Have you ever wondered if you’re really attaching to your adopted child or felt unsettled by how difficult parenting feels at times? 💔


When love doesn’t seem to produce the results you expected, it can leave adoptive parents questioning themselves, their decisions, and even their hearts. 💭

Hi Neighbor,

Adoption is beautiful, redemptive, and deeply meaningful but it can also be messy, exhausting, and far more complicated than most people ever talk about. In this heartfelt and honest conversation, clinical psychologist and adoptive father of ten, Dr. Ray Guarendi, pulls back the curtain on the realities adoptive parents often face after the paperwork is signed and the child comes home.

This is Part One of a two-part conversation. In this episode, Dr. Ray shares his family’s adoption story, why he and his wife continued saying yes, and the hard realities that come with parenting children who have experienced trauma, neglect, prenatal exposure, or instability early in life. With humor, candor, and deep compassion, he normalizes the fears many adoptive parents are afraid to voice out loud.

Together, we explore:


🔍 Why adoption can be a “bumpy ride” even in loving, stable homes 
💬 Common fears adoptive parents carry 
🛑 Why safety, emotional, physical, and relational must always come first
 🤍 How challenging behaviors are often rooted in a child’s history, not parenting failure
 🌱 What it means to persevere when love doesn’t lead to quick or predictable results

Throughout the conversation, Dr. Ray reassures adoptive parents that struggling does not mean failing and that feeling frustrated, uncertain, or worn down does not disqualify you from being the parent your child needs.

At the end of the episode, I share a Biblical principle that has guided my own adoption journey: Practicing Steadfast Love.

If you’ve ever felt anxious about your child’s future, questioned your parenting, or needed reassurance that you’re not alone in the hard parts of adoption, this episode will meet you right where you are. 💙

Part Two of this conversation continues with practical guidance on discipline, attachment, and persevering with confidence.

Anchors of Hope and Healing are on the way.

Your Neighbor,
 Tim 💙

P.S. If you’ve ever felt lost trying to connect Scripture with the realities of adoption trauma, I’d love to walk alongside you. Let’s have a one-on-one conversation where we can talk through practical tools and Biblical encouragement for your journey.

👉 Send me an email at tim@anchorsofencouragement.com to grab your spot. I’d be honored to walk with you. 💙

If you haven’t joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you're going through.

Connect with Dr. Ray: Website Facebook Instagram Book – Adoption: Should You, Could You, and Then What?

Have you ever wondered whether the Bible actually models the kind of emotional honesty you’re trying to practice—especially in the middle of adoption trauma, parenting challenges, or the everyday noise that makes it hard to hear God? 💭

For many adoptive parents, seasons of overwhelm show up quietly, and the real question becomes: How do I slow down long enough to hear God’s voice again? ✨

Hi Neighbor,

Today’s episode is a little different. Instead of me interviewing a guest, you’ll hear part two of my conversation with my friend Jenny Fulford, host of the Hearing God Daily podcast. Jenny invited me to share two things woven deeply into my story: how my son processed adoption trauma through journaling and how Scripture itself models emotional expression long before we had a word for it. ✍️

In this deep and practical conversation, we talk about:

🧠 How journaling helped my son work through adoption trauma

📖 Why the Psalms read like David’s raw, honest journal entries

💬 How Scripture models emotional processing—and why that matters for adoptive parents

📝 Simple ways to start journaling when you don’t know what to write

⏳ Why slowing down with God shifts your perspective and softens your heart

One of my favorite moments is when Jenny and I walk through Psalms 3, 25, and 77—seeing the same pattern over and over: honesty → remembrance → peace → praise. It’s a biblical roadmap for emotional processing, and it’s the same pattern that has helped both me and my son navigate some of our hardest seasons. 🌿💡

This conversation reflects the heart of our community: supporting adoptive parents with biblical truth, emotional tools, and real stories of how God meets us in the mess. 💙

Near the end, I share a simple journaling practice anyone can start today—copying Scripture word for word as a way to “write truth on the tablet of your heart” (Proverbs 3). It’s one of the ways I’ve learned to slow down, breathe, and connect with God again.

If you’ve been longing for a deeper connection with God, or wondering how to hear His voice through Scripture and journaling, this episode will bring clarity, encouragement, and hope. 🙏✨

Anchors of Hope and Healing are on the way.

Your Neighbor, Tim

P.S.The first part of this conversation can be heard in Episode 219.

If you’ve ever felt lost trying to connect Scripture with the realities of adoption trauma, I’d love to walk alongside you. Let’s have a one-on-one conversation where we can talk through practical tools and Biblical encouragement for your journey.

