trades possibility for illusion.

    • Notable quotes:

      • (11:27) "With apps, you have this paradox of choice… 50 shades of gray… dating for dismissal."

      • (04:20–05:24) "Apps are only good for about 10%… someone swiped 2,000 times to get one date."

    • Why it matters: Reducing noise (3–5 non-negotiable values) turns attention from shopping to connecting, improving follow-through, first-date quality, and momentum.

    3) Readiness, Gender Expectations & Real Commitment (17:56–19:56; 29:38–30:34; 15:37–17:34)

    • Timestamp: 17:56

    • What it means: A long checklist often masks fear; readiness looks like an open heart, flexible standards, and willingness to be coached. Add fair fighting and commitment to the relationship "third entity," and longevity rises. Modern gender roles (wanting alpha drive plus deep emotional attunement) can become an impossible ideal—so clarity beats fantasy.

    • Notable quotes:

      • (17:56) "Either they have a loving mindset and an open heart… or they're closed off… and not really ready."

      • (29:38–30:34) "How you argue… fight fair… commitment to the relationship."

      • (15:37–17:34) On shifting gender expectations and the "perfect person" myth.

    Why it matters: Readiness turns dates into data, conflict into collaboration, and differences into design choices—key levers for resilient partnership.

    Connections:

    Visit us: MarniBattista.Com
    Ready To Create Your Corporate Escape Plan? Book A Call With Me
    Take the Quiz: Unlock the shocking truth about how your unique personality type is silently shaping your future
    Buy Your Radical Living Challenge: 7 Questions For Living The Meaningful Life

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