• The Science of Self Talk: How to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence and Stop Getting in Your Own Way

  • Positive Psychology Coaching Series, Book 18
  • By: Ian Tuhovsky
  • Narrated by: Randy Streu
  • Length: 1 hr and 37 mins
  • Unabridged Audiobook
  • Categories: Health & Wellness, Psychology & Mental Health
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (163 ratings)
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Publisher's Summary

Talking to ourselves - and learning to listen

We all speak to ourselves on a daily basis. Whether it’s out loud or an internal (or infernal) commentary, we all practice self-talk, and how we speak to ourselves can have a significant effect on our emotions and subsequent actions.

Some people’s self-talk is mostly about the future while, for others, it’s an internal dialogue about the past. Some self-talk is positive and upbeat, while other self-talk is harsh, critical, or defeatist. Self-talk can focus on other people, but, more often than not, it is about ourselves - and is often negative.

If you listen carefully, you’ll notice that your inner conversation reflects thoughts and emotions. Self-talk isn’t random. It exhibits patterns that repeat themselves. And everyone has their own characteristic self-talk that is uniquely theirs.

In The Science of Self Talk, mindfulness expert Ian Tuhovsky explains how we can rewrite the script when it comes to our internal communication. Through a series of simple exercises for use in daily life, you can understand your own self-talk in order to change the conversation.

This unique book covers:

  • Constructive self-talk and dysfunctional self-talk - and knowing the difference
  • The impact of negative self-talk
  • Learned helplessness
  • Positive self-talk - challenge or threat?
  • The Pareto Principle which says that, for many events, roughly 80 percent of the effects come from 20 percent of the causes
  • Creating the right circumstances for motivation
  • Getting to know yourself
  • Loving yourself - emotional intelligence
  • Turning down the volume on your self-talk

Self-talk is a little like turning on the director’s commentary on a movie. You can simply watch the movie, or you can add in commentary about what’s happening in it - this is, in a nutshell, what most of us do in our daily lives. The Science of Self Talk can help you to rewrite the script of your movie and improve the way that you - and others - see yourself.

©2018 Ian Tuhovsky (P)2018 Ian Tuhovsky

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I enjoyed this audiobook. The writing was easy to follow and the narrator presented that well. Useful tactics. Cheers!

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Best book on the subject.

This is book is anything but difficult to tune in and gives incredible data from a writer who hear what he's saying. He has understanding that can help anybody - from those requiring a ton of direction to somebody who has confidence however simply needs a little update. He has been there and offers his supportive insight with sympathy.

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like this book.

I loved how straightforward the education was & also appreciated the fact that it's actionable - there are tips throughout the book how to how to recognize & reframe your self talk to make it more productive. Overall would highly recommend!

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Very helpful

I really enjoyed the straightforward wisdom in this book and the scientific examples to back it up. I know someone who struggles with depression and we listened to it together. Thank you.

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Great for Everyone!

Great. directly To the point which is incredible. Heaps of good information and understanding on the best way to think all the more decidedly.

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This is a very easy and clear book

The data in this book is straightforward thus edifying. It's assisted me with building up my regular mending capacities. I am currently on an excursion to be a self trained gem/reiki healer. I actually have such a long way to go, however subsequent to feeling so overpowered with all the data on the web, I feel sure about my scholarly information to now help other people.

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Just amazing!!!

I just completed the process of tuning in to this. I intend to put the exorcize s to rehearse. Gradually making them an every day propensity. I have been doing a couple before even listenig to this. Our brains are an integral asset. Be cautious what you permit in.

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Good Overview of Subject Matter

I have done a lot of research in this area lately. I feel the book was a digestible summary of the basic concepts for someone who has not thought about negative self talk much. I liked the suggestion to think of your inner thoughts as some type of "Crazy Uncle Joe." That kind of helped me re-frame the voice and not take it so seriously. The book is a good starter pack for an average interested reader.

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The best book ever. Knowledgeable straight forward and very easy to understand

This book is incredible...I started feeling better just by listening to the content...I keep listening the book several times after the first day even repeated the characters. I would recommend purchasing this book!!! Best ever. Straight forward and simple ideas.

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This helped my negative thinking so much.

The part about labelling negative dialogue and family members was great. A great read. Straight to the point. Relatable and honest.

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  • 01-19-21

Awesome Book

Quite straightforward. with down to earth models and some short self-reflection works out. Energetically suggested.

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  • 01-19-21

Fantastic

Learning this is extraordinary. Follow the basic day by day comments to yourself and rehash them and these will turn into your new projects for a more full and important life.

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  • Zara Knight
  • 01-19-21

A must listen!

Sweet, very self aware now and I loved it! Highly recommend! I recommend it in audible version so you can listen on your way to work etc....

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  • Riley Page
  • 01-18-21

Very Much Needed

The book is truly incredible, every section has an activity toward the end that truly assisted me with getting myself and help shut my inward negative voice that put me as the day progressed. I am currently somewhat more quiet and somewhat more joyful

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  • 01-17-21

Very helpful guide!

I appreciated perusing this day by day. It demonstrated to reinforce the positive mental perspective I wish to dominate. Worth perusing for 2021.

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  • Isobel Walters
  • 01-17-21

Very insightful!

Great book to tune in the event that you question yourself to an extreme. Great tips to utilize and they work. This will be utilized for my own reference when I question myself.

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  • Sam Craig
  • 01-16-21

This is a very useful and informative book.

Omg thank you such a huge amount for composing such an extraordinary book. I've been having positive self talk the entire day.. It gives me more space in my tremendous head haha..

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  • 01-16-21

Definitely recommend it.

Incredible substance, exceptionally supportive, well however out, down to earth excercises that have been demonstrated to work over the long haul. Step by step approach

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  • Anthony Anderson
  • 01-15-21

So glad I purchased

This is instructive and supportive for improving your attitude toward yourself and life. I discover the data straightforward and utilize and have fused this into my day by day life.

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  • 01-15-21

Its great

The Science of Self Talk: How to Train Your Brain to Turn Negative Thinking Into Positive Thinking and Practice Self Love By Ian Tuhovsky was a decent perused. It is a decent method to prepare your cerebrum against negative self talk and beginning positive self talk.

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  • 05-10-19

A must read


It's an easy, short read and if you get the audible version, the narrator is one of the best I've heard. If you're going through depression and/or anxiety and the little voice inside your heard is running your life, this book really makes you aware of your bad habits. Already I've started to break the patterns.

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  • 04-23-21

Food for thought!

Gave me something to talk to myself about over coffee "on my own of course"

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  • 02-07-20

helpful

lots of self-help stuff has too much BS for me. This book is straightforward and practical without too much bunk.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 06-04-19

Wow! Fantastic!

I have just listened to this book in one sitting. I followed all of the suggested exercises and plan to do them again and again with greater depth.

I have always thought that it would be impossible to rewrite my negative self-talk and now I am extremely inspired and feeling a lot more positive and confident, that it can be done.

This book offered great examples which would relate to everyone in some way, with practical ideas on how to change your thinking and become the better version of yourself, which you deserve. Thank you!

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 04-13-19

Loved this...

I enjoyed this...It's up there with Joseph Murray's book about the same topic.
I shared this with a good friend...