Being human can be quite the challenge. It can feel taxing to take care of our bodies by meeting our needs, especially when we are either unsure of what they are or not willing to fulfill them. It can feel overwhelming with the amount of needs we can have, ranging from basic needs to psychological and interpersonal needs. However, when we start with meeting our basic needs, it can easily become more and more manageable, finding that putting yourself first is critical to mental and emotional health.

In relationships, we have to balance both our own needs and our partners’ needs. It can be difficult when it seems like our partners’ desires or needs feel like the opposite of our own. Expressing your expectations of your partner can be a scary conversation. Society conditions us to feel like our love is earned and that if we have to ask for our needs then something’s wrong with us. Whether it’s doing the laundry or having sex after a date, discussing expectations go farther than what can feel possible.

Abbie and Antonio discuss meeting basic needs, expectations, sex, sex drive, the downfalls of viewing sex as currency, rejection, scarcity mindset, putting pressure on sex, shifting dynamics in a relationship, communication, and attachment.