• The Art of Reading People: How to Deal with Toxic People and Manipulation to Avoid (or End) an Abusive Relation

  • Positive Psychology Coaching Series, Book 19
  • By: Ian Tuhovsky
  • Narrated by: Randy Streu
  • Length: 3 hrs and 30 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (75 ratings)

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The Art of Reading People: How to Deal with Toxic People and Manipulation to Avoid (or End) an Abusive Relation

By: Ian Tuhovsky
Narrated by: Randy Streu
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Publisher's Summary

Open and honest or a closed book? Ian Tuhovsky explores the art of reading people.

How many times have you assumed that you knew somebody and what they were about, only to be completely blindsided when they behave in a way that contradicts everything you thought you knew?

Reading between the lines

We often think we have a fair amount of ability in reading people until the moment when we’re proven wrong.

Chances are that you’ve heard the phrase, "I read you like a book" which indicates that somebody has understood another’s thought processes to the point that they’re able to predict what that person might do next.

Known as social intelligence, we like to kid ourselves that we are reading people when, in effect, we are mostly just guessing. In fact, for most people, "reading people" is really just thinly disguised empathy where they are projecting their own feelings and thoughts onto the situation and reading it accordingly.

Reading you loud and clear

Without the superpowers of a mind-reader, many of us suffer the consequences of ineffectual people reading throughout our lives. Through a number of exercises and tutorial content, you'll find how to more effectively identify and interpret the behavior of others in order to more fully understand their motivations and intentions.

What you'll learn:

  • How to identify manipulative and toxic personalities - and the four personality types we should be aware of; those who are good and good for us, those who are good but bad for us, those who are bad but good for us and, those who are bad and bad for us
  • The dangers of simplistic labelling such as "good" and "bad"
  • Differentiating between subjective and objective "goodness"
  • How to identify the ways you are being manipulated by others without being aware of it
  • How to read your relationships with others in order to understand your role in them

A must-listen for those who constantly find themselves being let down or manipulated by others.

©2019 Ian Tuhovsky (P)2019 Ian Tuhovsky

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Very informative, great listen

I found this book went over several familiar topics, but put things into a different perspective. It was helpful to learn how to see people- based off of what they are trying to achieve by their actions, as opposed to just calling people "good" or "bad" simply because we like them, or not. thanks very much for helping me to see people more objectively, so I can better protect myself!!

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Highly recommend. Teaches us how to recognize bad.

One of the best most informative books. I couldn't stop listening. Would have liked two more hours.

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Great Resource

I loved your straight forward yet encouraging approach...I'm taking time for me..guilt free.
I wish a resource like this was available before I lived the drama and trauma of being too trusting. I loved your book..

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Eye Opener

First time listening to this author and narrator, both did great I have no problem listening to this author or narrator. The narrator has a perfect voice for this genre.

Great book for self help on how to avoid toxic people, a eye opener for sure.

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Love this one

This book is astounding! I love it. I'm additionally in treatment as well so we examine it and I make notes while understanding it, I simply love it! Suggest it enough!

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Helpful and Extremely Clear!

This book is a must-audio for anyone who is an HSP as it explains the why of your intense emotions and the how of being manipulated by others occurs because of it.

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Nicely done!

It has a great deal of data and activities on how to deal with toxic people. It even gives assets toward the finish of the book. Lovely!!

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Good and bad

I approached this book hoping for more tools, tactics & strategies for dealing with manipulative and destructive people.
The section on detecting lying was good.
The time spent on various kinds of mental, psychological and emotional disorders was not very helpful and seemed like a research tangent gone wild.
Overall worth it but could be improved.

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How to detect and avoid toxic people

The book goes into great detail on how to deal with and detect people who can impede your way to a happy and healthy life. By enabling people on how to avoid the toxicity in life, life can be much, much happier.

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Great book

I liked this book. It helped me to start reading people around me. Thank you!

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  • Kevin Walker
  • 09-16-19

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The book gave me a lot to think about and cleared alot of mist from my eyes and to see clearly who was a bad guy.
Would be happy to recommend this book to everybody and anybody that is in this situation

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  • 06-23-21

Loved it!

Very informative and at the same time concise and interesting! Good for everyone who would like to analyze behavior patterns of people around them and their own.

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  • Håvard
  • 11-01-20

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Really inspiring and useful. We should all be more conscious about the people we deal with

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  • mark griffiths
  • 08-23-20

Good therapy when you need it most.

I have listened to this a few times to get this into my head. When you are up against it nothing sinks in. This was different though. Straight forward and effective.

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  • Julie Wright
  • 05-05-20

Excellent!

Really opened my eyes to how socially inept I am. I need to act on warning signs instead of assuming everyone is good. No longer am I going to use my time on someone who shows a lack of empathy and is judgemental. I’m out of there. Lots to listen to in this book so I will be listening again as I think I can move forward now and sniff out a bad guy with the help of Ian. Cheers

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  • Pedro P.
  • 12-10-19

impressively good

loved the book, easy going but on point . well done to the author, will look for other books from him

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  • Jacqueline
  • 07-05-19

Insightful

This book is amazing I have been in a difficult relationship for several years which slowly eroded my self esteem and belief in myself . I recognize through reading this book that I was gas lighted and that I have put up with bad guy behavior. This destroyed my confidence and I belief in myself I have suffered symptoms of PSTD and pathological ulturismn- it’s a must read for anybody who has been in an abusive relationship of any kind . Good luck and thank you Ian