👉 Send me an email at tim@anchorsofencouragement.com to grab your spot. I’d be honored to walk with you. 💙

If you haven’t joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you're going through.

Have you ever reached a point in your adoption journey where the weight of fear, uncertainty, or unanswered prayers felt like too much to carry on your own? 💔

For many adoptive parents, those moments show up quietly—and the real question becomes: How do I hear God when everything around me feels loud or overwhelming? 💭

Hi Neighbor,

Today’s episode is a little different. Instead of interviewing a guest, I’m the one being interviewed by my friend Jenny Fulford, host of the Hearing God Daily podcast. Jenny invited me to share two things woven deeply into my story: the struggles I faced as an adoptive parent and how journaling became a lifeline in connecting with God. ✍️

In our conversation, we talk about:

📝 How journaling helped me through the hardest parts of our adoption journey

🔇 Why writing quiets the noise long enough to hear God again

💬 What honesty with God looks like when you’re afraid or overwhelmed

📖 How journaling anchors us in Scripture, truth, and reflection

One of my favorite moments is when Jenny creates her own acrostic from a journaling prompt I gave her—right in the middle of the interview. It’s a beautiful reminder that God often speaks when we slow down enough to listen. 🌿💡

This episode reflects the heart of our community: helping adoptive parents grow spiritually and emotionally while navigating the complexities of adoption. 💙

Near the end, I share a biblical principle that has carried me through many difficult seasons:

📖 Psalm 62:8: “Pour out your hearts before Him; God is a refuge for us.” God doesn’t ask us to hide our fear—He invites us to bring it to Him. 🙏

If you’ve been longing for a deeper connection with God or wondering how to hear His voice in the middle of real-life challenges, this episode will offer encouragement, clarity, and hope. ✨

Anchors of Hope and Healing are on the way.

Your Neighbor, Tim

P.S. If you’ve ever felt lost trying to connect Scripture with the realities of adoption trauma, I’d love to walk alongside you. Let’s have a one-on-one conversation where we can talk through practical tools and Biblical encouragement for your journey.

👉 Send me an email at tim@anchorsofencouragement.com to grab your spot. I’d be honored to walk with you. 💙

If you haven’t joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you're going through.

What if my child reaches out and gets rejected for a second time? 💔

Has your adopted child ever searched for their birth family with hope in their heart, only to face silence, disappointment, or outright rejection? It’s a kind of pain that shakes both the child and the parent who longs to protect them. 💭

Hi Neighbor,

In this episode, I continue my conversation with my friend and trusted adoption professional, Jane Baker, a woman who has spent decades walking with children and families through some of the most complex and emotional adoption stories. 🤝

This is the third installment in our series on helping adopted children understand, navigate, and process the truth of their story.

In earlier episodes:

• Episode 210 focused on adopted children who simply want to know their story and how to answer their questions with honesty, empathy, and clarity. • Episode 212 explored what to say when your child’s story is painful or difficult to tell.

In this conversation, Jane helps us understand what happens when adoptees take the next step, seeking connection with birth parents or siblings and how parents can support them through the fragile hopes and unpredictable outcomes. 🌱

Together, we explore how to:

🔍 Support your child when social media makes birth-family discovery easier but far more complicated. 💬 Help them sort through expectations, fantasies, and the emotional realities of reunion. 🧭 Prepare both yourself and your child emotionally, spiritually, and practically. 🌿 Stay grounded so you can be a steady presence instead of being swept up in the hurt.

Jane also shares some of the most heartbreaking and eye-opening moments she’s witnessed, stories of joyful connection, cautious optimism, and the crushing pain of renewed rejection.

Her wisdom will help you see more clearly what your child might be carrying, even if they don’t have the words to say it. 💡

At the end of this episode, I share a Biblical principle from Psalm 34:18 that has shaped my own adoption journey, a reminder that God draws near to the brokenhearted and invites us to do the same. Some moments are not about fixing but about faithful, grounded presence. ✨

If you’ve ever wondered how to support your child through a reunion that brings more questions than answers, this episode will help you find clarity, courage, and compassion for the road ahead. 💛

Anchors of Hope and Healing are on the way.

Your Neighbor, Tim 💙

P.S. If you’ve ever felt lost trying to connect Scripture with the realities of adoption trauma, I’d love to walk alongside you. Let’s have a one-on-one conversation where we can talk through practical tools and Biblical encouragement for your journey.

👉 Send me an email at tim@anchorsofencouragement.com to grab your spot. I’d be honored to walk with you. 💙

If you haven’t joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you're going through.

