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What is the boy crisis?

It's a crisis of education. For the first time in American history, our sons will have less education than their dads.

It's a crisis of mental health. As boys become young men, their suicide rates go from equal to girls to six times that of young women.

It's a crisis of sexuality. Sex is a minefield for our sons. They're bombarded with mixed messages, afraid of being either too sensitive or not sensitive enough.

It's a crisis of fathering. Boys with less-involved fathers are more likely to drop out of school, drink, do drugs, become delinquent, and end up in prison.

It's a crisis of purpose. Boys' old senses of purposes, being a warrior, a leader, or a sole breadwinner, are fading. Many bright boys are experiencing a "purpose void", feeling alienated, withdrawn, and addicted to immediate gratification. Compounding this issue are addicting video games that lead to distraction and ADHD.

So, what is The Boy Crisis? A comprehensive blueprint for what parents, teachers, and policy-makers can do to renew our sons' sense of purpose to help them become men, fathers, and leaders worthy of our respect.

PLEASE NOTE: When you purchase this title, the accompanying reference material will be available in your Library section along with the audio.

©2018 Warren Farrell and John Gray (P)2018 Blackstone Audio, Inc.

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Healed a Deep Wound with my Daughter

Would you listen to The Boy Crisis again? Why?

Yes, as it The Boy Crisis does a great job of describing what the boy crisis is, and how it has become one of the greatest hidden secrets of our time. It explains that this is a crisis of Education, Mental Health, Fathering, and a lack of Purpose.

This book is priceless. I believe that if it were available during my marriage, I would have my daughter in my life today.

Who was your favorite character and why?

The stories about the young men that carried out the school shootings.

Was there a moment in the book that particularly moved you?

There were too many to list as the book is filled with data and insights that describe what the Boy Crisis is and what needs to be done to address the serious issues facing them.

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This book enabled me to heel years of deep sadness and hurt. Written about the boy crisis, it is just as relevant to a girl crisis. As a father who saw his teenage daughter grow up fatherless due to divorce, I am so very grateful for Warren’s immense amount of research and reference to numerous studies that helped me to understand the causes and the impact of children losing a parent. If you are a fatherless child or a parent of a fatherless child, be prepared to feel sadness, anger, and even shed some tears, but don’t stop reading. By the end, it is possible that you can heal a wound that has affected your entire life.

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This is the reason men are going their own way

It is a book that everyone should be aware of. We as a society need to cure the issues in men, not cure the symptoms.

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Excellent Discussion of a Critical Topic

I’ll begin with a caveat: this review applies only to the portion of this book written by Warren Farrell. For more on John Gray’s (thankfully) small section of the book, see the final paragraph.

The Boy Crisis is an incredibly thoughtful book written by a man who has been actively working to improve the lives of every member of our society for decades. His more recent focus on the gender specific problems of men and boys came about because of the great need of men and boys for advocacy, advocacy at the level seen with certain women’s groups. I say certain to underline that some women’s groups view the denigration of men as equivalent to the elevation of women. The author is well aware of this trend of portraying men negatively and unfairly, but not once does he allow resentment or bitterness to slip into his discussion. Rather, Farrell’s equanimity and grace give further clout to his message. This is not about men vs. women. It is about men and women helping each other find better lives for themselves and their children.

Farrell brings to light the huge, but largely ignored, struggles that men and boys face in our society today. From the societal expectation that, “As a male, I am disposable,” to the terrible dilemma that fathers face where showing love by providing at work (as is expected of him by family and society) paradoxically alienates him from the family that gives his life meaning. Farrell also ties in, with a poignant story from his own life, the blatant discrimination against fathers in family and divorce court. This discrimination is also seen in the ACA legislation, in federal committees, and in popular media.

This book personally resonated with me. It gave voice to so many social injustices that face men and boys today. It also underlines, with statistics and stories of actual sufferers, how society today doesn’t seem to care about those injustices. Indeed, how does the “wage gap” still get so much attention when the “workplace death gap” and the “suicide gap” receive none?

The book gives a message of hope, however. Discussion of the importance of fatherhood, and of fathers, to our society leaves the reader with a renewed sense of purpose. Farrell also outlines strategies for fixing The Boy Crisis that extend to the personal, the familial, and the political. Overall, Warren Farrell’s “The Boy Crisis” is a fascinating, moving read, and I think everyone, both men and women, should give his ideas some real consideration.

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John Gray’s section on ADHD is less about the scientific evidence regarding ADHD, its causes, and its viable treatment options, and more about the presentation of data in a misleading way in order to support Gray’s narrative. John Gray’s section reads like a scaremongering tabloid, it detracts from the important social issues of The Boy Crisis, and could cause parents to seek medically unsound options for their children. Note that Gray is an author and a family/marriage counselor. He has NO formal pharmacological or medical training. His section of this otherwise well written, well researched book should be taken with a lump of salt, or disregarded entirely. Take your child to a certified medical doctor if you are worried about your child’s health.

