88. Confessions need Solutions.... Check for underlying feelings.

Nkiru the Love Guru comes to bring you advice and affirmations to help you through your journey of healing. We will talk about issues that heal the inner child, the wounded teenager and the anxious/avoidant adult. We dive deeper into understanding concepts on how to work through the potential trauma that could have existed due to the abandonment and misunderstanding of these three. Nkiru confesses her shortcomings and look for active ways to fix the issues that we all deal with in this life. After taking accountability and confessing our problems, we must then take the accountability to do the work to remedy the issues discovered. We lean on the bible for encouragement and to see what it says about our issues. Together we hope these small steps will help cultivate active solutions to the problems we are overcoming.

This month's lesson plan topic: Emotional Awareness & Regulation

The inner child: Often, your inner child is activated when you feel neglected, unloved, or misunderstood, which can trigger feelings like sadness, fear, or anger. Take note of situations where these emotions feel amplified or irrational.

The wounded teenager: Teen years often come with experiences of rejection, criticism, or unmet expectations. If you feel defensive or reactive, ask yourself, “Is this about the present, or is this a past wound being triggered?”

The anxious/avoidant adult: Anxious-avoidant individuals may struggle between wanting closeness and fearing it. When you feel conflicted in relationships, it’s helpful to ask yourself: "Is this fear based on a past experience where I felt abandoned or smothered?"

Today's Affirmation: I am aware of my emotions and allow myself to explore the deeper feelings behind them with compassion and curiosity.

I recognize that my emotions are messages, and I take time to listen to what they are trying to tell me.

I trust myself to understand the underlying causes of my emotions and respond to them with patience and self-care.

Today's Question: What might this emotion be trying to protect me from, and how can I respond to it with compassion rather than reaction? Are there past experiences or unmet needs that are influencing how I feel in this moment, and how can I address them with care?

Scripture Recap: Proverbs 4:23, Psalms 139:23-24, Jeremiah 17:9-10, Matthew 12:34, James 1:19-20, Proverbs 23:7 and Romans 12:2