Connect with Jane Baker: Phone: 256-353-8528 Email: JBaker@adoption-associates.com Website: https://www.adoption-associates.com/

Listen to Jane’s Episodes:

8 – Adoption Trauma Defined! Part 1: How to Understand Its Causes and Effects with Jane Baker

9 – Adoption Trauma Defined! Part 2: How to Find Help and a Good Therapist with Jane Baker

86 – When Friends Fail You! How Adoptive Parents Can Heal From Betrayal? With Jane Baker

183 – Adoption Struggles: Wisdom I Wish I Had Known with Jane Baker

When the path ahead feels unclear and your heart feels heavy with “what ifs,” it can seem like you’re walking through a fog that just won’t lift.

Hi Neighbor,

In this episode, we talk about what it means to trust God when you can’t see what’s next in your adoption journey. I’ll share 5 anxiety Bible verses—timeless truths from Scripture to help you find peace, courage, and direction when everything around you feels uncertain.

Together, we’ll explore: ✨ How God’s Word becomes your “low beam” light in the fog 💛 Why slowing down often helps you see more clearly 🙏 The peace that comes from trusting God’s vantage point 🌿 How to apply biblical wisdom to your daily adoption struggles

You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just need to know where to anchor your heart.

If anxiety, doubt, or uncertainty have been clouding your parenting journey, this episode will remind you that God already sees what’s ahead and He’s guiding every step. 💙

Anchors of Hope and Healing are on the way.

Your Neighbor, Tim 💙

P.S. If you’ve ever felt lost trying to connect Scripture with the realities of adoption trauma, I’d love to walk alongside you. Book your anxiety management call with me today where we can talk through practical tools and Biblical encouragement for your journey.

👉 Send me an email to tim@anchorsofencouragement.com to grab your spot. I’d be honored to walk with you. 💙

And, if you haven’t joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you're going through.

When your story begins in loss, can it still lead to hope? 💛

What does it look like to let God rewrite your story of abandonment, identity, and belonging?

Hi Neighbor,

Sometimes the most powerful stories of faith begin in the hardest places. That’s true for my guest, Ayden Lincoln, an adoption advocate, author, and adult adoptee who was found abandoned in a shoebox in China and adopted into a family from Pennsylvania.

Her journey from loss to purpose is one of resilience, redemption, and grace. In our conversation, Ayden shares how she’s learning to make peace with her beginnings while helping others find healing in theirs.

Together, we talk about: ✨ The courage to face the pain of your story 💪 What it means to belong when your past feels broken 🌱 How faith can turn grief into growth

Ayden reminds us that healing doesn’t mean forgetting where we came from—it means trusting God to bring beauty from what was once broken. 🙏

If you’ve ever questioned your place in the story, Ayden’s words will remind you that you are not forgotten—and that your beginning does not define your becoming. 💙

Anchors of Hope and Healing are on the way.

Your Neighbor, Tim 💙

P.S. If you haven’t joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you're going through.

Connect with Ayden: Website Instagram Facebook Twitter (X)

Are you in a season that feels more like survival than hope?

What if healing doesn’t look like getting through it but learning to meet God in it? 🌿

Hearing God’s voice isn’t always easy, especially when life feels heavy and faith feels quiet. 💔

Hi Neighbor,

In this heartfelt conversation, Jenny Fulford shares how God met her in a season of silence and loss, and how journaling became the tool that helped her listen again. ✍️

Out of that quiet, Laurent Paper Company was born — a faith-based stationery brand designed to help others slow down, notice God’s presence, and respond with hope.

Jenny’s story reminds us that healing doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time, honesty, and the courage to show up with what’s real. 💛

Through her experience, she offers a gentle way forward for anyone who’s ever wondered why their faith doesn’t feel as strong as it once did.

Together, we talk about: ✨ The power of journaling as a spiritual practice 🌤️ How to make space to hear God’s voice in everyday life 🌱 Why our struggles often become the soil where faith grows

And we find comfort in the promise of Isaiah 40:28–31 — “that those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength and rise again.” 🦅

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing everything right and still can’t hear God, this episode will remind you that He’s not distant. He’s speaking right where you are. 🙏

Anchors of hope and healing are waiting.

Your Neighbor, Tim 💙

P.S. If you’ve ever felt lost trying to connect Scripture with the realities of adoption trauma, I’d love to walk alongside you. I’m opening a few free spots for one-on-one conversations where we can talk through practical tools and Biblical encouragement for your journey.

👉 Send me an email at tim@anchorsofencouragement.com to grab your spot. I’d be honored to walk with you. 💙

If you haven’t joined our private community, consider this an invitation. It’s a safe space to share your struggles and triumphs with fellow adoptive parents who truly understand what you're going through.

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