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great writing and performance by Warren Farrel

I really enjoyed Dr Farrells writings and findings on how children, boys especially need their fathers to help them overcome the traps of modern society and avoid livingmeaning deprived lives. He is ofcourse very liberal and that seeps through his writing but i only found myself screaming at the car radio a couple of times while listening to this book.
John Gray's part of the book should be separated into a different book called 'John Gray kills your fun' or 'Stop having so much fun!' by John Gray.
If this book had only the part read by dr Farrell i would have given it 5 stars.

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Everyone needs to read this book!

I have long talked about a sense that men were looked upon as lesser beings in today’s world. The much needed women’s liberation movement has now swung the pendulum out of balance the other way. Today’s men struggle with a purpose void. Our boys are at a disadvantage, and they need their fathers! When our boys suffer, so do our girls. Not to mention the current epidemic of suicide. William Farrell and John Gray articulate the problem and the solution so well!

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From a dad-deprived 65 year old

Wonderful book! Well-researched, well-annotated and very timely. Helped me understand myself and how to help myself, my children, and my grandchildren.

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Much needed.

I'm saddened to hear the struggles of boys and men today yet there is not much done.

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Perceptive Past, Prognosis, and Prescription

It was just the other day on social media where I was advocating on behalf of my two daughters and jokingly said, "I'm not worried about my boys... I just have to feed them, get them to practice, and keep them from knocking girls up." Then this book slapped me in my face, followed by an uppercut, and finished with a devastating squirrel tap to my manhood. I - like most everyone else for the past forty years - have so genuinely cared about the future of our girls, that we forgot about our boys. How wrong I was, and Farrell and Gray (of, Men are From Mars..., infamy) had no problem providing the evidence and the cure; but will we listen.

After the introduction and first two chapters, I was already recommending this book to my brother and his wife who just had a son, my wife, my parents who already have raised three kids, my in-laws who have already raised five (with one possible "failure to launch"), my friends, my Soldiers, my neighbors, parents on my kids' sports teams, random strangers, anyone who'll listen, etc.. Then, throughout the rest of the book, I couldn't stop talking about it and the revelations within.

This is one of my most valued books in my audible library (378 books with nearly 20% on psychology) and I'll listen to it over and over. I'm also purchasing the kindle version as well as a physical copy for referencing. I normally listen at 3x speed and had no issues with this narration; both authors narrate.

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Such An Important Message to Parents!

Thank you, Warren Farrell! So little attention is given to such an crucial topic. By all measures, the plight of our boys and the men they become should be drawing far more attention. Understanding Dad-deprivation, purpose voids, and the toxic messaging of social bribes we offer our boys is something all parents (Dads especially) should be aware of.

This is a must read if you have young boys or are planning to have kids in the future.

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  • 08-07-18

Thought Provoking Book for New Father

As a new father, this book was extremely interesting and will result in tangible changes in the way I plan to raise my son.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-03-18

Great book, very intense and emotional at times.

This should be a must read for every person in government and the legal system. It is time for society to open their eyes to the problems faced by boys in today's society. Let's stop listening to feminist lies about toxic masculinity and tackle the real problem of fatherlessness.

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  • Sally Cornish
  • 06-25-18

Can't recommend it enough!!

One book I know will be re reading. I was pleasantly surprised by the wealth of information in the 2nd part on ADHD. Both co authors are easy to listen to and have their own way of exploring this subject.

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  • Britpop
  • 03-28-18

Great antidote to the entitled female narrative

For men everywhere (and the men in your lives if you’re female).

Factual, data driven and fabulously informed insights to counter the current vogue for men bashing and labelling any male behaviour as toxic masculinity when it doesn’t fit a feminism doctrine.

Hopefully opens societal eyes to the hidden challenges men and boys face in today’s world... if of course anyone actually cares to be informed or accept that men are not all privileged and toxic.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 10-03-18

essential reading for all parents

A brilliant piece of work. Insightfull and professional. Helped & Improved my understanding of myself and how important it is to be an attentive father and essential role model. Do the world a favour, absorb the teachings of this book and raise your son to be prepared for our new world.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-01-18

Great guide to being a male in today's society

What an excellent book a must read for any guy and girl out there looking to become part of the change for society

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  • Anonymous User
  • 07-05-18

its to stories in one. physical and mental...

twonstories brought together in one book. I really enjoyed it, and so many new things I never thought about in this way before. Thank you for a great book!